When the kids go to college, I'm out of this loveless and affectionless marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

+1 Another woman here who totally agrees.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What a crock of shit some of you spew out of your pie holes. A DH doing dishes, running a vacuum, or cooking dinner is gonna increase sex drive? Please, thats nothing more than you turning your DH into a chump.. Thinking of my DH raming his strong tongue between my legs makes me wet. Dishes? Please. All I hear are a bunch of tired word out stale excuses

You clearly know very little about women and/or marriage.

And if more men truly understood that chores = sex, there would be a marked decline in marriage. But men are too fucking stupid in our 20s to believe it, so the cycle continues.

Seriously: MEN GET NOTHING OUT OF MARRIAGE. NOTHING. But by the time we actually come to this realization, it's too fucking late.

I agree that men like you get nothing out of marriage, because you view a family as "nothing". You should not be married. You are way too selfish. I pity your family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What a crock of shit some of you spew out of your pie holes. A DH doing dishes, running a vacuum, or cooking dinner is gonna increase sex drive? Please, thats nothing more than you turning your DH into a chump.. Thinking of my DH raming his strong tongue between my legs makes me wet. Dishes? Please. All I hear are a bunch of tired word out stale excuses

You clearly know very little about women and/or marriage.

And if more men truly understood that chores = sex, there would be a marked decline in marriage. But men are too fucking stupid in our 20s to believe it, so the cycle continues.

Seriously: MEN GET NOTHING OUT OF MARRIAGE. NOTHING. But by the time we actually come to this realization, it's too fucking late.

I agree that men like you get nothing out of marriage, because you view a family as "nothing". You should not be married. You are way too selfish. I pity your family.

X2!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

Lol. Clearly written by a dude pretending to be a woman. You men are so transparent. Thanks for the laugh.

Although I believe this was written by a woman, why does that even matter?
If a man actually written this, would you say he is lying?
And why is it so funny to you?

Man here: I agree with the above post. Men are not that complicated. Sexual enthusiasm trumps all.

I'm currently in an affair with a man who loves his wife. Loves their history together, loves a lot of the time he spends with her. So why the affair? She doesn't want to have sex with him. He's a marathoner, and she's 50 pounds overweight. No sex drive. I'm in a decent, supportive marriage with a man who also has little sex drive. Moral of the story: even if a married couple are good friends and compatible in many other ways, there's a huge void in the relationship without that spark.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

Lol. Clearly written by a dude pretending to be a woman. You men are so transparent. Thanks for the laugh.

Although I believe this was written by a woman, why does that even matter?
If a man actually written this, would you say he is lying?
And why is it so funny to you?

Man here: I agree with the above post. Men are not that complicated. Sexual enthusiasm trumps all.

I'm currently in an affair with a man who loves his wife. Loves their history together, loves a lot of the time he spends with her. So why the affair? She doesn't want to have sex with him. He's a marathoner, and she's 50 pounds overweight. No sex drive. I'm in a decent, supportive marriage with a man who also has little sex drive. Moral of the story: even if a married couple are good friends and compatible in many other ways, there's a huge void in the relationship without that spark.

You are the same bitter man who has been trolling this whole thread and it's downright hilarious that you think you're fooling anyone.

[Anonymous]

It is sad that women want to withhold/not have sex when things are not going well in their marriage. Whereas sex is the glue that makes marriages resilient. All marriages will have issues, but when you are having sex, you have more reasons to want to work on it. Having a great sex life makes the man want to fix (or tolerate) whatever the problem in the marriage is. Withhold that and the man is emotionally checked out.

I also feel that sex has become a bargaining chip for many women because they do not actually enjoy having sex. See a dr if your libido has taken a dive, because it could be a medical reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is sad that women want to withhold/not have sex when things are not going well in their marriage. Whereas sex is the glue that makes marriages resilient. All marriages will have issues, but when you are having sex, you have more reasons to want to work on it. Having a great sex life makes the man want to fix (or tolerate) whatever the problem in the marriage is. Withhold that and the man is emotionally checked out.

I also feel that sex has become a bargaining chip for many women because they do not actually enjoy having sex. See a dr if your libido has taken a dive, because it could be a medical reason.

Yes, there very often IS a medical reason. But sometimes there's nothing you can do about that medical reason. If you're a woman of childbearing age and your testosterone has taken a dive, your doctor isn't going to prescribe testosterone. So then you're left trying to make up for your lack of testosterone. And hopefully, your DH will be more understanding than this jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

Lol. Clearly written by a dude pretending to be a woman. You men are so transparent. Thanks for the laugh.

Although I believe this was written by a woman, why does that even matter?
If a man actually written this, would you say he is lying?
And why is it so funny to you?

Man here: I agree with the above post. Men are not that complicated. Sexual enthusiasm trumps all.

