I wish parents could be more supportive and less desperate

[Anonymous]

The very first thing we need in our society and nation is fair and transparent system.

Then we can talk about other stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This board is full of toxic tiger moms pushing their kids into finance and CS. And kids from college confidential trolling. It’s a train wreck of toxicity and makes me hate our shallow, vapid, greedy, materialistic culture.

Agree. I see it as the parents’ insecurity driving the insanity. Believe in your kids! I raised my kids to have the skills they will need to succeed in the world (and those are not skills you learn in Kumon or a cram class). One of my kids is a junior at a very good college and can already see how her soft skills are paying off in research and internships. The other is a HS senior and has chosen a school that is often denigrated on here because it was the right fit (turned down higher ranking schools). That child will be unstoppable because she has EQ off the charts.

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Anonymous wrote:The very first thing we need in our society and nation is fair and transparent system.

Then we can talk about other stuff.

What does “fair and transparent” mean to you? Let me guess, test scores because you are the parent of a high scorer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The very first thing we need in our society and nation is fair and transparent system.

Then we can talk about other stuff.

What does “fair and transparent” mean to you? Let me guess, test scores because you are the parent of a high scorer.

Yes test score should be part of it.
It's the most objective and fair measure.

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Anonymous wrote:big part of it is due to the unfair and fukced up system

That's because you view college as the destination instead of part of the journey. There are many paths to a successful life and going to a T20 school doesn't guaranty any particular outcome.

No you are assuming too much.
You view the unfair and fuked up system is ok.
That's fine.

It’s unfair, but definitely not to you.

Again you assume too much.

Let me rephrase that: it’s very unfair to kids from SE DC or from rural West Virginia.

Does that fit you?

Don't they get bump up and advantage??

I don't get any advantage.

We are from SE, DC. And I don't mean Capitol Hill, we are east of the river. What is this bump up and advantage? I'm out of the loop.

The person mentioned SE, DC meant low income Blacks.
If you are, you get bonus points in college admissions

Oh yeah. All of those sharp elbowed kids from Anacostia.

(I mean the ones who manage to avoid getting shot by the time they reach 18.)

Hogging all of the slots at Princeton and such.

After you spent ALL of that money on consultants, test prep, and expensive club sports.

I literally overhead a kid on the DC Streetcar yesterday. He was Facetiming a family friend with pride to let them know that he had gotten accepted into Prince George's community college.

According to College Factual, that school's six year graduation rate is 9%.

You people need to get out of your bubble from time to time.

You really do.

If the community has a problem, they need to fix the community.
They need to fix the source of the problem rather than giving them free points.

What’s do you think the “source of the problem” is? I’m very curious.

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Anonymous wrote:big part of it is due to the unfair and fukced up system

That's because you view college as the destination instead of part of the journey. There are many paths to a successful life and going to a T20 school doesn't guaranty any particular outcome.

No you are assuming too much.
You view the unfair and fuked up system is ok.
That's fine.

It’s unfair, but definitely not to you.

Again you assume too much.

Let me rephrase that: it’s very unfair to kids from SE DC or from rural West Virginia.

Does that fit you?

Don't they get bump up and advantage??

I don't get any advantage.

We are from SE, DC. And I don't mean Capitol Hill, we are east of the river. What is this bump up and advantage? I'm out of the loop.

The person mentioned SE, DC meant low income Blacks.
If you are, you get bonus points in college admissions

Oh yeah. All of those sharp elbowed kids from Anacostia.

(I mean the ones who manage to avoid getting shot by the time they reach 18.)

Hogging all of the slots at Princeton and such.

After you spent ALL of that money on consultants, test prep, and expensive club sports.

I literally overhead a kid on the DC Streetcar yesterday. He was Facetiming a family friend with pride to let them know that he had gotten accepted into Prince George's community college.

According to College Factual, that school's six year graduation rate is 9%.

You people need to get out of your bubble from time to time.

You really do.

If the community has a problem, they need to fix the community.
They need to fix the source of the problem rather than giving them free points.

What’s do you think the “source of the problem” is? I’m very curious.

I don't run that city.
It's the mayor and governor's job.

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Anonymous wrote:big part of it is due to the unfair and fukced up system

That's because you view college as the destination instead of part of the journey. There are many paths to a successful life and going to a T20 school doesn't guaranty any particular outcome.

No you are assuming too much.
You view the unfair and fuked up system is ok.
That's fine.

It’s unfair, but definitely not to you.

Again you assume too much.

Let me rephrase that: it’s very unfair to kids from SE DC or from rural West Virginia.

