Seeing Married Men in Your Circle

[Anonymous]

Suppose you are separated for 7 months. Eveyone in you and you exes circle knows. For years leading up to the sepration, you had 'chemistry' with two of the other husbands in your circle. Since separation flirting has increased noticeably.

I don't want another husband, but I would like an occasional affectionate partner. If it was kept purely physical and no emotions at all, (I guarantee I can do this) how feasibale is it for the next few months?

I just want some physical intimacy with men I 'know'. I have no interest in hook ups off the internet.

I'm 42, in the DC area, custody of 10-13 YO kids is split and the separation is amicable. I can't be the only one.

[Anonymous]

Gross OP. Don’t be the other woman it’s a terrible look AND you will get yourself and your kids ostracized.

[Anonymous]

You want to sleep with your friends' husbands. Gross. This is why separated/divorced people get shunned socially

[Anonymous]

Take your raggedy, shameless self on over to tinder. Maybe one of the young guys will take pity on you and give you a few disappointing nights of “fun.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Suppose you are separated for 7 months. Eveyone in you and you exes circle knows. For years leading up to the sepration, you had 'chemistry' with two of the other husbands in your circle. Since separation flirting has increased noticeably.

I don't want another husband, but I would like an occasional affectionate partner. If it was kept purely physical and no emotions at all, (I guarantee I can do this) how feasibale is it for the next few months?

I just want some physical intimacy with men I 'know'. I have no interest in hook ups off the internet.

I'm 42, in the DC area, custody of 10-13 YO kids is split and the separation is amicable. I can't be the only one.

Tell the wives of these husbands about their increased flirting, get to a college campus and bone a late teen/early twentysomething. There are some gyms at GMU. Is that too far?

[Anonymous]

You are going to be shredded here Op, but I promise you what you describe happens *way, way more* than most people think. Most men are very good at keepig their mouth shut when they are getting what they want and if you truly just want affection and really don't care about a relationship- it can almost certainly be yours.

[Anonymous]

Ignore the haters. I say go for it. This actually happened in our neighborhood. Everyone found out, the bus stop became hilariously awkward. Still is when all four of the relevant parents are there at once.

[Anonymous]

lawyers are great for this. get a lawyer (married or not) that is NOT in your circle. Those flirty husbands that you think you know...these creeps are a HUGE red flag. Do NOT go there.

[Anonymous]

My sister slept with her son's married soccer coach for about 5 months after her separation. Then it was just over. No blow up, no hard feelings, literally nothing was found out at all.

This was in Old Town (I mention it because it's incredibly gossipy) about 4 years ago. If she could do that there, anyone can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ignore the haters. I say go for it. This actually happened in our neighborhood. Everyone found out, the bus stop became hilariously awkward. Still is when all four of the relevant parents are there at once.

You're cute, encouraging OP to provide street corner entertainment for the neighborhood.

OP, if you're for real, and especially if you have children -- you seriously need to put the brakes on ALL dating and sex and get yourself together mentally and emotionally before you destroy yourself, your kids' respect for you (oh, they'll know someday), and any shot at being seen as a decent person. The people on this thread telling you to go for it, or telling you they know someone who got away with it -- you do realize they're messing with you, right? They won't be there when you have no friends.

The fact you don't see it as morally wrong to have sex with someone else's husband, well, I won't even go there because if you don't see that, I can only appeal to any desire you have not to be shunned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister slept with her son's married soccer coach for about 5 months after her separation. Then it was just over. No blow up, no hard feelings, literally nothing was found out at all.

This was in Old Town (I mention it because it's incredibly gossipy) about 4 years ago. If she could do that there, anyone can.

Believe me, someone knows and she just is living a fantasy that no one does. OP, you just got out of a marriage, DO NOT invite drama like this. Talk to a therapist, STAT. You will ABSOLUTELY regret sleeping with one of the married men in your mutual circle because guys can be honey sweet to your face and complete DOGS behind your back.

Karma is a greedy debt collector, stay away from this .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister slept with her son's married soccer coach for about 5 months after her separation. Then it was just over. No blow up, no hard feelings, literally nothing was found out at all.

This was in Old Town (I mention it because it's incredibly gossipy) about 4 years ago. If she could do that there, anyone can.

You're proud your sister screwed around with a married man? Lovely.

[Anonymous]

High likelihood your kids will find out eventually and will think less if you for screwing with their friends’ families.

[Anonymous]

Fine to be with someone for affection only, but for the love, you would do this this a friend’s husband? That is terrible. There are plenty of men online looking for sex only. Find someone that 1) isn’t married 2) isn’t married to a friend

[Anonymous]

I can see why your husband left you.