Seeing Married Men in Your Circle

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Suppose you are separated for 7 months. Eveyone in you and you exes circle knows. For years leading up to the sepration, you had 'chemistry' with two of the other husbands in your circle. Since separation flirting has increased noticeably.

I don't want another husband, but I would like an occasional affectionate partner. If it was kept purely physical and no emotions at all, (I guarantee I can do this) how feasibale is it for the next few months?

I just want some physical intimacy with men I 'know'. I have no interest in hook ups off the internet.

I'm 42, in the DC area, custody of 10-13 YO kids is split and the separation is amicable. I can't be the only one.

You sound self-destructive and almost like you're hard-up to destroy other marriages since yours is over. What married man would even trust you? You clearly have nothing to lose and would likely get off on diming the bloke out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are going to be shredded here Op, but I promise you what you describe happens *way, way more* than most people think. Most men are very good at keepig their mouth shut when they are getting what they want and if you truly just want affection and really don't care about a relationship- it can almost certainly be yours.

Shredded because no woman on DCUM has ever sinned or done anything to bring shame. Every single woman is as pure as the driven snow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Suppose you are separated for 7 months. Eveyone in you and you exes circle knows. For years leading up to the sepration, you had 'chemistry' with two of the other husbands in your circle. Since separation flirting has increased noticeably.

I don't want another husband, but I would like an occasional affectionate partner. If it was kept purely physical and no emotions at all, (I guarantee I can do this) how feasibale is it for the next few months?

I just want some physical intimacy with men I 'know'. I have no interest in hook ups off the internet.

I'm 42, in the DC area, custody of 10-13 YO kids is split and the separation is amicable. I can't be the only one.

What is wrong with you? Like we don't have enough problems from men wanting pleasure on demand. So you want to break up another marriage just to bring down everyone to your level? Of course men are flirtatious with other women. Doesn't mean you have to accept the advance. Were you not loved enough by other people? I'm sure not by other women since you treat them like trash.

Bingo. Wants to watch the world burn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are going to be shredded here Op, but I promise you what you describe happens *way, way more* than most people think. Most men are very good at keepig their mouth shut when they are getting what they want and if you truly just want affection and really don't care about a relationship- it can almost certainly be yours.

Shredded because no woman on DCUM has ever sinned or done anything to bring shame. Every single woman is as pure as the driven snow.

No, not at all but this is deep betrayal on multiple levels and it's potentially very destructive. To the prior poster who asked how some of us know so much about it if we never did it, well... my response is: Because it happened in our larger friend group. We saw the betrayed brought to their knees in deep pain, in our friend group the guy who cheated was suicidal. Their secret became known to most of the town and there was a lot of deep pain. People took sides and the couples were MORTIFIED. It affected all of us which is mind-boggling right?? You're screwing this guy secretively for months, happy as a clam and secure in your bubble and then it all shockingly comes out and hits the fan. It affects all the couples. Learn something about how it can go. It's not pretty.

[Anonymous]

Poster above: And then the one couple moved away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are going to be shredded here Op, but I promise you what you describe happens *way, way more* than most people think. Most men are very good at keepig their mouth shut when they are getting what they want and if you truly just want affection and really don't care about a relationship- it can almost certainly be yours.

I'm in OP's situation and I'm sleeping with one of the husbands. It works for us, and for our spouses, who for different reasons are not sexually compatible with us. I've left my husband but my lover hasn't left his wife.

[Anonymous]

Um...if you get found out just reflect on all the private conversations happening in the kitchens and bedrooms of all your couple friends, where you'll be dissected psychologically and they'll be put in the position of being reluctantly brought into all your self created drama. And then they'll talk about it and calmly talk about you and what might be wrong with you. With a certain level of pity, disappointment, and among some,, other possibly disgust and shock. And the betrayed wife will tell at least her closest friend(s) and or sister who will know some of the most personal sh*t about you that your affair partner told the wife and she then told other women in her life. Are you cool with this possibility? Then proceed. Cause that's how it went down in my circle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lawyers are great for this. get a lawyer (married or not) that is NOT in your circle. Those flirty husbands that you think you know...these creeps are a HUGE red flag. Do NOT go there.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:lawyers are great for this. get a lawyer (married or not) that is NOT in your circle. Those flirty husbands that you think you know...these creeps are a HUGE red flag. Do NOT go there.

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Yes, surprised she thinks cheating with an in group member is wise on any level. It shows such poor judgment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are going to be shredded here Op, but I promise you what you describe happens *way, way more* than most people think. Most men are very good at keepig their mouth shut when they are getting what they want and if you truly just want affection and really don't care about a relationship- it can almost certainly be yours.

Shredded because no woman on DCUM has ever sinned or done anything to bring shame. Every single woman is as pure as the driven snow.

No, not at all but this is deep betrayal on multiple levels and it's potentially very destructive. To the prior poster who asked how some of us know so much about it if we never did it, well... my response is: Because it happened in our larger friend group. We saw the betrayed brought to their knees in deep pain, in our friend group the guy who cheated was suicidal. Their secret became known to most of the town and there was a lot of deep pain. People took sides and the couples were MORTIFIED. It affected all of us which is mind-boggling right?? You're screwing this guy secretively for months, happy as a clam and secure in your bubble and then it all shockingly comes out and hits the fan. It affects all the couples. Learn something about how it can go. It's not pretty.

Sounds about right. It’s what I saw happen when two married idiots decided to implode two marriages (albeit unwittingly). Both cowards thought they’d never get caught and they never in their wildest imagination could see the destruction, pain and mess it made to everyone -kids, friends, extended families, etc. To this day, nobody looks at them or thinks of the same way again—-no matter how much self work they did and remorse they expressed. They are tainted. Their reputation pretty much destroyed. Nobody trusts them completely anymore. There’s a bit of “I can’t believe they were that devious/slimy to their partner…even if the partner took them back.

It ruins a future, past and present.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are going to be shredded here Op, but I promise you what you describe happens *way, way more* than most people think. Most men are very good at keepig their mouth shut when they are getting what they want and if you truly just want affection and really don't care about a relationship- it can almost certainly be yours.

I'm in OP's situation and I'm sleeping with one of the husbands. It works for us, and for our spouses, who for different reasons are not sexually compatible with us. I've left my husband but my lover hasn't left his wife.

And he still bangs his wife and never will leave her. You fell for the oldest trick in the book.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You want to sleep with your friends' husbands. Gross. This is why separated/divorced people get shunned socially

Because you assume everyone single wants your wack-a@@ man? Girl, stop embarrassing yourself

[Anonymous]

What a horrible idea. You are going to become gossip and kids will be ashamed of you.

Easy enough to hook up. Don’t ruin your entire social life.

If one of these guys also became separated/divorced, then that is fair game.

[Anonymous]

Actually I take that back. It would still be really weird.

[Anonymous]

I'm in OP's situation and I'm sleeping with one of the husbands. It works for us, and for our spouses, who for different reasons are not sexually compatible with us. I've left my husband but my lover hasn't left his wife.

Please please please come back and tell us how no one will talk to you, your former “friends” hate you and your kids are shunned when this blows up in your face. I will have my popcorn waiting. Your husband is so lucky to be rid of you.