Does that fit you?

Don't they get bump up and advantage??

I don't get any advantage.

We are from SE, DC. And I don't mean Capitol Hill, we are east of the river. What is this bump up and advantage? I'm out of the loop.

The person mentioned SE, DC meant low income Blacks.
If you are, you get bonus points in college admissions

Oh yeah. All of those sharp elbowed kids from Anacostia.

(I mean the ones who manage to avoid getting shot by the time they reach 18.)

Hogging all of the slots at Princeton and such.

After you spent ALL of that money on consultants, test prep, and expensive club sports.

I literally overhead a kid on the DC Streetcar yesterday. He was Facetiming a family friend with pride to let them know that he had gotten accepted into Prince George's community college.

According to College Factual, that school's six year graduation rate is 9%.

You people need to get out of your bubble from time to time.

You really do.

If the community has a problem, they need to fix the community.
They need to fix the source of the problem rather than giving them free points.

Kids are not to be punished for their parents’ actions.

You’re free to move wherever you choose.

[Anonymous]

I think you mean you wish parents in this area could be that way. They are in most of the rest of the country.

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Anonymous wrote:The very first thing we need in our society and nation is fair and transparent system.

Then we can talk about other stuff.

What does “fair and transparent” mean to you? Let me guess, test scores because you are the parent of a high scorer.

Yes test score should be part of it.
It's the most objective and fair measure.

And what else? How would you design it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you mean you wish parents in this area could be that way. They are in most of the rest of the country.

There are several other parts of the country where parents are like this. Of hand, I k pw of: NYC, San Francisco, LA and Chicago. Heck, I have a friend in Eugene, OR who reports the same issues.

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Anonymous wrote:big part of it is due to the unfair and fukced up system

That's because you view college as the destination instead of part of the journey. There are many paths to a successful life and going to a T20 school doesn't guaranty any particular outcome.

No you are assuming too much.
You view the unfair and fuked up system is ok.
That's fine.

It’s unfair, but definitely not to you.

Again you assume too much.

Let me rephrase that: it’s very unfair to kids from SE DC or from rural West Virginia.

Does that fit you?

Don't they get bump up and advantage??

I don't get any advantage.

We are from SE, DC. And I don't mean Capitol Hill, we are east of the river. What is this bump up and advantage? I'm out of the loop.

The person mentioned SE, DC meant low income Blacks.
If you are, you get bonus points in college admissions

Oh yeah. All of those sharp elbowed kids from Anacostia.

(I mean the ones who manage to avoid getting shot by the time they reach 18.)

Hogging all of the slots at Princeton and such.

After you spent ALL of that money on consultants, test prep, and expensive club sports.

I literally overhead a kid on the DC Streetcar yesterday. He was Facetiming a family friend with pride to let them know that he had gotten accepted into Prince George's community college.

According to College Factual, that school's six year graduation rate is 9%.

You people need to get out of your bubble from time to time.

You really do.

If the community has a problem, they need to fix the community.
They need to fix the source of the problem rather than giving them free points.

What’s do you think the “source of the problem” is? I’m very curious.

I don't run that city.
It's the mayor and governor's job.

In other words, you have no idea what the issues are and don’t really care. You just don’t want “those kids” taking your kid’s spot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's both hilarious and very sad that a thread that started off wishing for a kinder, gentler approach has devolved into people sniping at each other. Sheesh!

It's this area. But, you don't have to be in the rat race if you don't want to.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you mean you wish parents in this area could be that way. They are in most of the rest of the country.

There are several other parts of the country where parents are like this. Of hand, I k pw of: NYC, San Francisco, LA and Chicago. Heck, I have a friend in Eugene, OR who reports the same issues.

You just named a bunch of wealthy cities.

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Anonymous wrote:The very first thing we need in our society and nation is fair and transparent system.

Then we can talk about other stuff.

What does “fair and transparent” mean to you? Let me guess, test scores because you are the parent of a high scorer.

Yes test score should be part of it.
It's the most objective and fair measure.

And what else? How would you design it?

40% GPA(including rigor, etc. + 40% Tests + 20% extra stuff essay, awards(real ones), activity, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you mean you wish parents in this area could be that way. They are in most of the rest of the country.

There are several other parts of the country where parents are like this. Of hand, I k pw of: NYC, San Francisco, LA and Chicago. Heck, I have a friend in Eugene, OR who reports the same issues.

You just named a bunch of wealthy cities.

Yes. I think any wealthy city (I just happen to know folks in those) has the same type of driven parents. This is not solely a DMV issue, although we like to feel special.