Women, cheating, and solidarity

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cheating is just 2 f'd up people finding each other.

You expect an f'd up women to suddenly be normal and not have an affair due to "solidarity". These women are broken, hate themselves and are pathetic.

The men are broken, hate their own lives, blame their wives and are pathetic.

It's like asking 2 drug addicts to not offer heroin to the other.

It's just as pathetic.

Thank you for the insight single line sentence paragraph poster. Which Ivy did you receive your psychology degree from?

Life is a bit more complicated than you try to make it out to be.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The thread about comfort level with DH's female friends got me thinking. There is a special place in hell for women who cheat with married men with young kids. I'm not excusing the husbands' behavior; they are unquestionably responsible, but there are two players in every affair. Maybe a 20 year old girl gets some kind of pass for being clueless about what new parenthood (or marriage or adulthood) is like. But holy heck, ladies, how about a little solidarity with our fellow moms? You may have your own baggage to deal with, but if you're even close to a boundary with a married recent father, couldn't you just pause for a minute to remember yourself as a new mom, have some empathy for his wife, and not make her already challenging few years complete misery?

I used to be 20 and would never consider someone that was married. I was taught morals and values so really there is no excuse.

There is a special place in hell for any cheater considering there is either compromise or divorcing and then dating. No excuse whatsoever.

I've seen some really bad karma happen to cheaters, I'm ok with that.

Here's another way of looking at that. Karna comes back and hits the faithful spouse in the balls when his wife cheats.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you save any of his texts? You could take a screen shot and send to the wife.
You'd be surprised how much that happens.

I saved everything, but I have no desire to contact her out of the blue. Should she ever contact me for the truth or what I have to say I would happily share them with her. I was always surprised she never contacted me to ask me questions or question what her husband told her. It's alarming how a cheater gets caught and the wife just assumes what he has to say his 100% truth.

Too bad she may be surprised you never contacted her for the "truth".

I was advised by DCUM to never contact the wife. That it was selfish of me and I had no good intentions if I was even thinking of doing so. It would be done out of anger, which wasn't the case. I'm not angry, I'm pretty indifferent.

I'm on DCUM, and I always advise the opposite. She has the right to know the truth of her marriage.

As a wife I would want to know so I could start moving money. Have some garage sales etc.

And to start selling some of his stuff too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh please. Women on here are so clueless when it comes to why people cheat. You think "ethics" and "morals" is going to keep your DH home at night. Cheating is about opportunity but MOST men who have a fruitful life at home are not looking to seize on the opportunity. And some of you even refuse to acknowledge that your mate raised this issue before stepping out the door. You become humorless shrews and expect your DH to just sit there and take sex whenever you dole it out. If your DH or DW cheats, something is missing at home. Period!

Statistics? Please educate yourself on this. People (especially men) cheat even when happily married. Women who cheat are more likely looking for an exit affair - once that causes the implosion of the marriage. Men are just looking for an easy lay.

Right...because STATISTICS have the answer especially when they validate what women already think. Men and women alike cheat for the same reasons - because shit is not right at home. You and all those other wives can cite whatever statistics prove your point - but anyone who uses statistics as a reason that their marriage went South is delusional. If that is the case, your DH is ALWAYS one willing woman away from cheating no matter how well things are going. That does not sound like snake oil to you? If that is the case, marriage is a hopeless endeavor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cheating is just 2 f'd up people finding each other.

You expect an f'd up women to suddenly be normal and not have an affair due to "solidarity". These women are broken, hate themselves and are pathetic.

The men are broken, hate their own lives, blame their wives and are pathetic.

It's like asking 2 drug addicts to not offer heroin to the other.

It's just as pathetic.

Thank you for the insight single line sentence paragraph poster. Which Ivy did you receive your psychology degree from?

Life is a bit more complicated than you try to make it out to be.

Well...at least she has a degree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cheating is just 2 f'd up people finding each other.

You expect an f'd up women to suddenly be normal and not have an affair due to "solidarity". These women are broken, hate themselves and are pathetic.

The men are broken, hate their own lives, blame their wives and are pathetic.

It's like asking 2 drug addicts to not offer heroin to the other.

It's just as pathetic.

Thank you for the insight single line sentence paragraph poster. Which Ivy did you receive your psychology degree from?

Life is a bit more complicated than you try to make it out to be.

I am sure all the voices in your head make it very complicated. But life is not that complicated for normal people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh please. Women on here are so clueless when it comes to why people cheat. You think "ethics" and "morals" is going to keep your DH home at night. Cheating is about opportunity but MOST men who have a fruitful life at home are not looking to seize on the opportunity. And some of you even refuse to acknowledge that your mate raised this issue before stepping out the door. You become humorless shrews and expect your DH to just sit there and take sex whenever you dole it out. If your DH or DW cheats, something is missing at home. Period!