I'm currently in an affair with a man who loves his wife. Loves their history together, loves a lot of the time he spends with her. So why the affair? She doesn't want to have sex with him. He's a marathoner, and she's 50 pounds overweight. No sex drive. I'm in a decent, supportive marriage with a man who also has little sex drive. Moral of the story: even if a married couple are good friends and compatible in many other ways, there's a huge void in the relationship without that spark.

Moral of the story: people who cheat on their spouses with other married people are very invested in justifying their awful behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

+1 Another woman here who totally agrees.

Another woman here, and I don't see anything flameworthy about what you're saying. You're saying your healthy libido is at least partially responsible for your healthy marriage. Yay! That's far from what OP (and his possibly sockpuppeting friend) is saying, which is that if a woman isn't into sex she deserves to be left, and it's all her fault. I don't think you're saying that. What if your sex drive falls off a cliff with menopause? Do you expect your husband to stay with you and help you work through it? OR do you think he should just leave you and the kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

+1 Another woman here who totally agrees.

Another woman here, and I don't see anything flameworthy about what you're saying. You're saying your healthy libido is at least partially responsible for your healthy marriage. Yay! That's far from what OP (and his possibly sockpuppeting friend) is saying, which is that if a woman isn't into sex she deserves to be left, and it's all her fault. I don't think you're saying that. What if your sex drive falls off a cliff with menopause? Do you expect your husband to stay with you and help you work through it? OR do you think he should just leave you and the kids?

NP here: I think it is sad and there is often no one to blame, but at a certain point incompatible needs are, well, incompatible. When a marriage becomes sexless or near-sexless and one of the spouses needs sex, the list of available options to manage that issue becomes very short, very fast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

Lol. Clearly written by a dude pretending to be a woman. You men are so transparent. Thanks for the laugh.

Although I believe this was written by a woman, why does that even matter?
If a man actually written this, would you say he is lying?
And why is it so funny to you?

Man here: I agree with the above post. Men are not that complicated. Sexual enthusiasm trumps all.

I'm currently in an affair with a man who loves his wife. Loves their history together, loves a lot of the time he spends with her. So why the affair? She doesn't want to have sex with him. He's a marathoner, and she's 50 pounds overweight. No sex drive. I'm in a decent, supportive marriage with a man who also has little sex drive. Moral of the story: even if a married couple are good friends and compatible in many other ways, there's a huge void in the relationship without that spark.

Moral of the story: people who cheat on their spouses with other married people are very invested in justifying their awful behavior.

X2

[Anonymous]

Men are very narrow minded. I have come to realize that nothing, not even family, means anything to (most) of them. But what do you do when it is all about their sex and you have nothing but chores and children, no energy and little desire for sex? What do you do when a man gives you absolutely no emotional and moral support, expects the chores and family to be taken care of (even though they don't care about these things?) then adds more chores to your list by expecting you to take care of his sexual needs at the end of the day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men are very narrow minded. I have come to realize that nothing, not even family, means anything to (most) of them. But what do you do when it is all about their sex and you have nothing but chores and children, no energy and little desire for sex? What do you do when a man gives you absolutely no emotional and moral support, expects the chores and family to be taken care of (even though they don't care about these things?) then adds more chores to your list by expecting you to take care of his sexual needs at the end of the day?

Same poster. Sex shouldn't be a chore but it becomes one when all of the support is gone. I love sex but not really into it lately because it is that one more piece of me taken with nothing given back in return. So it is not that I am not willing to give but once everything is taken and nothing is given in return, not even a pat on the back or hug in moments of feeling overwhelmed. WTF is a woman supposed to do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

Lol. Clearly written by a dude pretending to be a woman. You men are so transparent. Thanks for the laugh.

Although I believe this was written by a woman, why does that even matter?
If a man actually written this, would you say he is lying?
And why is it so funny to you?

Man here: I agree with the above post. Men are not that complicated. Sexual enthusiasm trumps all.

I'm currently in an affair with a man who loves his wife. Loves their history together, loves a lot of the time he spends with her. So why the affair? She doesn't want to have sex with him. He's a marathoner, and she's 50 pounds overweight. No sex drive. I'm in a decent, supportive marriage with a man who also has little sex drive. Moral of the story: even if a married couple are good friends and compatible in many other ways, there's a huge void in the relationship without that spark.

Moral of the story: people who cheat on their spouses with other married people are very invested in justifying their awful behavior.

X2

No the moral of the story is you both are lowly, scum of the earth, CHEATERS and don't deserve your wonderful spouses. GET A FREAKIN DIVORCE scum bags!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men are very narrow minded. I have come to realize that nothing, not even family, means anything to (most) of them. But what do you do when it is all about their sex and you have nothing but chores and children, no energy and little desire for sex? What do you do when a man gives you absolutely no emotional and moral support, expects the chores and family to be taken care of (even though they don't care about these things?) then adds more chores to your list by expecting you to take care of his sexual needs at the end of the day?

Divorce him.