Woman of color who prefers white men

[Anonymous]

I also find it interesting that its assumed that the provocative posters are Black men. It's like you WANTED to bait and argue with Black men and get some attention finally. And if not them, why not White women instead because they're so jealous of you right?

Girl BYE.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here and I have no idea why some people to whom this thread presumably does not apply are posting ad hominems repeatedly. If you think black men are great, then go date one. If you disapprove of interracial dating, then date intraracially. Save the rest of your drama for someone who cares.

I posted asking why you're focus is on what Black men are lacking for you. I'm an AA woman myself who dates Black and White (and other) men. If someone posted a thread about preferring Black women because White women are slutty and classless and high maintenance, it would come across more as someone with sour grapes about White women than a praise of Black women. You're engaged...yet you're talking about what men who are *not* you're husband are missing. Well, if you're marrying your guy because you're happily in love, who cares???

A PP made a valid point about your future children. I would hope that you have only daughters but then you might teach them to also think like you. There are Black men who speak just as poorly as you do of Black women and you all come across as wounded people pretending to be unbothered. I'm sure you've met some real assholes who are also Black men. Was every man in your family a piece of filth as well? What about Dr. King? (I'd mention Obama, but you'd probably credit his White side.) Like it or not, your son will be viewed as a Black man and he will have to deal with other people's (often negative) perceptions of what his capabilities are. It would be nice if he doesn't have a Black mother who isn't also inherently biased as well.

This kind of delusional attitude is why the black community hasn't been able to fix itself. You're simply wishing away the.problem which is the disproportionate level of anti social behavior by young black males. It makes them on the whole poor choices as life partners for any woman with options. As long as.the.black community thinks the answer to every one.of its problems is to.claim racism and engage in delusional public relations efforts such as many of these.posts, women of all races.who have other options will think long and hard before pairing up with black men. Except for obese white trailer trash women of course, who.seem to have an affinity for.black men.

[Anonymous]

This thread is not about healing the black community. I have dated and know several positive, respectful Black men. If you don't, that's perhaps more a reflection of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is about race. Black American males have a disproportionately dysfunctional upbringing and that manifests itself in various ways. Attributing the bad behavior to racism doesn't erase the bad behavior. A thug is a thug even if the reason they became a thug was a poor uobringing due to the history of racism. At some point black men will have to take responsibility for own behavior despite the history of racism. Pretending black male behavior is fine and calling OP a racist for pointing out her personal experiences with black men won't change the bad behavior which they need to do if they are sincere about actually wanting women like OP to date black men ratber than.just insukt her.

I agree 110%! Your post really captures what has been bothering me about the constant denial of black men's antisocial behavior: Even if it is due to the legacy of slavery or segregation or daddy never loving them, what does that have to do with the women who have to deal with black men? Should we sacrifice ourselves on the altar of PC by choosing men who will never make good husbands and fathers? That is what a lot of black women do, with disastrous consequences for them and their children. There is a real misogyny in thinking that is okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also find it interesting that its assumed that the provocative posters are Black men. It's like you WANTED to bait and argue with Black men and get some attention finally. And if not them, why not White women instead because they're so jealous of you right?

Girl BYE.

No white woman cares enough about black men to enter a thread spouting insults and foaming at the mouth. Black men and deluded black women are the ones behind the attacks. I have seen your writing style before on other race threads and you are definitely a black woman.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I am a black woman that is married to a white man, and all I can say is that your post is offensive, and you need to expand your world view and/or life experience, as they both come across as embarrassingly shallow.

Sometimes the truth can be offensive but nonetheless it's the truth. You didn't marry a black man either yet you criticize OP for not wanting to do so. She's honest, you're disingenuous.

Lol, whoever you are, you are ruffling some feathers with the truth.

[Anonymous]

Happy for you OP! I think you're smart. I am white and have pretty much dated within my race but I could see what you mean. My number one pet peeve with guys is when they think they're God's gift to women, and when they're misogynistic. It would make sense that someone who has overcome financial odds to make it in life (since African Americans tend to be, overall, more economically disadvantaged- of course, there are many exceptions to this) then they would be a bit cocky and full of themselves.

I definitely get what OP is saying, and I dont think there's anything wrong with it.

OP, I am glad you found a man you love, who treats you well. And if you had to avoid a certain group of people to find it, even a group you might have been expected to date, well- somehow that's what happens in life! Regardless of race.

Good for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Happy for you OP! I think you're smart. I am white and have pretty much dated within my race but I could see what you mean. My number one pet peeve with guys is when they think they're God's gift to women, and when they're misogynistic. It would make sense that someone who has overcome financial odds to make it in life (since African Americans tend to be, overall, more economically disadvantaged- of course, there are many exceptions to this) then they would be a bit cocky and full of themselves.

I definitely get what OP is saying, and I dont think there's anything wrong with it.

OP, I am glad you found a man you love, who treats you well. And if you had to avoid a certain group of people to find it, even a group you might have been expected to date, well- somehow that's what happens in life! Regardless of race.

Good for you.

Aww, is that you, OP?

I am a white woman and I don't give a flying f@uck who white men are dating! They can date white, black, Asian, alien - I don't care one bit!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder how white women feel about white men going for nonwhite women. I have definitely been hurt by losing a few white female friends who just couldn't believe that white men they found attractive wanted and preferred dark "exotic" me. No one told them that Disney movies aren't real, lol.

