Feeling sad that I don't have a daughter

[Anonymous]

OP wrote she had a pang of sadness. It’s possible that is shaping her entire parent-child relationship but it’s very possible it’s not. I think some posters are being a little hard on her

[Anonymous]

I have two daughters and I have to admit I was overjoyed when I found out they were girls. Now they're tweens and teens and I still love it. Yes, it can be a bit fraught but I still love it.

[Anonymous]

I have an uncle who is fearless and will try anything at least once. Uncle played football, served in the military, can fix anything, etc., but he was very, very close to my grandma, so he gardened with her and learned to cook and bake.

My bff has two dd and a ds. It’s her ds who is the sweetest, most thoughtful, most dependable one.

One thing that all parents have to work on is meeting each one of our children where they are. Maybe your child isn’t as athletic/academically advanced/popular socially/physically attractive as you’d hoped, but he or she has strengths you never contemplated and is delightful in unexpected ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two daughters and I have to admit I was overjoyed when I found out they were girls. Now they're tweens and teens and I still love it. Yes, it can be a bit fraught but I still love it.

Not blaming you, but these are the kind of posts that make mothers of boys pretty sad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself.

Really making the rounds this morning, huh?

Yes, it seems as though you are.

Get a life and stop being such a hateful witch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP wrote she had a pang of sadness. It’s possible that is shaping her entire parent-child relationship but it’s very possible it’s not. I think some posters are being a little hard on her

She’s asking for help to get over it. No one is being too hard on her, she is ridiculous. Would you ever, ever post something like this?

[Anonymous]

I feel this so hard as a mom with three sons!

Here is what I have leaned into as my kids have gotten older
1. The brother bond is magical. I had a brother growing up, and I always wished he was a sister (haha) , now as an adult I'm envious of the people that have friendships with their siblings. I think parents always want "one of each" but I think for kids the same gender creates a irreplaceable bond
2. We are raising a tight family unit --- We have created a closeness with our kids and are an affectionate family. My sons are very close. I am hopeful that even as they get older and start their own families that being close to their siblings (and therefore me too) will be important to them.

Lastly - as many people already mentioned there isn't a crystal ball. Where your kid goes to college (and if its close to home), who their future wife is (and what her family is like), the age gap between your kids ... these can all totally change the dynamic of what the future looks like.

[Anonymous]

OP I gave a daughter and will probably never do those things. She climbs trees, rides her bikes , collects stick, wears shorts and T-shirt’s and doesn’t iwn any dresses. She is 10. Tet and be happy with the children you have not the children you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself.

Really making the rounds this morning, huh?

Yes, it seems as though you are.

Get a life and stop being such a hateful witch.

What’s up with the name calling? Calling someone a witch is the same as being what you accuse the other of. Knock it off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself.

Really making the rounds this morning, huh?

Yes, it seems as though you are.

Get a life and stop being such a hateful witch.

She meant to address that to the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t stereotype. You may have a son who loves shopping. You might have gotten a daughter who hates it.

That's me. My daughter hates shopping and any mother-daughter type stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP wrote she had a pang of sadness. It’s possible that is shaping her entire parent-child relationship but it’s very possible it’s not. I think some posters are being a little hard on her

She’s asking for help to get over it. No one is being too hard on her, she is ridiculous. Would you ever, ever post something like this?

I have considered it. You have no idea whether her considering the road not taken is inhibiting closeness with her kids.

People are different. You apparently have a suck it up buttercup approach and it’s great if that works for you but some people need something else, like a new way of looking at a problem.

[Anonymous]

Huh, OP. My father has an older sister and is definitely the one who was always closer to their mother. He gets on fine with my mother's family (and with his ex-wife's family tbh) those relationships were never as close as with his own mother. His sister loved her mother but they were never close due to different personalities. I have a daughter and a son, too, and I have no idea which one I'll be closer to when they grow up.

Also consider -- your boys are only in elementary. They may identify as a different gender in 10-20 years. You may yet have one (or two!) daughters after all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP wrote she had a pang of sadness. It’s possible that is shaping her entire parent-child relationship but it’s very possible it’s not. I think some posters are being a little hard on her

She’s asking for help to get over it. No one is being too hard on her, she is ridiculous. Would you ever, ever post something like this?

I have considered it. You have no idea whether her considering the road not taken is inhibiting closeness with her kids.

People are different. You apparently have a suck it up buttercup approach and it’s great if that works for you but some people need something else, like a new way of looking at a problem.

Your defense of her is not a defense.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, what a selfish and ridiculous post. This woman is insufferable and doubt a girl would please her.