Poll: What killed the sex life with your spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was a combination of things, but anti depressant-anti anxiety drugs played a large role. She upped the dose a lot after we had kids because she was depressed and stressed all the time, so parenthood also was a contributing factor.

LOL, uh huh.

[Anonymous]

Resentment + Always on his phone.

Hard to be attracted to someone who can’t cook, clean, or parent because they’re on their phone nonstop.

[Anonymous]

Our sex life isn’t dead but after almost 40 years and sex maybe 4000+ times it’s just not as exciting. Now it’s about once every 10-14 days. Certain things I won’t do or rarely do so maybe I need to do them.

[Anonymous]

Cancer, vaginal atrophy. Me.
Sciatica, nerve pain. Him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cancer, vaginal atrophy. Me.
Sciatica, nerve pain. Him.

Same. Except, he is by and large medically ok, no nerve pain etc, but perhaps busy at work/home and subsequent low libido. Strangely enough, we are very much in love even without the sex because my mortality is staring us in the face.
Also...still undergoing chemo etc...

[Anonymous]

She cheated. I think we men are different. It seems that women can move on if their man sticks his d**k in another woman vagina, for many of us guys once we marry you and another d**k other than ours goes into your vagina we just don't see you the same anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rank these in order of the ones that you think contributed to it and add anything that was missed:

Resentment over things spouse doesn’t do (chores, parenting, etc)

Spouse is bad at sex

Boredom, monotony, not enough novelty.

Spouse has a substance abuse problem.

Cheating or infidelity.

Spouse no longer attractive (got fat, hygiene issues,etc).

Spouse doesn’t talk to you/distracted/on phone too much or doesn’t listen.

Politics (you and spouse voted for different parties, view the world differently, etc).

In-laws moved in.

[Anonymous]

Imagine not having sex over politics. I bet this is only a concern for one type of person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Imagine not having sex over politics. I bet this is only a concern for one type of person.

Yep, the type that tends to frequent DCUM.

[Anonymous]

I would have thought more people would just respond that it’s because their hormonal desire is low. Statistically, the majority of women dont have natural day to day drive. I’d assume that’s the driving factor in the majority of cases, and all the other things above are just “excuses” that are covering up for the fact that you’re not naturally horny anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cancer.

I'm sorry, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have thought more people would just respond that it’s because their hormonal desire is low. Statistically, the majority of women dont have natural day to day drive. I’d assume that’s the driving factor in the majority of cases, and all the other things above are just “excuses” that are covering up for the fact that you’re not naturally horny anymore.

All the other excuses are things that helped diminish the drive.

[Anonymous]

one to many arguments that veered too close to the line to abusive. Not legally physical abuse but angry enough to not feel safe and have zero sexual desire. Also being a jerk about it - whining about me wanting to have the curtains drawn (during the day!) and making it clear he thought I was inadequate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have thought more people would just respond that it’s because their hormonal desire is low. Statistically, the majority of women dont have natural day to day drive. I’d assume that’s the driving factor in the majority of cases, and all the other things above are just “excuses” that are covering up for the fact that you’re not naturally horny anymore.

I think you are mistaken about women …

[Anonymous]

Menopause