Odd visit from DS GF dad

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds to me like their are issues with the mom and the steps if he is spending that much time at her boyfriend’s house. Doesn’t the mom want to see her ever? Is she trying to get away from bratty younger step siblings? I feel sort of bad for her but my guess is that there’s some disfunction on both sides of the divorce.

Yes, two to four nights at a boyfriend's house would not be allowed by my parents.

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Anonymous wrote:If my child turned off the locator app, I’d be looking for her. And I’d go to the places that I’d tracked her to before. I think you’re off base here.

Yeah me too.

When will you allow your kids to turn off the app? The kid is 17 . . .

Honestly 16 and 17 is the time to track when they are new drivers.

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Yup. That’s called parenting for the oblivious posters. NP.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she did something wrong, was ignoring his calls, so found her and talked to her. Don’t all teens get upset when they get in trouble.

Not sure why everyone is getting mad at the OP letting the girl visit until 9:30. It is not like she is holding the girl hostage. Her parents can make a different rule. My kid has tons of homework but I know lots of teens that do not.

Maybe the girlfriend’s dad has a problem with her new found after school hobby, and let her know

Hanging out until 9:30 at boyfriend’s (or any friend’s) house regularly during the week; loafing, watching movies,
playing video games wouldn’t be ok with me as a parent. That would mean what they aren’t doing is homework, studying, working a job, playing [b]sports

We get it. You’re uptight. That’s fine, but don’t expect others to feel.

No they care about the child’s academics and future.

Darling, my oldest is at a Top 20 college. My second is getting all As in AP classes. You are doing your kids no favors by being rigid and insane.

I wish I could tell this girl to run. You sound very aggressive and like the MIL from hell

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You've probably not been through a divorce or have custody issues or have a child who disappears and does not check in. I don't know what the GF dad's situation is and it's certainly weird he showed up at your house but I have seen so many crazy dads due to the situations above. They kind of lose their minds.
I would have some empathy towards the dad and the gf. Whatever is going on can't be easy for them.

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OP has been sock puppeting a bunch of responses on page 11.

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Anonymous wrote:I judge Op for having the girl at her house 9:30pm on a school night. And being so judgmental when she has no idea what the family dynamic or relationship is. Op, obviously wants to be cool mom above all else

Get a life.

Clever

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Anonymous wrote:I judge Op for having the girl at her house 9:30pm on a school night. And being so judgmental when she has no idea what the family dynamic or relationship is. Op, obviously wants to be cool mom above all else

Get a life.

Tell that to your son and his gf.

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Anonymous wrote:OP has been sock puppeting a bunch of responses on page 11.

"People have different opinions than I do! They must all ve the SAME person!! "

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she did something wrong, was ignoring his calls, so found her and talked to her. Don’t all teens get upset when they get in trouble.

Not sure why everyone is getting mad at the OP letting the girl visit until 9:30. It is not like she is holding the girl hostage. Her parents can make a different rule. My kid has tons of homework but I know lots of teens that do not.

Maybe the girlfriend’s dad has a problem with her new found after school hobby, and let her know

Hanging out until 9:30 at boyfriend’s (or any friend’s) house regularly during the week; loafing, watching movies,
playing video games wouldn’t be ok with me as a parent. That would mean what they aren’t doing is homework, studying, working a job, playing [b]sports

We get it. You’re uptight. That’s fine, but don’t expect others to feel.

No they care about the child’s academics and future.

Darling, my oldest is at a Top 20 college. My second is getting all As in AP classes. You are doing your kids no favors by being rigid and insane.

Sad you’d rather be a friend than parent.

Different poster here but being overly controlling of a 17 year old is more detrimental than allowing a child who's otherwise doing well to make decisions.
Many sporting events run until almost 9pm (especially track) and many teens have jobs that run until this time. That you feel the need to micromanage the time of a 17 year old shows you either did a lousy job up until 17, or you are suffering from anxiety. And everyone in your house is likely suffering from your anxiety as well.
Seek help.

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Anonymous wrote:OP has been sock puppeting a bunch of responses on page 11.

"People have different opinions than I do! They must all ve the SAME person!! "

Look, there’s OP again

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she did something wrong, was ignoring his calls, so found her and talked to her. Don’t all teens get upset when they get in trouble.

Not sure why everyone is getting mad at the OP letting the girl visit until 9:30. It is not like she is holding the girl hostage. Her parents can make a different rule. My kid has tons of homework but I know lots of teens that do not.

Maybe the girlfriend’s dad has a problem with her new found after school hobby, and let her know

Hanging out until 9:30 at boyfriend’s (or any friend’s) house regularly during the week; loafing, watching movies,
playing video games wouldn’t be ok with me as a parent. That would mean what they aren’t doing is homework, studying, working a job, playing [b]sports

We get it. You’re uptight. That’s fine, but don’t expect others to feel.

No they care about the child’s academics and future.

Darling, my oldest is at a Top 20 college. My second is getting all As in AP classes. You are doing your kids no favors by being rigid and insane.

Sad you’d rather be a friend than parent.

Different poster here but being overly controlling of a 17 year old is more detrimental than allowing a child who's otherwise doing well to make decisions.
Many sporting events run until almost 9pm (especially track) and many teens have jobs that run until this time. That you feel the need to micromanage the time of a 17 year old shows you either did a lousy job up until 17, or you are suffering from anxiety. And everyone in your house is likely suffering from your anxiety as well.
Seek help.

Doing sports or working a job until 9 is different feom watching movies with boyfriend several nights per week until 9-10

[Anonymous]

It is odd that she is over at your house so much OP, it does indicate there might be problems at her house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is odd that she is over at your house so much OP, it does indicate there might be problems at her house.

If that’s the case, it is kind of OP to welcome her. Much better than her dealing with it in unhealthy ways like cutting, partying, or hanging out with bored teenagers looking for adventure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You've probably not been through a divorce or have custody issues or have a child who disappears and does not check in. I don't know what the GF dad's situation is and it's certainly weird he showed up at your house but I have seen so many crazy dads due to the situations above. They kind of lose their minds.
I would have some empathy towards the dad and the gf. Whatever is going on can't be easy for them.

Plus one

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Anonymous wrote:OP has been sock puppeting a bunch of responses on page 11.

"People have different opinions than I do! They must all ve the SAME person!! "

Look, there’s OP again

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All the previous sock puppet in answers were defensive and stuff like get a life. Same time frame.