Women, cheating, and solidarity

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you save any of his texts? You could take a screen shot and send to the wife.
You'd be surprised how much that happens.

I saved everything, but I have no desire to contact her out of the blue. Should she ever contact me for the truth or what I have to say I would happily share them with her. I was always surprised she never contacted me to ask me questions or question what her husband told her. It's alarming how a cheater gets caught and the wife just assumes what he has to say his 100% truth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Married men often lie elaborately to those they are having affairs with. I read an estimate that forty percent of men on online dating sites are married. No idea how they obtained that statistic.

Anyway, blaming the affair partner is silly. If you can't keep your partner faithful, you can leave or accept an open marriage, period.

This. The men lie. I was lied to. Told he was leaving. Told he hated her. She was a witch. He was selling the house. He even moved out. The lies he told were insane. To this day I think about contacting her just to let her know how much he lied & how he let me be the bad guy while he pursued me and did nothing but create stories.

What did he lie about? He told you the first time he was married. When he asked you out you should have said, "thanks, but if you get divorced and are SINGLE give me a call". As in VERY MUCH MARRIED.

If he said he was single, then later you found out he lied and was married....that would be a different story.

Yes for sure move on, but I would call her. You need to get tested to, as well as the wife because this has probably been a long time pattern for this guy.

He told me he was separated and in the process of divorcing. He also told me the house was going up for sale, which it did end up happening. As most situations, it was complicated and he told many lies. His wife ended up losing her job, getting pregnant (on accident), and other various stuff that he all accounted for through lies - which I saw after the fact. I walked away numerous times and each time he begged me to believe he was leaving her. My gut told me he was lying, but he BEGGED. I have emails, texts, conversations, photos. In the end I am the fool and I fell for his bullshit. I knew better.

I badly wanted to contact her as she must've caught him and contacted me, but he through me under the bus as the person pursuing him which was not the case. To this day she thinks her husband is some saint who was stalked by some unhinged woman when he was feeding me lies and after the entire time - again, I have email after email after email to support everything I say, including all the times I asked him not to contact me.

I have absolutely moved on, it's just shocking how sociopath some men can be. At this point I don't know what I would even say to her. I keep the texts and emails should she ever contact me, I want to be able to SHOW her what her husband said and the lies he told.

She probably knows her husband is a liar. But he provides her and her kids with a nice lifestyle, so she chooses to ignore it.

[Anonymous]

She may not give a rat's ass what happens to him as PP said. Has the life insurance, enjoys her life with kids. Think about it. Would you care about someone that treated you that way?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you save any of his texts? You could take a screen shot and send to the wife.
You'd be surprised how much that happens.

I saved everything, but I have no desire to contact her out of the blue. Should she ever contact me for the truth or what I have to say I would happily share them with her. I was always surprised she never contacted me to ask me questions or question what her husband told her. It's alarming how a cheater gets caught and the wife just assumes what he has to say his 100% truth.

Too bad she may be surprised you never contacted her for the "truth".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married men often lie elaborately to those they are having affairs with. I read an estimate that forty percent of men on online dating sites are married. No idea how they obtained that statistic.

Anyway, blaming the affair partner is silly. If you can't keep your partner faithful, you can leave or accept an open marriage, period.

This. The men lie. I was lied to. Told he was leaving. Told he hated her. She was a witch. He was selling the house. He even moved out. The lies he told were insane. To this day I think about contacting her just to let her know how much he lied & how he let me be the bad guy while he pursued me and did nothing but create stories.

What did he lie about? He told you the first time he was married. When he asked you out you should have said, "thanks, but if you get divorced and are SINGLE give me a call". As in VERY MUCH MARRIED.

If he said he was single, then later you found out he lied and was married....that would be a different story.

Yes for sure move on, but I would call her. You need to get tested to, as well as the wife because this has probably been a long time pattern for this guy.

He told me he was separated and in the process of divorcing. He also told me the house was going up for sale, which it did end up happening. As most situations, it was complicated and he told many lies. His wife ended up losing her job, getting pregnant (on accident), and other various stuff that he all accounted for through lies - which I saw after the fact. I walked away numerous times and each time he begged me to believe he was leaving her. My gut told me he was lying, but he BEGGED. I have emails, texts, conversations, photos. In the end I am the fool and I fell for his bullshit. I knew better.

I badly wanted to contact her as she must've caught him and contacted me, but he through me under the bus as the person pursuing him which was not the case. To this day she thinks her husband is some saint who was stalked by some unhinged woman when he was feeding me lies and after the entire time - again, I have email after email after email to support everything I say, including all the times I asked him not to contact me.

I have absolutely moved on, it's just shocking how sociopath some men can be. At this point I don't know what I would even say to her. I keep the texts and emails should she ever contact me, I want to be able to SHOW her what her husband said and the lies he told.

She probably knows her husband is a liar. But he provides her and her kids with a nice lifestyle, so she chooses to ignore it.

I hope this is the case because he told some VERY elaborate crazy lies. He even moved out. He painted her to be a monster. To this day I feel like such an idiot for not listening to my gut.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you save any of his texts? You could take a screen shot and send to the wife.
You'd be surprised how much that happens.

I saved everything, but I have no desire to contact her out of the blue. Should she ever contact me for the truth or what I have to say I would happily share them with her. I was always surprised she never contacted me to ask me questions or question what her husband told her. It's alarming how a cheater gets caught and the wife just assumes what he has to say his 100% truth.