The dagger stares I received from some white women who saw me out with my various nonwhite girlfriends (African American and Asian) over the years still haunt me.

White women definitely care. They react very poorly to any indication that they are not the gold standard. I have had white waitresses "accidentally" spill water on me or refuse to look at me when taking my order. I have had white female coworkers ask very rude questions like "do you think he has a fetish?" To these women, a man of color dating a white woman is normal, but a white man dating a woman of color must have an unhealthy fetish. Okay then.

White woman here. Honestly would never occur to me to care at all. Makes no sense. I suspect most white women are like me. Is it possible there's another reason people are rude to you? I mean, you do seem pretty obnoxious.

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Anonymous wrote:Believe me, I've seen with my own 2 eyes that some (not all) white women will get blood boiling angry if a white man is interested in a woman of any color except them.

As far as I'm concerned, date whoever you want to date. It's no one's business who you choose to be in a relationship with no matter what color.

Yes, it happens. I've received a glare and racist comment from a white woman when I (Asian) was with my DH (white). I've also heard negative comments from some Asian men about Asian women dating white men. It probably happens in every race.

White women are very jealous of Asians because Asians tend to be less prone to eat themselves to gargantuan dimensions.

Hmm. Interesting. No one on this thread has said anything rude about Asian women. Yet you seem very bitter and mean toward white women. Who's jealous again?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder how white women feel about white men going for nonwhite women. I have definitely been hurt by losing a few white female friends who just couldn't believe that white men they found attractive wanted and preferred dark "exotic" me. No one told them that Disney movies aren't real, lol.

It sounds like you want to believe white women are upset about this. We aren't. Go for it! I'm not seething about what race a white man dates. If he's not dating me, I don't care and hope everybody's happy.

I'm glad that's your experience, but for a lot of white women this is actually a thing. It's not good and definitely not universal, but it happens, so the PP's experience is totally believable. I've encountered it from white female friends who thought I would be their sympathetic ear about asian-american women taking "our" men.

I've never met a single white woman who would ever say anything like that. Maybe the difference is education level?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you're a piece of work. While I am glad you've found your Prince Charming, your prejudice against black men is truly disgusting. I hope you seek therapy if you decide to have children, as any sons of yours will someday be black men.

Let's talk. I am quit sure that my post makes clear that I dislike the personalities and values of many of the black men I have encountered. These are cultural, not genetic, traits and I have the choice to raise any son I have differently. Do you disagree?

NP: Because you write as if ALL black men are like those you encountered when you have to know that is not the case. There are as many good brothers out here as they are assholes. And white men can be assholes, too. So can Chinese men. And Filipino men. And Latino men. And so on.

But, hey, do you.

I am glad this has been your experience, but it has definitely not been mine. Both stats and my real life experiences and the experiences of my friends who have dated black men confirm that there is a real crisis of misogyny, promiscuity and all around classless behavior among black men. I am not going to disregard my real life experience in order to please you. As I said before, the behaviors of black men that I describe are cultural and I can decide not to raise my son to behave in such ways.

Is your father black? Is he a piece of shit black man? How about brothers, got any of those? Male cousins? Uncles? You and your friends need new people if the only folks you attract are assholes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Believe me, I've seen with my own 2 eyes that some (not all) white women will get blood boiling angry if a white man is interested in a woman of any color except them.

As far as I'm concerned, date whoever you want to date. It's no one's business who you choose to be in a relationship with no matter what color.

Yes, it happens. I've received a glare and racist comment from a white woman when I (Asian) was with my DH (white). I've also heard negative comments from some Asian men about Asian women dating white men. It probably happens in every race.

White women are very jealous of Asians because Asians tend to be less prone to eat themselves to gargantuan dimensions.

Hmm. Interesting. No one on this thread has said anything rude about Asian women. Yet you seem very bitter and mean toward white women. Who's jealous again?

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This is the same kind of reality denial as up thread concerning black male dating behavior. American white women on AVERAGE are grossly obese. Many aa women are even worse. In contrast, Asian women on the whole tend to be much more HEALTHY, PETITE,and slender. Obese women tend to blame others for their obesity and are jealous of more healthy and attractive women. There is a thread right now about a woman jealous of her own daughter.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder how white women feel about white men going for nonwhite women. I have definitely been hurt by losing a few white female friends who just couldn't believe that white men they found attractive wanted and preferred dark "exotic" me. No one told them that Disney movies aren't real, lol.

It sounds like you want to believe white women are upset about this. We aren't. Go for it! I'm not seething about what race a white man dates. If he's not dating me, I don't care and hope everybody's happy.

I'm glad that's your experience, but for a lot of white women this is actually a thing. It's not good and definitely not universal, but it happens, so the PP's experience is totally believable. I've encountered it from white female friends who thought I would be their sympathetic ear about asian-american women taking "our" men.

I've never met a single white woman who would ever say anything like that. Maybe the difference is education level?

Maybe the difference is BMI.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here and I have no idea why some people to whom this thread presumably does not apply are posting ad hominems repeatedly. If you think black men are great, then go date one. If you disapprove of interracial dating, then date intraracially. Save the rest of your drama for someone who cares.

If you don't want comments and opinions don't post on a public message board. And if you don't care ignore and move on to the next. I'm pretty sure few people here care about your self-hate but you shared it.