Seeing Married Men in Your Circle

[Anonymous]

So, you 'd rather be the neighborhood horny divorce' and live with the eventual gossip vs thrill of random hookup? Need protection either way.

[Anonymous]

You won’t be in that “circle” much longer. You suck for even considering this. Are you looking to screw up your kids’ lives even more?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Suppose you are separated for 7 months. Eveyone in you and you exes circle knows. For years leading up to the sepration, you had 'chemistry' with two of the other husbands in your circle. Since separation flirting has increased noticeably.

I don't want another husband, but I would like an occasional affectionate partner. If it was kept purely physical and no emotions at all, (I guarantee I can do this) how feasibale is it for the next few months?

I just want some physical intimacy with men I 'know'. I have no interest in hook ups off the internet.

I'm 42, in the DC area, custody of 10-13 YO kids is split and the separation is amicable. I can't be the only one.

Tell the wives of these husbands about their increased flirting, get to a college campus and bone a late teen/early twentysomething. There are some gyms at GMU. Is that too far?

A 42 year old shouldn’t be banging a “late teen” or even someone in their early 20s.

Gross

[Anonymous]

Why on earth would you do this?

[Anonymous]

Your kids may not find out right now, but they will find out and get teased about it at like the worst possible time in the future. If you were the man it would be less embarrassing for them but as the woman it will be bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You want to sleep with your friends' husbands. Gross. This is why separated/divorced people get shunned socially

+1

Cats in heat trying to take my hard earned money.

GFY OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister slept with her son's married soccer coach for about 5 months after her separation. Then it was just over. No blow up, no hard feelings, literally nothing was found out at all.

This was in Old Town (I mention it because it's incredibly gossipy) about 4 years ago. If she could do that there, anyone can.

Believe me, someone knows and she just is living a fantasy that no one does. OP, you just got out of a marriage, DO NOT invite drama like this. Talk to a therapist, STAT. You will ABSOLUTELY regret sleeping with one of the married men in your mutual circle because guys can be honey sweet to your face and complete DOGS behind your back.

Karma is a greedy debt collector, stay away from this .

Yup. Mclean, too. Their lives suck, so they want to blow up someone else’s. Gross.

[Anonymous]

Enjoy the flirtation, but don't sh*t where you eat. Sounds too messy to be a light fling.

[Anonymous]

Tell your friends when you are looking for a hookup. You never know who may lend your their husband. Seriously, years ago one of my close friends got divorced. She didn’t want to get into another relationship but said she was “lonely” every now and then. One evening when she told me this I told her to sit tight that I was sending my husband over. I asked him to take a bottle of wine over to her. When he got there I texted both of them and that was that. He took care of her and got home and we never spoke about it again. She got back with her husband not too long after and we all get together at least once a month for dinner.

[Anonymous]

Find your own boyfriend online or elsewhere. Do not entertain these husbands…you will blow up your life.

[Anonymous]

I was in the same situation (I'm male). A couple of the moms put out subtle feelers, but i didn't follow up. Now I wish I had.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are going to be shredded here Op, but I promise you what you describe happens *way, way more* than most people think. Most men are very good at keepig their mouth shut when they are getting what they want and if you truly just want affection and really don't care about a relationship- it can almost certainly be yours.

We all know it happens a lot...having "chemistry" with one or two men in the wider circle is nothing special either op. Chemistry flies in all directions in a wider group, most of us don't act on it for Christ's sake...and your fantasy of it not being discovered is just that, a fantasy. It is easy to be outed and the humiliation and pain it inflicts on you and the effect on the wider circle is noteworthy because truly, you have no idea how and what people will know. Saw it happen in our group of married. It was really bad. Both couples stayed together, one moved away. Find a less complicated arrangement is my best advice.

[Anonymous]

*group of marrieds

[Anonymous]

That you have no empathy or just a sense of decency/loyalty for the wives in your circle is striking. Be careful to not flatter yourself too much about the flirting....there's a wierd, perverted dynamic that some men show with recently divorced women around assuming they are desperate and easy. It's not really a compliment or a high form of respect to be sought out by a married man, you know? and I'm not quite sure what it is in your history that makes you fail to see this. Is there infidelity in your family history? That might be worth exploring. Healthy people don't act out this way. They might think about it....but they don't act on it.

[Anonymous]

Dying to know how this turns out, OP.

But I do feel sorry for your kids.