Feeling sad that I don't have a daughter

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh, what a selfish and ridiculous post. This woman is insufferable and doubt a girl would please her.

None of these elements are in OP's post. Perhaps you read something else?

They most certainly are. Perhaps you need to comprehend.

I'm the OP, and they most certainly aren't. I wrote something that many women can relate to but many are afraid to articulate. I'm sorry if it hit a bad note with you. It's not selfish to wonder about having a daughter. "Insufferable"? Why the overreaction? It is a legitimate feeling. A common one. Be kinder please.

There are things to be sad about. No one feels sorry for you and you are ridiculous. You may get too weak to be a parent. Absolutely ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Woe is me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, what a selfish and ridiculous post. This woman is insufferable and doubt a girl would please her.

None of these elements are in OP's post. Perhaps you read something else?

They most certainly are. Perhaps you need to comprehend.

I'm the OP, and they most certainly aren't. I wrote something that many women can relate to but many are afraid to articulate. I'm sorry if it hit a bad note with you. It's not selfish to wonder about having a daughter. "Insufferable"? Why the overreaction? It is a legitimate feeling. A common one. Be kinder please.

There are things to be sad about. No one feels sorry for you and you are ridiculous. You may get too weak to be a parent. Absolutely ridiculous.

PP, you aren't reading the room. Many others agreed with her. No one is being so mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, what a selfish and ridiculous post. This woman is insufferable and doubt a girl would please her.

None of these elements are in OP's post. Perhaps you read something else?

They most certainly are. Perhaps you need to comprehend.

I'm the OP, and they most certainly aren't. I wrote something that many women can relate to but many are afraid to articulate. I'm sorry if it hit a bad note with you. It's not selfish to wonder about having a daughter. "Insufferable"? Why the overreaction? It is a legitimate feeling. A common one. Be kinder please.

There are things to be sad about. No one feels sorry for you and you are ridiculous. You may get too weak to be a parent. Absolutely ridiculous.

I'm not asking for pity. As I said in my original post, I love my kids. I also feel a pang of sadness over not having a daughter-mother bond.

It's not ridiculous. I'm not sure why you think so. I also don't know what the sentence "You may get too weak to be a parent" means.

[Anonymous]

OP its human nature to feel sad about the things you can't or don't have.. grass is greener on other side, the kid not had or the house not bought. Perhaps you are trying to idealize and replicate your relationship you had or wish you had with your mom. To give you a different perspective, I have a distant relationship with my parents and was so overjoyed to have my son. I didn't and don't wish a daughter. But if I did end up with a daughter I will be happy anyway. So its letting go of expectations and learning to be happy with what you have been blessed with.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm also the mom of two boys, and I would have loved to have a daughter. I had an amazing relationship with my late mom. But here's the thing - my boys are now teenagers and I'm SO happy that I don't have daughters. Other than clothes shopping and makeup/hair (none of which is a massive interest for me in my 50s), I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything good.

And unfortunately there is so much drama with teenage girls - most of the parents I know are dealing with eating disorders, anxiety, gender uncertainty, substance abuse. My kids have their own issues but nothing like that. We talk all the time and do lots of stuff together. Maybe I'd be closer with daughters, maybe not - either way they are eventually going to go off in the world and establish their own lives, and either way that will be hard for me and great for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, what a selfish and ridiculous post. This woman is insufferable and doubt a girl would please her.

None of these elements are in OP's post. Perhaps you read something else?

They most certainly are. Perhaps you need to comprehend.

I'm the OP, and they most certainly aren't. I wrote something that many women can relate to but many are afraid to articulate. I'm sorry if it hit a bad note with you. It's not selfish to wonder about having a daughter. "Insufferable"? Why the overreaction? It is a legitimate feeling. A common one. Be kinder please.

There are things to be sad about. No one feels sorry for you and you are ridiculous. You may get too weak to be a parent. Absolutely ridiculous.

I'm not asking for pity. As I said in my original post, I love my kids. I also feel a pang of sadness over not having a daughter-mother bond.

It's not ridiculous. I'm not sure why you think so. I also don't know what the sentence "You may get too weak to be a parent" means.

God help her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t stereotype. You may have a son who loves shopping. You might have gotten a daughter who hates it.

This is true--my son loves going to the store with me. As long as I buy him something, but still, he'll go.

Woman who hates shopping here!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's normal. Daughters are highly desired in 2022, especially if you run in certain feminist circles who hate men (a radical feminist friend stopped speaking to me because I used to take my 4 year old son into the women's restroom). I don't know that there's a solution but you're not alone.

