Odd visit from DS GF dad

[Anonymous]

Again, if gf wasn't supposed to be over wouldn't dear old protective dad said "I am here to pick up gf" and left? Instead he lectured her about turning off location sharing at a stranger's home in their yard.

Of course OP is questioning this behavior, especially given he drove at a minimum an hour and a half on weeknight.

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Anonymous wrote:I am surprised how many people think 9:30 is late on a school night for older teenagers.
One son has a club that doesn’t even get out until 9 PM. His lacrosse practice is every other night until 7:30.
The other has tennis until 5 or 6, and meets friends at the gym and exercise from 6:30-8:30 PM
High schoolers have odd schedules, and 9:30 isn’t “late”.
(And yes, they have 3.8 GPAs - I know, low by DCUM standards but not bad for the rest of society). They get their homework done, and still have time for clubs, sports, and friends.

It's late enough for teen sex and teen pregnancy, is what we mean, PP. You should get this without us having to spell it out.
The later they hang out, the worse it gets.
This has nothing to do with evening activities. My 12 year old's orchestra gets out at 9pm. Not the same thing at all!

Thank you for clarifying that teen sex only happens after 9pm outside of school activities. Thank you for spelling this out for us. Your 12 year old will NOT be a team parent!!

I did not say that. I said it gets worse the later it is. And I'm right.

My 12 year old will probably not be a team parent, you are correct.

The time doesn't matter, the presence of parents does. It sounds like OP is present for these hang outs, so why the fixation with the time?

No, it doesn't.

She literally witnessed this incident and then comforted the gf at 7:30pm - she was home well before 9pm, which the parent of an orchestra teen has let us know is when teens start having sex.

We put our kids in orchestra and activities to keep them busy and out of houses like OP who don't care about activities, homework, etc. How does this HS student have that much time to spend all night hanging out?

Thats great. GFs dad doesn't have 50/50 custody - he doesn't share your priorities so stop trying to justify his weird behavior

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I would be weirded out by dad, too, OP.

If it were me I would ask her if she was ok.

I would probably also tell mom.

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Anonymous wrote:I am surprised how many people think 9:30 is late on a school night for older teenagers.
One son has a club that doesn’t even get out until 9 PM. His lacrosse practice is every other night until 7:30.
The other has tennis until 5 or 6, and meets friends at the gym and exercise from 6:30-8:30 PM
High schoolers have odd schedules, and 9:30 isn’t “late”.
(And yes, they have 3.8 GPAs - I know, low by DCUM standards but not bad for the rest of society). They get their homework done, and still have time for clubs, sports, and friends.

It's late enough for teen sex and teen pregnancy, is what we mean, PP. You should get this without us having to spell it out.
The later they hang out, the worse it gets.
This has nothing to do with evening activities. My 12 year old's orchestra gets out at 9pm. Not the same thing at all!

Thank you for clarifying that teen sex only happens after 9pm outside of school activities. Thank you for spelling this out for us. Your 12 year old will NOT be a team parent!!

I did not say that. I said it gets worse the later it is. And I'm right.

My 12 year old will probably not be a team parent, you are correct.

The time doesn't matter, the presence of parents does. It sounds like OP is present for these hang outs, so why the fixation with the time?

No, it doesn't.

She literally witnessed this incident and then comforted the gf at 7:30pm - she was home well before 9pm, which the parent of an orchestra teen has let us know is when teens start having sex.

We put our kids in orchestra and activities to keep them busy and out of houses like OP who don't care about activities, homework, etc. How does this HS student have that much time to spend all night hanging out?

Thats great. GFs dad doesn't have 50/50 custody - he doesn't share your priorities so stop trying to justify his weird behavior

If he has visits, and this was his visit time he has every right to say something and he may have shared custody and he is the father so he has every right to talk to her. If this girl is over OP house 2 school nights a week, when is she doing homework? OP is a lousy parent.

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Anonymous wrote:I am surprised how many people think 9:30 is late on a school night for older teenagers.
One son has a club that doesn’t even get out until 9 PM. His lacrosse practice is every other night until 7:30.
The other has tennis until 5 or 6, and meets friends at the gym and exercise from 6:30-8:30 PM
High schoolers have odd schedules, and 9:30 isn’t “late”.
(And yes, they have 3.8 GPAs - I know, low by DCUM standards but not bad for the rest of society). They get their homework done, and still have time for clubs, sports, and friends.

It's late enough for teen sex and teen pregnancy, is what we mean, PP. You should get this without us having to spell it out.
The later they hang out, the worse it gets.
This has nothing to do with evening activities. My 12 year old's orchestra gets out at 9pm. Not the same thing at all!

Thank you for clarifying that teen sex only happens after 9pm outside of school activities. Thank you for spelling this out for us. Your 12 year old will NOT be a team parent!!

I did not say that. I said it gets worse the later it is. And I'm right.

