Feeling sad about losing a mom friendship over bullying

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you just take a break and keep the kids separate for awhile before blowing it all up? They are 6 and by nature and poor social skills. Kids don't get along one month and are best friends the next at this age.

This is not sound advice. Six is plenty old enough to know. Do not put your child with this other child to get re-victimized.

"Re-vitimized"? Good Lord, do you know any 6 year olds?

You must be a mom of a bully.

You must not even have kids to be so clueless.

You are clueless. I have children and am a teacher.

So what is your point? Kids don't engage is this behavior?

Yes they do. That’s not a free pass to beat up a kid. What is your point?

Yet OP is sad the friendship is over. I don't think it happened as she said since she left that out of her OP. She's either trolling or embellishing because the initial comments didn't got the way she intended. If someone actually did that to your kid would you feel bad you couldn't be friends? I wouldn't. Why does OP care about this friendship if things were so bad? Something is off.

I am not trolling. This all happened. I am very sad the friendship was over. Up till now we were very close and the families did everything together.

I don't believe you, sorry. I wouldn't feel the least bit bad about severing a friendship if what you said actually happened. Why do you?

I am allowed to feel sad over six years of doing things together and then realizing that this episode means the friendship has changed. You are allowed to believe what you believe. I mentioned physical stuff in my first post. I guess I should have provided more details to satisfy your curiosity.

Yep, in this case the details matter. It's troll like behavior to come back later and fill it in.

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It’s not far off thinking that a child is a bully when you realize how many bully moms are bullying and being very defensive on here. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.

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Ok you do you. I would like to hear from others who been there and done that.

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you just take a break and keep the kids separate for awhile before blowing it all up? They are 6 and by nature and poor social skills. Kids don't get along one month and are best friends the next at this age.

This is not sound advice. Six is plenty old enough to know. Do not put your child with this other child to get re-victimized.

"Re-vitimized"? Good Lord, do you know any 6 year olds?

You must be a mom of a bully.

You must not even have kids to be so clueless.

You are clueless. I have children and am a teacher.

So what is your point? Kids don't engage is this behavior?

Yes they do. That’s not a free pass to beat up a kid. What is your point?

Yet OP is sad the friendship is over. I don't think it happened as she said since she left that out of her OP. She's either trolling or embellishing because the initial comments didn't got the way she intended. If someone actually did that to your kid would you feel bad you couldn't be friends? I wouldn't. Why does OP care about this friendship if things were so bad? Something is off.

I am not trolling. This all happened. I am very sad the friendship was over. Up till now we were very close and the families did everything together.

I don't believe you, sorry. I wouldn't feel the least bit bad about severing a friendship if what you said actually happened. Why do you?

I am allowed to feel sad over six years of doing things together and then realizing that this episode means the friendship has changed. You are allowed to believe what you believe. I mentioned physical stuff in my first post. I guess I should have provided more details to satisfy your curiosity.

Yep, in this case the details matter. It's troll like behavior to come back later and fill it in.

Are you the bully’s mom?

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Anonymous wrote:Kindergarten? Did you at least try to give her time to address it with her child before you went all after school special? Bullying? In kindergarten? Good grief, they’re five!

And headed toward sociopath. It takes a very big issue for a school to separate kids. I know this from experience unfortunately.

Not according to the bully mom’s. They just want it to continue and let her son take it.

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Anonymous wrote:Kindergarten? Did you at least try to give her time to address it with her child before you went all after school special? Bullying? In kindergarten? Good grief, they’re five!

And headed toward sociopath. It takes a very big issue for a school to separate kids. I know this from experience unfortunately.

Not according to the bully mom’s. They just want it to continue and let her son take it.

What son? Did you even read the OP?

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you just take a break and keep the kids separate for awhile before blowing it all up? They are 6 and by nature and poor social skills. Kids don't get along one month and are best friends the next at this age.

This is not sound advice. Six is plenty old enough to know. Do not put your child with this other child to get re-victimized.

"Re-vitimized"? Good Lord, do you know any 6 year olds?

You must be a mom of a bully.

You must not even have kids to be so clueless.

You are clueless. I have children and am a teacher.

So what is your point? Kids don't engage is this behavior?

Yes they do. That’s not a free pass to beat up a kid. What is your point?

Yet OP is sad the friendship is over. I don't think it happened as she said since she left that out of her OP. She's either trolling or embellishing because the initial comments didn't got the way she intended. If someone actually did that to your kid would you feel bad you couldn't be friends? I wouldn't. Why does OP care about this friendship if things were so bad? Something is off.

I am not trolling. This all happened. I am very sad the friendship was over. Up till now we were very close and the families did everything together.

I don't believe you, sorry. I wouldn't feel the least bit bad about severing a friendship if what you said actually happened. Why do you?

