Odd visit from DS GF dad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If my child turned off the locator app, I’d be looking for her. And I’d go to the places that I’d tracked her to before. I think you’re off base here.

He could have called her mom. That’s who she lives with and who would presumably know where she is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If my child turned off the locator app, I’d be looking for her. And I’d go to the places that I’d tracked her to before. I think you’re off base here.

You shouldn't stalk your almost adult kid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If my child turned off the locator app, I’d be looking for her. And I’d go to the places that I’d tracked her to before. I think you’re off base here.

Yeah me too.

When will you allow your kids to turn off the app? The kid is 17 . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, why wouldn't you have met him? He is her Father.

(I actually think letting her stay at your house till 9:30pm on school nights is pretty horrible.)

Well, as her FATHER he should try and make a good impression - how about getting our details from her mom and making arrangements to stop by? That is what normal people do.
And considering sports / clubs/activities, 9:30 is very reasonable on a weeknight. He doesn’t get home until 5 or 6 most nights after tennis practice. It doesn’t sound like you have high schoolers and understand the schedules they have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If my child turned off the locator app, I’d be looking for her. And I’d go to the places that I’d tracked her to before. I think you’re off base here.

He’s not the custodial parent. If he wants to find her, first choice should be contact her mom- not stalk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If my child turned off the locator app, I’d be looking for her. And I’d go to the places that I’d tracked her to before. I think you’re off base here.

He’s not the custodial parent. If he wants to find her, first choice should be contact her mom- not stalk.

Exactly, I think this is the basis of OP's post. How come he is driving to some strangers house to confront his teen daughter instead of contacting his ex or her husband? Honestly OP, the more I think about it if it happens again I would def mention to the mom. There is something off with this man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's ducking her dad - he's not the one who is trouble.

I imagine there is a reason she rarely sees him. Divorce does this. I didn’t speak to my dad for 3 years after my parents divorced. It was an ugly divorce.
Anyway - this needs to be handled between mom/dad/daughter - not at a strangers house.

[Anonymous]

He lives 1+ hour away and rarely sees her but stalks her Ike this? Creepy.

[Anonymous]

Have you spoken to the parents? You may have rules for your home, but they have different rules and it sounds like she should not have been at your house.

[Anonymous]

Your son and this girl have been dating for all of two months. You’re in no position to judge her father. You don’t know anything about the family dynamics. Mind your own friggin business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why wouldn't you have met him? He is her Father.

(I actually think letting her stay at your house till 9:30pm on school nights is pretty horrible.)

Well, as her FATHER he should try and make a good impression - how about getting our details from her mom and making arrangements to stop by? That is what normal people do.
And considering sports / clubs/activities, 9:30 is very reasonable on a weeknight. He doesn’t get home until 5 or 6 most nights after tennis practice. It doesn’t sound like you have high schoolers and understand the schedules they have.

OP should not be having this girl at her home constantly and during the week. Maybe mom didn't agree and wanted to go to a stranger's house. My kids do not go to anyones house during the week. OP should be communicating with the child's parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you spoken to the parents? You may have rules for your home, but they have different rules and it sounds like she should not have been at your house.

Wouldn't stalker dad have said we are going home now vs letting her stay? This doesn't even seem like it was during his time with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If my child turned off the locator app, I’d be looking for her. And I’d go to the places that I’d tracked her to before. I think you’re off base here.

Yeah me too.

Whoa. This probably ought to be raised in a separate thread, but you track your teen’s’ whereabouts all the time?

Not those posters but yes, I do and they track me as well. If they don't want a tracker, they can pay for their own phone as its for my needs, not theirs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If my child turned off the locator app, I’d be looking for her. And I’d go to the places that I’d tracked her to before. I think you’re off base here.

Yeah me too.

When will you allow your kids to turn off the app? The kid is 17 . . .

Honestly 16 and 17 is the time to track when they are new drivers.

[Anonymous]

She will remember your grace and kindness later- good job OP! (a kid who had parents embarrass her often due to their mental issues).