Statistics? Please educate yourself on this. People (especially men) cheat even when happily married. Women who cheat are more likely looking for an exit affair - once that causes the implosion of the marriage. Men are just looking for an easy lay.

Right...because STATISTICS have the answer especially when they validate what women already think. Men and women alike cheat for the same reasons - because shit is not right at home. You and all those other wives can cite whatever statistics prove your point - but anyone who uses statistics as a reason that their marriage went South is delusional. If that is the case, your DH is ALWAYS one willing woman away from cheating no matter how well things are going. That does not sound like snake oil to you? If that is the case, marriage is a hopeless endeavor.

Every DH has met a willing woman, good men don't cheat, broken men do. So yes, every broken man is 1 willing woman away from cheating, not all Hs.

Happy men cheat, sorry your AP loves his wife. You are delusional.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh please. Women on here are so clueless when it comes to why people cheat. You think "ethics" and "morals" is going to keep your DH home at night. Cheating is about opportunity but MOST men who have a fruitful life at home are not looking to seize on the opportunity. And some of you even refuse to acknowledge that your mate raised this issue before stepping out the door. You become humorless shrews and expect your DH to just sit there and take sex whenever you dole it out. If your DH or DW cheats, something is missing at home. Period!

Statistics? Please educate yourself on this. People (especially men) cheat even when happily married. Women who cheat are more likely looking for an exit affair - once that causes the implosion of the marriage. Men are just looking for an easy lay.

Right...because STATISTICS have the answer especially when they validate what women already think. Men and women alike cheat for the same reasons - because shit is not right at home. You and all those other wives can cite whatever statistics prove your point - but anyone who uses statistics as a reason that their marriage went South is delusional. If that is the case, your DH is ALWAYS one willing woman away from cheating no matter how well things are going. That does not sound like snake oil to you? If that is the case, marriage is a hopeless endeavor.

Only if you think that every man is incapable of not going balls deep in strange just for kicks.

You are a misandrist.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cheating is just 2 f'd up people finding each other.

You expect an f'd up women to suddenly be normal and not have an affair due to "solidarity". These women are broken, hate themselves and are pathetic.

The men are broken, hate their own lives, blame their wives and are pathetic.

It's like asking 2 drug addicts to not offer heroin to the other.

It's just as pathetic.

Thank you for the insight single line sentence paragraph poster. Which Ivy did you receive your psychology degree from?

Life is a bit more complicated than you try to make it out to be.

Well...at least she has a degree.

We all do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Cheating is just 2 f'd up people finding each other.

You expect an f'd up women to suddenly be normal and not have an affair due to "solidarity". These women are broken, hate themselves and are pathetic.

The men are broken, hate their own lives, blame their wives and are pathetic.

It's like asking 2 drug addicts to not offer heroin to the other.

It's just as pathetic.

Thank you for the insight single line sentence paragraph poster. Which Ivy did you receive your psychology degree from?

Life is a bit more complicated than you try to make it out to be.

I am sure all the voices in your head make it very complicated. But life is not that complicated for normal people.

I guess you are not following all of the posts in this forum about how unhappy spouses are, how they are not attracted to their significant other, how they think about divorce all the time, how they stay for the kids, how they are struggling to find any reason to stay, etc etc etc... The posts say otherwise. They say life is complicated and that lots of folks are unhappy, lots would love to leave their spouses, lots would never have married their spouses, and a lots think about leaving all the time. Life is not black and white, there is tons of gray.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh please. Women on here are so clueless when it comes to why people cheat. You think "ethics" and "morals" is going to keep your DH home at night. Cheating is about opportunity but MOST men who have a fruitful life at home are not looking to seize on the opportunity. And some of you even refuse to acknowledge that your mate raised this issue before stepping out the door. You become humorless shrews and expect your DH to just sit there and take sex whenever you dole it out. If your DH or DW cheats, something is missing at home. Period!

Statistics? Please educate yourself on this. People (especially men) cheat even when happily married. Women who cheat are more likely looking for an exit affair - once that causes the implosion of the marriage. Men are just looking for an easy lay.

Right...because STATISTICS have the answer especially when they validate what women already think. Men and women alike cheat for the same reasons - because shit is not right at home. You and all those other wives can cite whatever statistics prove your point - but anyone who uses statistics as a reason that their marriage went South is delusional. If that is the case, your DH is ALWAYS one willing woman away from cheating no matter how well things are going. That does not sound like snake oil to you? If that is the case, marriage is a hopeless endeavor.