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm also the mom of two boys, and I would have loved to have a daughter. I had an amazing relationship with my late mom. But here's the thing - my boys are now teenagers and I'm SO happy that I don't have daughters. Other than clothes shopping and makeup/hair (none of which is a massive interest for me in my 50s), I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything good.

And unfortunately there is so much drama with teenage girls - most of the parents I know are dealing with eating disorders, anxiety, gender uncertainty, substance abuse. My kids have their own issues but nothing like that. We talk all the time and do lots of stuff together. Maybe I'd be closer with daughters, maybe not - either way they are eventually going to go off in the world and establish their own lives, and either way that will be hard for me and great for them.

I could have written this.

As the mother of teen boys, I am thrilled with my sweet and kind boys who even as older teens still give me hugs and kisses in public and who text me memes they find funny and who come into my office and ask me how my day went. I hate shopping anyhow and one of my boys likes getting mani/pedis so I do that with him. I have a hard time seeing how I would be closer to a daughter.

My boys have had their rebellious moments and one of them continually forgets to turn in homework he has completed which drives me crazy, but it’s nothing like the problems I see in some (not all) of my friends with daughters. It really makes me wonder what we are doing to teen girls in this world because they are going through hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, what a selfish and ridiculous post. This woman is insufferable and doubt a girl would please her.

None of these elements are in OP's post. Perhaps you read something else?

They most certainly are. Perhaps you need to comprehend.

I'm the OP, and they most certainly aren't. I wrote something that many women can relate to but many are afraid to articulate. I'm sorry if it hit a bad note with you. It's not selfish to wonder about having a daughter. "Insufferable"? Why the overreaction? It is a legitimate feeling. A common one. Be kinder please.

There are things to be sad about. No one feels sorry for you and you are ridiculous. You may get too weak to be a parent. Absolutely ridiculous.

I'm not asking for pity. As I said in my original post, I love my kids. I also feel a pang of sadness over not having a daughter-mother bond.

It's not ridiculous. I'm not sure why you think so. I also don't know what the sentence "You may get too weak to be a parent" means.

Keep those son-hating thoughts to yourself.

[Anonymous]

Can you adopt one OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, what a selfish and ridiculous post. This woman is insufferable and doubt a girl would please her.

None of these elements are in OP's post. Perhaps you read something else?

They most certainly are. Perhaps you need to comprehend.

I'm the OP, and they most certainly aren't. I wrote something that many women can relate to but many are afraid to articulate. I'm sorry if it hit a bad note with you. It's not selfish to wonder about having a daughter. "Insufferable"? Why the overreaction? It is a legitimate feeling. A common one. Be kinder please.

There are things to be sad about. No one feels sorry for you and you are ridiculous. You may get too weak to be a parent. Absolutely ridiculous.

I'm not asking for pity. As I said in my original post, I love my kids. I also feel a pang of sadness over not having a daughter-mother bond.

It's not ridiculous. I'm not sure why you think so. I also don't know what the sentence "You may get too weak to be a parent" means.

Keep those son-hating thoughts to yourself.

Where did anyone say they "hated" their sons? Please, point me to the phrase: "I hate my sons." Go ahead. Please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, what a selfish and ridiculous post. This woman is insufferable and doubt a girl would please her.

None of these elements are in OP's post. Perhaps you read something else?

They most certainly are. Perhaps you need to comprehend.

I'm the OP, and they most certainly aren't. I wrote something that many women can relate to but many are afraid to articulate. I'm sorry if it hit a bad note with you. It's not selfish to wonder about having a daughter. "Insufferable"? Why the overreaction? It is a legitimate feeling. A common one. Be kinder please.

There are things to be sad about. No one feels sorry for you and you are ridiculous. You may get too weak to be a parent. Absolutely ridiculous.

I'm not asking for pity. As I said in my original post, I love my kids. I also feel a pang of sadness over not having a daughter-mother bond.

It's not ridiculous. I'm not sure why you think so. I also don't know what the sentence "You may get too weak to be a parent" means.

Keep those son-hating thoughts to yourself.

Where did anyone say they "hated" their sons? Please, point me to the phrase: "I hate my sons." Go ahead. Please.

Did you not learn how to comprehend while reading texts when you were in school? Was every assignment and test literal? Are you that dense?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you adopt one OP?

She will find a reason to not be happy with that child. Don’t suggest she do that.