Women, cheating, and solidarity

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Anonymous wrote:There is a special place in hell for any cheater

According to Dante, the adulterers went to the 2nd circle of hell - pretty minor actually.

Anonymous wrote:considering there is either compromise or divorcing and then dating.

I'm sorry but "compromise"? No, there is divorce.

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Apparently a few disturbed cheaters on this thread. Rubbed a sore spot.

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Anonymous wrote:The thread about comfort level with DH's female friends got me thinking. There is a special place in hell for women who cheat with married men with young kids. I'm not excusing the husbands' behavior; they are unquestionably responsible, but there are two players in every affair. Maybe a 20 year old girl gets some kind of pass for being clueless about what new parenthood (or marriage or adulthood) is like. But holy heck, ladies, how about a little solidarity with our fellow moms? You may have your own baggage to deal with, but if you're even close to a boundary with a married recent father, couldn't you just pause for a minute to remember yourself as a new mom, have some empathy for his wife, and not make her already challenging few years complete misery?

There are 3 players. The wife usually has some play in the affair as well and there are usually issues in the marriage. The husband shouldn't cheat, but rarely is the marriage without issues and RARELY is the wife an innocent party in the marital issues.

Now tell me about how rape victims coulda, woulda, shoulda....

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Anonymous wrote:Meh. There is a special place in hell for everybody. By the time a new father actually cheats, lack of solidarity is probably the least of your problems. People are opportunistic, and you can't control what others do.

Maybe not but her employment would be getting some anon letters and pictures. He would also get his just desserts.

Those are things that do happen with cheaters, called cause and effect.

If this is the case, you absolutely deserve to be treated like crap, babies or not. Cause and effect, baby, cause and effect

I agree the cheaters do deserve to be treated like poo, certainly not the innocent spouse.

A little helpful hand is not a bad thing.

I agree that a helping hand is a bitch that deserves to be cheated on. She hand-picked her partner. She gets to bear the brunt. Sorry girls. Pick wiser.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a special place in hell for women who cheat with married men with young kids.

Can you explain to me why "young kids" makes an affair particularly more egregiously bad than at other times in a marriage?

Not OP, but I'm guessing because it's a particularly stressful time full of limited sleep, adjustments and changes. I'm thinking toddlerhood here btw, not elementary school aged kids.

New poster here - I'd guess because it's a notoriously stressful time of life (if you can't take the heat and all that) and also you have these 100% innocent beings dependent on the security and stability of their family.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh. There is a special place in hell for everybody. By the time a new father actually cheats, lack of solidarity is probably the least of your problems. People are opportunistic, and you can't control what others do.

Maybe not but her employment would be getting some anon letters and pictures. He would also get his just desserts.

Those are things that do happen with cheaters, called cause and effect.

If this is the case, you absolutely deserve to be treated like crap, babies or not. Cause and effect, baby, cause and effect

I agree the cheaters do deserve to be treated like poo, certainly not the innocent spouse.

A little helpful hand is not a bad thing.

I agree that a helping hand is a bitch that deserves to be cheated on. She hand-picked her partner. She gets to bear the brunt. Sorry girls. Pick wiser.

Says the disgruntled cheated who was caught and taken to the mat.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh. There is a special place in hell for everybody. By the time a new father actually cheats, lack of solidarity is probably the least of your problems. People are opportunistic, and you can't control what others do.

This.

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I hope there is a special place in hell for my ex. She cheated on me and has several fwb and some are married.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh. There is a special place in hell for everybody. By the time a new father actually cheats, lack of solidarity is probably the least of your problems. People are opportunistic, and you can't control what others do.

Maybe not but her employment would be getting some anon letters and pictures. He would also get his just desserts.

Those are things that do happen with cheaters, called cause and effect.

If this is the case, you absolutely deserve to be treated like crap, babies or not. Cause and effect, baby, cause and effect

I agree the cheaters do deserve to be treated like poo, certainly not the innocent spouse.

A little helpful hand is not a bad thing.

I agree that a helping hand is a bitch that deserves to be cheated on. She hand-picked her partner. She gets to bear the brunt. Sorry girls. Pick wiser.

Says the disgruntled cheated who was caught and taken to the mat.

Stop being a basic bitch and make better life choices. Maybe the next dude won't walk on you for a change.

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Anonymous wrote:I hope there is a special place in hell for my ex. She cheated on me and has several fwb and some are married.

Find out who they are and send some anon note to the wives or FB them. Might save them from some std.

You could have fun with your ex, pen a letter making her think it was from one of the wives. Make sure you put the wife will send pics to her employer, friends, family if she doesn't stop. That usually has them shaking in their boots from what I've heard.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh. There is a special place in hell for everybody. By the time a new father actually cheats, lack of solidarity is probably the least of your problems. People are opportunistic, and you can't control what others do.

Maybe not but her employment would be getting some anon letters and pictures. He would also get his just desserts.

Those are things that do happen with cheaters, called cause and effect.

If this is the case, you absolutely deserve to be treated like crap, babies or not. Cause and effect, baby, cause and effect

I agree the cheaters do deserve to be treated like poo, certainly not the innocent spouse.

A little helpful hand is not a bad thing.

I agree that a helping hand is a bitch that deserves to be cheated on. She hand-picked her partner. She gets to bear the brunt. Sorry girls. Pick wiser.

Says the disgruntled cheated who was caught and taken to the mat.

Stop being a basic bitch and make better life choices. Maybe the next dude won't walk on you for a change.

Poor thang, he went back to his wife. You finally learned you were just a hole in the mattress, LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:I hope there is a special place in hell for my ex. She cheated on me and has several fwb and some are married.

Find out who they are and send some anon note to the wives or FB them. Might save them from some std.

You could have fun with your ex, pen a letter making her think it was from one of the wives. Make sure you put the wife will send pics to her employer, friends, family if she doesn't stop. That usually has them shaking in their boots from what I've heard.

Wow, PP. How many times have you been cheated on?

[Anonymous]

I have never cheated on a partner, nor have I ever knowingly dated someone who was married or in a relationship (ie, have never been 'the other woman').

But I don't blame the other woman/man NEARLY as much as the person who made a commitment. That person bears 95% of the responsibility. That's the person who made a vow or commitment. That is by and large the guilty party, the awful person, and the POS.

Doesn't mean being the other woman/man makes you off the hook - that person absolutely has a broken moral compass. But grown ass men (or grown ass women) in committed relationships are responsible for their own decisions - they're the ones who choose dishonesty and infidelity.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh. There is a special place in hell for everybody. By the time a new father actually cheats, lack of solidarity is probably the least of your problems. People are opportunistic, and you can't control what others do.

Maybe not but her employment would be getting some anon letters and pictures. He would also get his just desserts.

Those are things that do happen with cheaters, called cause and effect.

If this is the case, you absolutely deserve to be treated like crap, babies or not. Cause and effect, baby, cause and effect

I agree the cheaters do deserve to be treated like poo, certainly not the innocent spouse.

A little helpful hand is not a bad thing.

I agree that a helping hand is a bitch that deserves to be cheated on. She hand-picked her partner. She gets to bear the brunt. Sorry girls. Pick wiser.

Says the disgruntled cheated who was caught and taken to the mat.

Stop being a basic bitch and make better life choices. Maybe the next dude won't walk on you for a change.

Poor thang, he went back to his wife. You finally learned you were just a hole in the mattress, LOL.

The wife took him back? What's the problem then, OP?

[Anonymous]

I will bet some of the cheaters here ended up with the garbage they cheated with.

Now they are in the same boat as the poor former spouse.