Every DH has met a willing woman, good men don't cheat, broken men do. So yes, every broken man is 1 willing woman away from cheating, not all Hs.

Happy men cheat, sorry your AP loves his wife. You are delusional.

LOL. That's funny. I am delusional, but you are telling me that men cheat for kicks and women cheat because they want the marriage to break up. What I am telling you that women and men cheat for similar reasons no matter what some statistics say. And you are relying on statistics when you have hundreds of examples right here in DCUM telling you otherwise. But go ahead and flourish with your statistics.

Oh, and I am an ex-wife that was cheated on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Cheating is just 2 f'd up people finding each other.

You expect an f'd up women to suddenly be normal and not have an affair due to "solidarity". These women are broken, hate themselves and are pathetic.

The men are broken, hate their own lives, blame their wives and are pathetic.

It's like asking 2 drug addicts to not offer heroin to the other.

It's just as pathetic.

Thank you for the insight single line sentence paragraph poster. Which Ivy did you receive your psychology degree from?

Life is a bit more complicated than you try to make it out to be.

I am sure all the voices in your head make it very complicated. But life is not that complicated for normal people.

I guess you are not following all of the posts in this forum about how unhappy spouses are, how they are not attracted to their significant other, how they think about divorce all the time, how they stay for the kids, how they are struggling to find any reason to stay, etc etc etc... The posts say otherwise. They say life is complicated and that lots of folks are unhappy, lots would love to leave their spouses, lots would never have married their spouses, and a lots think about leaving all the time. Life is not black and white, there is tons of gray.

+1. A PP here. I do not understand folks' reluctance to even acknowledge what you are saying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Cheating is just 2 f'd up people finding each other.

You expect an f'd up women to suddenly be normal and not have an affair due to "solidarity". These women are broken, hate themselves and are pathetic.

The men are broken, hate their own lives, blame their wives and are pathetic.

It's like asking 2 drug addicts to not offer heroin to the other.

It's just as pathetic.

Thank you for the insight single line sentence paragraph poster. Which Ivy did you receive your psychology degree from?

Life is a bit more complicated than you try to make it out to be.

I am sure all the voices in your head make it very complicated. But life is not that complicated for normal people.

Thank you, great post. There are some very sad dysfunctional people here who justify a sad and sick lifestyle.
The OP while meaning well attracted the cockroaches to this thread instead of people who have similar values. Those people can't relate, it's all they've known. It's like telling the serial killer why it's not nice to kill people, lol.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cheating is just 2 f'd up people finding each other.

You expect an f'd up women to suddenly be normal and not have an affair due to "solidarity". These women are broken, hate themselves and are pathetic.

The men are broken, hate their own lives, blame their wives and are pathetic.

It's like asking 2 drug addicts to not offer heroin to the other.

It's just as pathetic.

Thank you for the insight single line sentence paragraph poster. Which Ivy did you receive your psychology degree from?

Life is a bit more complicated than you try to make it out to be.

I am sure all the voices in your head make it very complicated. But life is not that complicated for normal people.

Thank you, great post. There are some very sad dysfunctional people here who justify a sad and sick lifestyle.
The OP while meaning well attracted the cockroaches to this thread instead of people who have similar values. Those people can't relate, it's all they've known. It's like telling the serial killer why it's not nice to kill people, lol.

Lol?

I was cheated on by ex husband. How does this make me a cockroach or dysfunctional? I have similar values, however I understand that you are a sanctimonious self-righteous roach yourself if you believe anything is that simple...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cheating is just 2 f'd up people finding each other.

You expect an f'd up women to suddenly be normal and not have an affair due to "solidarity". These women are broken, hate themselves and are pathetic.

The men are broken, hate their own lives, blame their wives and are pathetic.

It's like asking 2 drug addicts to not offer heroin to the other.

It's just as pathetic.

Thank you for the insight single line sentence paragraph poster. Which Ivy did you receive your psychology degree from?

Life is a bit more complicated than you try to make it out to be.

I am sure all the voices in your head make it very complicated. But life is not that complicated for normal people.

Thank you, great post. There are some very sad dysfunctional people here who justify a sad and sick lifestyle.
The OP while meaning well attracted the cockroaches to this thread instead of people who have similar values. Those people can't relate, it's all they've known. It's like telling the serial killer why it's not nice to kill people, lol.

Interesting - because I do not see many people JUSTIFYING it. What I see is people arguing about the whys and what fors of it.