Poll: What killed the sex life with your spouse?

[Anonymous]

He lost interest in sex, time indicated eventually it was low T, but once he stopped initiating and I realized it I stopped initiating too and that was the end of our sex life. The last five years of our marriage was sex free.

Post divorce I've had a great sex life. He has not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have thought more people would just respond that it’s because their hormonal desire is low. Statistically, the majority of women dont have natural day to day drive. I’d assume that’s the driving factor in the majority of cases, and all the other things above are just “excuses” that are covering up for the fact that you’re not naturally horny anymore.

Speaking as a woman who is very dissatisfied in her marriage (husband only focuses on himself and his hobbies, doesn't ever have any meaningful talk with me, doesn't play with the kids or help with their needs, always on his phone or computer, treats internet strangers and acquaintances better than his family, doesn't look at me when I speak to him, etc etc)...

We want sex, just NOT with our lazy, purposeful emotionally unavailable husbands..

And THAT'S the painful, uncomfortable truth..

I think this is probably more true than just “low hormonal desire.”

I’ve been married to my spouse for 40 years. No problems with low hormones, no sense of boredom or lack of novelty. Mutual love and caring, knowing each other’s bodies really well, having a deep trust in each other- these are the reasons we’ve been able to have a fun and frequent sex life for more than four decades.

But if we’d had issues such as many others here have described, things would likely be different. It’s hard to love and trust someone who doesn’t show caring for you, and it’s hard to have sex with someone who doesn’t treat you in a loving way.

[Anonymous]

He can't perform and won't take steps to try to improve. Thinks I should appreciate his soft p...s rubbing on me.
Terrible hygiene on his part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

90% of the literary canon and the vast majority of human invention were created by men. Fair? No. Boring? Also no.

Incredible to see how delusional women are. Without men, they wont even have the phones they are using right now, among many other things

[Anonymous]

No sex because of my wife’s mental disorder and unhinged behavior

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

90% of the literary canon and the vast majority of human invention were created by men. Fair? No. Boring? Also no.

Incredible to see how delusional women are. Without men, they wont even have the phones they are using right now, among many other things

Prime example above of why this man doesn't get laid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He lost interest in sex, time indicated eventually it was low T, but once he stopped initiating and I realized it I stopped initiating too and that was the end of our sex life. The last five years of our marriage was sex free.

Post divorce I've had a great sex life. He has not.

How do you know he hasn't? Why is he still living rent free in your mind? Just move on and enjoy sex with the younger guys lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He can't perform and won't take steps to try to improve. Thinks I should appreciate his soft p...s rubbing on me.
Terrible hygiene on his part.

Are men this harsh when their wives can no longer have sex? Or do women never experience issues that prevent them from having sex?

[Anonymous]

Only one thing - he gained weight.

[Anonymous]

I'll say this as a man who reluctantly did both individual and marriage therapy but later took it seriously and learned a lot, a lot us men seriously underestimate how much our wives expect us to be more emotionally supportive. My therapist told me if a woman doesn't feel like you are emotionally supportive she won't be as enthusiastic having sex with you. Eventually it leads to a dead bedroom.

The hard part is actually learning to be emotionally supportive. It's not as simple as it sounds. The way we men listen, our body language we need to pay attention to all of it.

[Anonymous]

He died

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only one thing - he gained weight.

Mine went from 140 to 220. And the top of her vagina had a lot of fat. She was not attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He died

I'm sorry. How old was he? And how old were you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll say this as a man who reluctantly did both individual and marriage therapy but later took it seriously and learned a lot, a lot us men seriously underestimate how much our wives expect us to be more emotionally supportive. My therapist told me if a woman doesn't feel like you are emotionally supportive she won't be as enthusiastic having sex with you. Eventually it leads to a dead bedroom.

The hard part is actually learning to be emotionally supportive. It's not as simple as it sounds. The way we men listen, our body language we need to pay attention to all of it.

PP as the unhappy wife who has said for years that my husband is never emotionally available and completely insensitive that we need to go to couples counseling but there's always an excuse from him.

Why are you men like this???

Props to you for actually realizing there's a problem and you have been working to course correct.

I envy your wife.

[Anonymous]

Alcoholism and being verbally abusive
Bad at sex