Too bad she may be surprised you never contacted her for the "truth".

I was advised by DCUM to never contact the wife. That it was selfish of me and I had no good intentions if I was even thinking of doing so. It would be done out of anger, which wasn't the case. I'm not angry, I'm pretty indifferent.

[Anonymous]

Oh please. Women on here are so clueless when it comes to why people cheat. You think "ethics" and "morals" is going to keep your DH home at night. Cheating is about opportunity but MOST men who have a fruitful life at home are not looking to seize on the opportunity. And some of you even refuse to acknowledge that your mate raised this issue before stepping out the door. You become humorless shrews and expect your DH to just sit there and take sex whenever you dole it out. If your DH or DW cheats, something is missing at home. Period!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hope there is a special place in hell for my ex. She cheated on me and has several fwb and some are married.

Find out who they are and send some anon note to the wives or FB them. Might save them from some std.

You could have fun with your ex, pen a letter making her think it was from one of the wives. Make sure you put the wife will send pics to her employer, friends, family if she doesn't stop. That usually has them shaking in their boots from what I've heard.

I thought we don't ever contact the wives and ruin their lives. Now we do?

In this case, the poster was male and complaining about his cheating ex-wife. The advice is apparently to contact HER.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you save any of his texts? You could take a screen shot and send to the wife.
You'd be surprised how much that happens.

I saved everything, but I have no desire to contact her out of the blue. Should she ever contact me for the truth or what I have to say I would happily share them with her. I was always surprised she never contacted me to ask me questions or question what her husband told her. It's alarming how a cheater gets caught and the wife just assumes what he has to say his 100% truth.

Too bad she may be surprised you never contacted her for the "truth".

I was advised by DCUM to never contact the wife. That it was selfish of me and I had no good intentions if I was even thinking of doing so. It would be done out of anger, which wasn't the case. I'm not angry, I'm pretty indifferent.

If I were the wife I would want to know. Not worth dying over a deadly std. If she knows he was cheating and chose to stay, that's on her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh please. Women on here are so clueless when it comes to why people cheat. You think "ethics" and "morals" is going to keep your DH home at night. Cheating is about opportunity but MOST men who have a fruitful life at home are not looking to seize on the opportunity. And some of you even refuse to acknowledge that your mate raised this issue before stepping out the door. You become humorless shrews and expect your DH to just sit there and take sex whenever you dole it out. If your DH or DW cheats, something is missing at home. Period!

Statistics? Please educate yourself on this. People (especially men) cheat even when happily married. Women who cheat are more likely looking for an exit affair - once that causes the implosion of the marriage. Men are just looking for an easy lay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you save any of his texts? You could take a screen shot and send to the wife.
You'd be surprised how much that happens.

I saved everything, but I have no desire to contact her out of the blue. Should she ever contact me for the truth or what I have to say I would happily share them with her. I was always surprised she never contacted me to ask me questions or question what her husband told her. It's alarming how a cheater gets caught and the wife just assumes what he has to say his 100% truth.

Too bad she may be surprised you never contacted her for the "truth".

I was advised by DCUM to never contact the wife. That it was selfish of me and I had no good intentions if I was even thinking of doing so. It would be done out of anger, which wasn't the case. I'm not angry, I'm pretty indifferent.

I'm on DCUM, and I always advise the opposite. She has the right to know the truth of her marriage.

[Anonymous]

Cheating is just 2 f'd up people finding each other.

You expect an f'd up women to suddenly be normal and not have an affair due to "solidarity". These women are broken, hate themselves and are pathetic.

The men are broken, hate their own lives, blame their wives and are pathetic.

It's like asking 2 drug addicts to not offer heroin to the other.

It's just as pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh please. Women on here are so clueless when it comes to why people cheat. You think "ethics" and "morals" is going to keep your DH home at night. Cheating is about opportunity but MOST men who have a fruitful life at home are not looking to seize on the opportunity. And some of you even refuse to acknowledge that your mate raised this issue before stepping out the door. You become humorless shrews and expect your DH to just sit there and take sex whenever you dole it out. If your DH or DW cheats, something is missing at home. Period!

Ha, cheaters always blame others instead of themselves. Come to think of it so do all abusers. A common denominator.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you save any of his texts? You could take a screen shot and send to the wife.
You'd be surprised how much that happens.

I saved everything, but I have no desire to contact her out of the blue. Should she ever contact me for the truth or what I have to say I would happily share them with her. I was always surprised she never contacted me to ask me questions or question what her husband told her. It's alarming how a cheater gets caught and the wife just assumes what he has to say his 100% truth.

Too bad she may be surprised you never contacted her for the "truth".

I was advised by DCUM to never contact the wife. That it was selfish of me and I had no good intentions if I was even thinking of doing so. It would be done out of anger, which wasn't the case. I'm not angry, I'm pretty indifferent.

I'm on DCUM, and I always advise the opposite. She has the right to know the truth of her marriage.

As a wife I would want to know so I could start moving money. Have some garage sales etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cheating is just 2 f'd up people finding each other.

You expect an f'd up women to suddenly be normal and not have an affair due to "solidarity". These women are broken, hate themselves and are pathetic.

The men are broken, hate their own lives, blame their wives and are pathetic.

It's like asking 2 drug addicts to not offer heroin to the other.

It's just as pathetic.

Why most 2nd marriages are worse. Except they F up their kids which is really sad.