When the kids go to college, I'm out of this loveless and affectionless marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here.

When there's this much anger, you need to look inside.

If you really think that a sexless marriage is ok, then thats your opinion. But from standpoint of OP and many other husbands on this board, its not.

You cant keep trying to deflect this back to the husband and say that its ALL his fault. Some of this is on the wife too.

Yes you're right that an ultimatum isnt the "right" thing to do, but the fact that its reached the ultimatum stage is a sign of how bad it is. At least he still cares to try and say something.

Whether or not you want to believe it, the next stage, which is silence, is the end. Because at that point, he just doesnt care anymore and he has checked out.

Marriage is about compromise, if you arent willing and if you dont care, then dont be surprised when he cheats or walks out the door.

Our first argument about the lack of sex was while we were engaged. My fiance said,"It'll get better once we're married and live together." That was 19 years ago. Guess what? We're at the silence stage, which is the end. I've already checked out. I argued about it for 15 years. He's in denial, even after couples counselling during which I told him explicitly that 3 or 4 times a month of tepid sex wasn't acceptable. He just doesn't like sex that much. Joke's on me, I guess.

3 or 4 times a month would make me the happiest man in the world. Now I am beginning to think that in order to keep my sanity I have to change this.

Ok OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband made it known early in our relationship he wants to have sex everyday. I don't have a particularly high sex drive and felt 2 times a week is more than sufficient. However, we compromised and settled on a little more than every other day. Sometimes it's everyday. Sometimes we'll take 2 nights off.

We have 3 kids and both work FT and are driving kids all over northern Virginia and Maryland all week long for sports and activities and parties. It's absolutely ridiculous to say you can't make time for sex. Can't isn't the same as not wanting to.

To be fair, he pulls his weight around the house, to make sure we can be done putting the kids down and cleaning the house so we can have sex. I don't think of this as a turn on though. He's just doing what he should be and that in turn helps fulfill his needs.

If I was up until midnight cleaning and handling the kids and he was sitting around watching TV, being lazy and otherwise disconnected from being a father and partner, that issue isn't sex. And I don't think I've read anywhere on here that women need to just spread their legs for a husband who's being a POS and failing at basic responsibilities.

Just take one for the team every now and then. Your marriage will thank you.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^^^^ Last few responses dude, for the last time, WE KNOW IT'S YOU. Youve been called out multiple times on this thread by myself and others. You have a very distinctive writing style and a very obvious end goal, which is making women feel like they have to fuck their husbands or the husband will get a divorce (which, if thats his attitude, will come as a threat to no one because he would have to be a piece of shit). No one is biting, no one believes your multiple troll accounts, when will you just give it up? You are a clearly trolling for the sake of it, but come on! Do you honestly think anyone believes you?

We get it, lady. You think every pro-sex post is a sock puppet or a troll or "gaslighting."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^^^^ Last few responses dude, for the last time, WE KNOW IT'S YOU. Youve been called out multiple times on this thread by myself and others. You have a very distinctive writing style and a very obvious end goal, which is making women feel like they have to fuck their husbands or the husband will get a divorce (which, if thats his attitude, will come as a threat to no one because he would have to be a piece of shit). No one is biting, no one believes your multiple troll accounts, when will you just give it up? You are a clearly trolling for the sake of it, but come on! Do you honestly think anyone believes you?

We get it, lady. You think every pro-sex post is a sock puppet or a troll or "gaslighting."

Because it's the SAME FUCKING PERSON. I am not the only one who pointed it out or is sick of it.

[Anonymous]

Rats you are on to me!
I'm the one person on planet earth who believes a successful marriage must include a regular sex life.
Guess I will go find some other forum to troll around in, leaving you DCUMers to high five one another for chasing me out. Please return to petting your cat and disciplining your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rats you are on to me!
I'm the one person on planet earth who believes a successful marriage must include a regular sex life.
Guess I will go find some other forum to troll around in, leaving you DCUMers to high five one another for chasing me out. Please return to petting your cat and disciplining your husband.

No, but you are the only troll who keeps posting on this dead thread. Guessing the same one who started it.

And BYEEEE!!! Don't let the door hit you on your way out!!

[Anonymous]

Tell me please how happy you are in your sexless marriage.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. Don't feed the anti-men, pro-sexless marriage poster here. Please!

Let this thread die.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^^^^ Last few responses dude, for the last time, WE KNOW IT'S YOU. Youve been called out multiple times on this thread by myself and others. You have a very distinctive writing style and a very obvious end goal, which is making women feel like they have to fuck their husbands or the husband will get a divorce (which, if thats his attitude, will come as a threat to no one because he would have to be a piece of shit). No one is biting, no one believes your multiple troll accounts, when will you just give it up? You are a clearly trolling for the sake of it, but come on! Do you honestly think anyone believes you?

We get it, lady. You think every pro-sex post is a sock puppet or a troll or "gaslighting."

Because it's the SAME FUCKING PERSON. I am not the only one who pointed it out or is sick of it.

Sure you're not the only one. Sock puppet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^^^^ Last few responses dude, for the last time, WE KNOW IT'S YOU. Youve been called out multiple times on this thread by myself and others. You have a very distinctive writing style and a very obvious end goal, which is making women feel like they have to fuck their husbands or the husband will get a divorce (which, if thats his attitude, will come as a threat to no one because he would have to be a piece of shit). No one is biting, no one believes your multiple troll accounts, when will you just give it up? You are a clearly trolling for the sake of it, but come on! Do you honestly think anyone believes you?

I just came back to check this thread and you are so delusional. I'm one of the MANY women ho have responded to your immature gifs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rats you are on to me!
I'm the one person on planet earth who believes a successful marriage must include a regular sex life.
Guess I will go find some other forum to troll around in, leaving you DCUMers to high five one another for chasing me out. Please return to petting your cat and disciplining your husband.

She's onto me as well. I'm apparently the second person on earth who believes a successfully marriage must include a regular sex life. And to make the immature gif poster even more upset, I'm a woman who enjoys sex.

[Anonymous]

Lol.

Can you imagine living with her. Let alone anyone wanting to have sex with her!

Poor people who actually have to associate with her IRL!