I am allowed to feel sad over six years of doing things together and then realizing that this episode means the friendship has changed. You are allowed to believe what you believe. I mentioned physical stuff in my first post. I guess I should have provided more details to satisfy your curiosity.

Yep, in this case the details matter. It's troll like behavior to come back later and fill it in.

Are you the bully’s mom?

Why don't you ask OP why she's so sad about not being friends with the bully's mom. Make that make sense.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not far off thinking that a child is a bully when you realize how many bully moms are bullying and being very defensive on here. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.

+10000

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I’m going to have to understand more here before I can decide that OP was right or whether OP is a drama queen herself. Not enough facts.

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Good on your school for taking action OP. Our school doesn’t do $hit about this kind of stuff, even when repeatedly brought to their attention. You did the right thing.

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In kindergarten??

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you just take a break and keep the kids separate for awhile before blowing it all up? They are 6 and by nature and poor social skills. Kids don't get along one month and are best friends the next at this age.

This is not sound advice. Six is plenty old enough to know. Do not put your child with this other child to get re-victimized.

"Re-vitimized"? Good Lord, do you know any 6 year olds?

You must be a mom of a bully.

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You must be moms of toddlers. Do you know how many times my kids have come home crying about so-and-so excluding them and not playing with them and then the next week they forget all about it and are best friends? Happens all the time. Or my kids didn't get along with some kids who were too physical, or bossy, and then a few months later all is forgotten and everyone is friends. You people need to chill and quit labelling young children as monsters when they are all still just figuring things out. Maybe OP and the kid aren't meant to be friends, or maybe they will work it out. It's kindergarten, after the summer it can all change.

I think it’s weird the OP seems to think the very over the top sounding physical issues are equivalent to the pretty typical mean girl behavior of exclusion which does happen quite a lot. It’s not great but it’s definitely not on the same level as punching and leaving bruises. Regardless it’s ok to be sad but is this really a big change? Did the girls play together fine before this? It sounds like a big escalation and I guess it would make me curious and slightly worried about the other girl. And I say that as a parent of a DD who has had some behavioral issues we work with multiple professionals on.

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Anonymous wrote:I had a close family friend and our kids knew each other since they were babies. The families did everything together, including vacationing. Kids are now in kindergarten .Turns out that her kid was bullying my kid physically and also isolating her from other kids and teachers by spreading rumors. The school separated them and I also cut off all play dates and all activities they had together. I know I did the right thing for my kid but I am still mourning the six yr friendship - even though I hope adults can look pass this the reality is things aren’t the same. Any words of wisdom?

I am curious how a kindergartner isolates another kindergartner from teachers by spreading rumors.

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Anonymous wrote:I had a close family friend and our kids knew each other since they were babies. The families did everything together, including vacationing. Kids are now in kindergarten .Turns out that her kid was bullying my kid physically and also isolating her from other kids and teachers by spreading rumors. The school separated them and I also cut off all play dates and all activities they had together. I know I did the right thing for my kid but I am still mourning the six yr friendship - even though I hope adults can look pass this the reality is things aren’t the same. Any words of wisdom?

I am curious how a kindergartner isolates another kindergartner from teachers by spreading rumors.

Well the kid would go to the teachers and say that DD was rude. DD would try to deny it and the teachers would not believe her because DD was very attached to this girl and was clingy before.

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you just take a break and keep the kids separate for awhile before blowing it all up? They are 6 and by nature and poor social skills. Kids don't get along one month and are best friends the next at this age.

This is not sound advice. Six is plenty old enough to know. Do not put your child with this other child to get re-victimized.

"Re-vitimized"? Good Lord, do you know any 6 year olds?

You must be a mom of a bully.

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You must be moms of toddlers. Do you know how many times my kids have come home crying about so-and-so excluding them and not playing with them and then the next week they forget all about it and are best friends? Happens all the time. Or my kids didn't get along with some kids who were too physical, or bossy, and then a few months later all is forgotten and everyone is friends. You people need to chill and quit labelling young children as monsters when they are all still just figuring things out. Maybe OP and the kid aren't meant to be friends, or maybe they will work it out. It's kindergarten, after the summer it can all change.

I think it’s weird the OP seems to think the very over the top sounding physical issues are equivalent to the pretty typical mean girl behavior of exclusion which does happen quite a lot. It’s not great but it’s definitely not on the same level as punching and leaving bruises. Regardless it’s ok to be sad but is this really a big change? Did the girls play together fine before this? It sounds like a big escalation and I guess it would make me curious and slightly worried about the other girl. And I say that as a parent of a DD who has had some behavioral issues we work with multiple professionals on.

The girl was always kind of mean but the physical stuff happened out of the blue last week. It makes me wonder how long this has been going on. Otherwise the usual girl stuff was par of course but I found nothing too alarming.