Who is unreasonable here: Friend A or Friend B?

[Anonymous]

Did you try dropping the price to $500 or $200? Where are you trying to sell this treadmill?

I know it isn’t the same thing but I had a 70k SUV. When we got a new car, they were going to give us $18k for a trade in. We decided to just keep the car.

[Anonymous]

Here is another treadmill story. My friend was selling her house to downsize. For the previous year, she tried to sell her treadmill but did not go on Facebook Marketplace.
This spring, we were moving; in the meantime, we purchased an inexpensive treadmill. My friend kept saying don't buy it, I will sell you mine. But, we thought, what if it breaks down? How awkward is our friendship?
In the end, I wanted another treadmill, and we came to look at it. Yes, we have two now.

She told me that she bought it for over 3.5K but barely used it. I asked her to give me the price. She said that for a year, she tried to sell it for 500 but nothing. So, is 350 OK?
I brought the money with us and we paid right away.
She and her DH, who then had a 150 truck, disassembled it, loaded it, brought it to my house, and she and my DH (Her dh has bum knees) assembled it for me.
And I can honestly tell that she is cheap and as penny-saving as it gets—English, to top it off! (English people and good friends of English people will know what I am talking about.)
She would rant about how her DH spent more on gas driving a 10-dollar lamp to buyers who could not come collect it.
Your friend is not a nice person. I was an expat several times, and I know that prices for larger pieces can sell close to the original price. I sold a whole playground in Africa for just about what I bought it for. But, I had a lot of expat mom friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She was acting greedy and cheap, and that is not okay. I would have left the treadmill to the landlord. Remember that many people around the world are users. Don't tell people everything all the time. Keep stuff to yourself, I learned this a long while ago.

This is a thought especially if you weren’t going to get your full deposit back, maybe you can now

[Anonymous]

Really not possible to pay to move it with you? It would be money well spent.

[Anonymous]

I would have donated the treadmill to legitimate charity and claimed a tax deduction for it. That could save you at least a couple hundred dollars in taxes.

[Anonymous]

I think you’re both a bit rude. Her for being tone deaf, cheap, and entitled; you for passive aggressively giving her the treadmill then being mad she took it. I would have just left it behind and not told her your buyer fell through.

[Anonymous]

If I were friend B I would never take it for feee. I’d give you some money for it. She’s taking advantage of you

[Anonymous]

Just a note for people chastising OP for buying an expensive treadmill: if you are a woman who prioritizes exercising and you live for any length of time in either an area of the world with poor air quality or an area of the world that does not culturally accommodate exercise for women it can be a real challenge. During an academic post in the Middle East I used to run the indoor stairs of my apartment building for exercise as there were no other options.

[Anonymous]

Ask her to trade you a purse. Those are portable and you can sell them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just a note for people chastising OP for buying an expensive treadmill: if you are a woman who prioritizes exercising and you live for any length of time in either an area of the world with poor air quality or an area of the world that does not culturally accommodate exercise for women it can be a real challenge. During an academic post in the Middle East I used to run the indoor stairs of my apartment building for exercise as there were no other options.

I understand. But I would see buying a treadmill as a cost of doing business there, I wouldn’t assume that I could make the money back later.

[Anonymous]

It’s kind of odd that you were giving such updates on a treadmill.

By chance did you tell her you were going ti try and sell it and if you couldn’t you would let her have it?

If you were really needed the money why not drop the price until you found a buyer ? People who need money and are getting close yo a deadline don’t think getting $200 is worthless. Sure they would want a $1K but when you are actually strapped for cash you don’t forgo a couple hundred dollars.

So if you want to sell it , sell it.

And ask yourself why you need friend drama. You are already anticipating her texting you in the future and being annoyed. Why? So you can tell your new friends about it in your new location and give you something to talk about? And yeah people do this kind of thing all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask her to trade you a purse. Those are portable and you can sell them.

THIS. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just to be clear, you bought a treadmill you should not have spent money on? She asked for it, and then you agreed?

"Should not have spent money on?" We live in one of the most polluted cities on the planet, so exercise outdoors is not possible, I work full time and would not be able to get to a gym most days, and I do prioritize my health. I cannot afford to NOT make this priority. It isn't as if I'm going bankrupt from buying it, just that the money would have meant a lot to me in reselling before I move.

But, yes, I reluctantly agreed after the other option fell through. That is on me. If I could go back, I would have just lied and said I found a seller in my building for the sake of saving our friendship, I guess.

you should've joined one of the hotel gyms- better then getting a treadmill last year. I'd ghost this women though. she sound like a PITA but you never know-- ex pat circles are small- maybe you'll run into her again.

[Anonymous]

Friend B is a jerk

[Anonymous]

Ghost her and offer to split any sale with the landlord. Or just tell her you found a buyer at the last second and so the same. Even $100 is 100 more than you are getting now.

Bonus, she ends up just as frustrated!