Feeling sad that I don't have a daughter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two elementary-aged sons. I love them. I am also done having kids.

There's part of me that feels sad that I will never experience having a daughter, with the closeness that entails: confidences, shopping, just a closer female relationship that I see all around me. In my experience, sons don't call their moms when they grow up as much, they're not as close, they gravitate to the wife's family (if they marry), etc.

I absolutely adore my children, but there's a pang of sadness I feel for what I will never have. Is this normal? Anyone else? How can I confront/get over/feel better about it??

I could have written this. I LOVE LOVE my boys, but I know the second they get married, there will be a new number 1 woman in their lives. Daughters are forever, it’s not weird when a daughter calls mom every day. A guy calling mom every day? What a mama’s boy…and not in a good way. Grandkids? Wife’s mom will be always the number 1 grandma, unless she lives somewhere far…

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Anonymous wrote:Since this is anonymous OP, I'll admit that I'm so glad I have two daughters for exactly the reasons you outlined. DH loves his parents and is a dutiful Asian son but the level of closeness and frequency of communication is nothing like his sister has with their mom. I don't even like my own mom that much but my kids spend a ton of time at her house and we're in regular communication. It's just a different type of relationship.

Same, 3 daughters 0 sons and I couldn't be happier about it.

Same here. I have two daughters and a son.
I'm thrilled to have daughters. I honestly feel sorry for my friends who only have boys (on the rare occasions that I think about gender).

There are just so many blanket statements here that have no bearing in reality. Some siblings are close, some are not. Some siblings hate each other. Gender is just one factor in their relationship.

That said, I've had my own very hard things to deal with. We all do. Most of us don't get everything we want in life.

I do too! And I’m secretly jealous of any family that has two girls. I have one of each.

I feel sorry for parents who have one of each. Your kids wont be as close.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have two elementary-aged sons. I love them. I am also done having kids.

There's part of me that feels sad that I will never experience having a daughter, with the closeness that entails: confidences, shopping, just a closer female relationship that I see all around me. In my experience, sons don't call their moms when they grow up as much, they're not as close, they gravitate to the wife's family (if they marry), etc.

I absolutely adore my children, but there's a pang of sadness I feel for what I will never have. Is this normal? Anyone else? How can I confront/get over/feel better about it??

I could have written this. I LOVE LOVE my boys, but I know the second they get married, there will be a new number 1 woman in their lives. Daughters are forever, it’s not weird when a daughter calls mom every day. A guy calling mom every day? What a mama’s boy…and not in a good way. Grandkids? Wife’s mom will be always the number 1 grandma, unless she lives somewhere far…

My husband is really close with his mom both emotionally and physically she lives near our house while my parents live 5 hours away

[Anonymous]

Lots of people on here embracing gender stereotypes full-throttle. Anyone who thinks they know what relationship they would have with a theoretical human being of either sex is a straight up moron.