My 12 year old will probably not be a team parent, you are correct.

The time doesn't matter, the presence of parents does. It sounds like OP is present for these hang outs, so why the fixation with the time?

No, it doesn't.

She literally witnessed this incident and then comforted the gf at 7:30pm - she was home well before 9pm, which the parent of an orchestra teen has let us know is when teens start having sex.

We put our kids in orchestra and activities to keep them busy and out of houses like OP who don't care about activities, homework, etc. How does this HS student have that much time to spend all night hanging out?

Thats great. GFs dad doesn't have 50/50 custody - he doesn't share your priorities so stop trying to justify his weird behavior

If he has visits, and this was his visit time he has every right to say something and he may have shared custody and he is the father so he has every right to talk to her. If this girl is over OP house 2 school nights a week, when is she doing homework? OP is a lousy parent.

My son has straights As at the moment. Some kids manage their time just fine.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why wouldn't you have met him? He is her Father.

(I actually think letting her stay at your house till 9:30pm on school nights is pretty horrible.)

Horrible? Why?

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Anonymous wrote:I am surprised how many people think 9:30 is late on a school night for older teenagers.
One son has a club that doesn’t even get out until 9 PM. His lacrosse practice is every other night until 7:30.
The other has tennis until 5 or 6, and meets friends at the gym and exercise from 6:30-8:30 PM
High schoolers have odd schedules, and 9:30 isn’t “late”.
(And yes, they have 3.8 GPAs - I know, low by DCUM standards but not bad for the rest of society). They get their homework done, and still have time for clubs, sports, and friends.

It's late enough for teen sex and teen pregnancy, is what we mean, PP. You should get this without us having to spell it out.
The later they hang out, the worse it gets.
This has nothing to do with evening activities. My 12 year old's orchestra gets out at 9pm. Not the same thing at all!

Thank you for clarifying that teen sex only happens after 9pm outside of school activities. Thank you for spelling this out for us. Your 12 year old will NOT be a team parent!!

I did not say that. I said it gets worse the later it is. And I'm right.

My 12 year old will probably not be a team parent, you are correct.

The time doesn't matter, the presence of parents does. It sounds like OP is present for these hang outs, so why the fixation with the time?

No, it doesn't.

She literally witnessed this incident and then comforted the gf at 7:30pm - she was home well before 9pm, which the parent of an orchestra teen has let us know is when teens start having sex.

We put our kids in orchestra and activities to keep them busy and out of houses like OP who don't care about activities, homework, etc. How does this HS student have that much time to spend all night hanging out?

Orchestra kids are some of the wildest. See: band camp.

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What high schoolers have time for movies on week days? Call me old-fashioned, but with younger siblings in house (and even if not), I think it is rude to be at someone else’s home after 9pm. Rheres a true disconnect here. HS parents are complaining that their kids can’t get into their state’s flagship colleges, and here we are playing video games and watching movies during the week. Kids in this area (perhaps OP is t DMV) have homework, sports, extracurriculars, jobs, etc and don’t have this amount of free time during the week.

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Anonymous wrote:Again, if gf wasn't supposed to be over wouldn't dear old protective dad said "I am here to pick up gf" and left? Instead he lectured her about turning off location sharing at a stranger's home in their yard.

Of course OP is questioning this behavior, especially given he drove at a minimum an hour and a half on weeknight.

"on a weeknight?"
Not everyone works mon-fri 9-5 hours. Would you like hospital workers, police officers, restaurant servers, and store clerks judge where and how long you drive "on a Saturday afternoon?"

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why wouldn't you have met him? He is her Father.

(I actually think letting her stay at your house till 9:30pm on school nights is pretty horrible.)

“Horrible?” You’re absurd.

not OP

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Anonymous wrote:If my child turned off the locator app, I’d be looking for her. And I’d go to the places that I’d tracked her to before. I think you’re off base here.

He’s not the custodial parent. If he wants to find her, first choice should be contact her mom- not stalk.

+1,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you spoken to the parents? You may have rules for your home, but they have different rules and it sounds like she should not have been at your house.

Your reading comprehension is terrible.

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Anonymous wrote:If my child turned off the locator app, I’d be looking for her. And I’d go to the places that I’d tracked her to before. I think you’re off base here.

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Anonymous wrote:Your son and this girl have been dating for all of two months. You’re in no position to judge her father. You don’t know anything about the family dynamics. Mind your own friggin business.

He made it her frogging business when as the noncustodial parent he showed up at her house, while the ACTUAL custodial parents knew the daughter was there.

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Anonymous wrote:Your son and this girl have been dating for all of two months. You’re in no position to judge her father. You don’t know anything about the family dynamics. Mind your own friggin business.

He made it her frogging business when as the noncustodial parent he showed up at her house, while the ACTUAL custodial parents knew the daughter was there.

Ha. Apparently autocorrect doesn’t like “frigging.”