When the kids go to college, I'm out of this loveless and affectionless marriage

[Anonymous]

The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

Lol. Clearly written by a dude pretending to be a woman. You men are so transparent. Thanks for the laugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

See? Is it really all that hard to imagine?

I don't care about the home cooked meal, the vacuuming, or the second income. And I don't need you to be a fitness goddess, or the perfect mom. Sometimes I want to fuck you, to bend you over and pump away. It's fun, and it feels amazing to be inside you. But more than anything, I want you to want it (me) too.

It's not rocket science.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

See? Is it really all that hard to imagine?

I don't care about the home cooked meal, the vacuuming, or the second income. And I don't need you to be a fitness goddess, or the perfect mom. Sometimes I want to fuck you, to bend you over and pump away. It's fun, and it feels amazing to be inside you. But more than anything, I want you to want it (me) too.

It's not rocket science.

Answering yourself now? This just keeps getting more tragic...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

See? Is it really all that hard to imagine?

I don't care about the home cooked meal, the vacuuming, or the second income. And I don't need you to be a fitness goddess, or the perfect mom. Sometimes I want to fuck you, to bend you over and pump away. It's fun, and it feels amazing to be inside you. But more than anything, I want you to want it (me) too.

It's not rocket science.

Answering yourself now? This just keeps getting more tragic...

Doesn't make it any less true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a crock of shit some of you spew out of your pie holes. A DH doing dishes, running a vacuum, or cooking dinner is gonna increase sex drive? Please, thats nothing more than you turning your DH into a chump.. Thinking of my DH raming his strong tongue between my legs makes me wet. Dishes? Please. All I hear are a bunch of tired word out stale excuses

Sh*t. If this actually did something my W should be sucking and f*cking me every night. What she gets is a resentful chump. I wonder od love to actually make love to a woman against n, and not just have a perfunctory f*Ci once a month if I am lucky. In fact, I now try to avoid sex with her b/c it just destroys my self esteem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

Lol. Clearly written by a dude pretending to be a woman. You men are so transparent. Thanks for the laugh.

No, very much a DW. I know I wrote it tongue in cheek and a bit flippantly, but it is what I have experienced in my marriage. Our worst years (and having been married for 25 years I feel I have been through all kinds of highs and lows) - have been the ones with low or no sex.

Wanting to have sex with my DH translates to him that I want him for himself. Not for his earning abilities. I have spent a healthy amount of my married life wondering if he valued things in me that I myself valued (education, career, kids, well run home). The plain truth is that he values my other attributes but only because he feels valued himself (because of the rampant libido). These great attributes were present even during the tough no-sex years and he could not care less.

I can laugh about it now because the marriage is at a very good place.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

See? Is it really all that hard to imagine?

I don't care about the home cooked meal, the vacuuming, or the second income. And I don't need you to be a fitness goddess, or the perfect mom. Sometimes I want to fuck you, to bend you over and pump away. It's fun, and it feels amazing to be inside you. But more than anything, I want you to want it (me) too.

It's not rocket science.

Answering yourself now? This just keeps getting more tragic...

Doesn't make it any less true.

So you admit you're answering yourself?

Well ladies, you know what to do. If you want to get a winner of a man who trolls DCUM and thinks he's entitled to sex because his boner is the center of the universe, then you know what to do: bend over and take it- and act enthusiastic, dammit!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

See? Is it really all that hard to imagine?

I don't care about the home cooked meal, the vacuuming, or the second income. And I don't need you to be a fitness goddess, or the perfect mom. Sometimes I want to fuck you, to bend you over and pump away. It's fun, and it feels amazing to be inside you. But more than anything, I want you to want it (me) too.

It's not rocket science.

Answering yourself now? This just keeps getting more tragic...

Doesn't make it any less true.

So you admit you're answering yourself?

Well ladies, you know what to do. If you want to get a winner of a man who trolls DCUM and thinks he's entitled to sex because his boner is the center of the universe, then you know what to do: bend over and take it- and act enthusiastic, dammit!

Yes, laugh away, ladies. Bottom line: If you don't want to bend over, DH will find someone who will, and who won't bitch when he forgets to empty the dishwasher. You really just don't get it. It's not about entitlement. Did you even read the answer above, honey? It's about a simple human need. I can sleep by myself, and I can feed myself. But I need sex, and it shouldn't come at the cost of having to being your little slave boy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

See? Is it really all that hard to imagine?

I don't care about the home cooked meal, the vacuuming, or the second income. And I don't need you to be a fitness goddess, or the perfect mom. Sometimes I want to fuck you, to bend you over and pump away. It's fun, and it feels amazing to be inside you. But more than anything, I want you to want it (me) too.

It's not rocket science.

Answering yourself now? This just keeps getting more tragic...

Doesn't make it any less true.

So you admit you're answering yourself?

Well ladies, you know what to do. If you want to get a winner of a man who trolls DCUM and thinks he's entitled to sex because his boner is the center of the universe, then you know what to do: bend over and take it- and act enthusiastic, dammit!

Wow! I am the DW who originally wrote. Others have replied but they are not me. You sound so angry and bitter that I am really very sorry for where you and your DH are in your marriage.

You can take what I wrote as another point of view or disregard it completely - depends on how much you want to repair your relationship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

Lol. Clearly written by a dude pretending to be a woman. You men are so transparent. Thanks for the laugh.

Although I believe this was written by a woman, why does that even matter?
If a man actually written this, would you say he is lying?
And why is it so funny to you?

Man here: I agree with the above post. Men are not that complicated. Sexual enthusiasm trumps all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

Lol. Clearly written by a dude pretending to be a woman. You men are so transparent. Thanks for the laugh.

Although I believe this was written by a woman, why does that even matter?
If a man actually written this, would you say he is lying?
And why is it so funny to you?

Man here: I agree with the above post. Men are not that complicated. Sexual enthusiasm trumps all.

Another man here: I think this is why so many marriages are so troubled. Sexual enthusiasm is one of the things men want most out of marriage---there really isn't any good substitute for that---and it runs smack into the reality that that is the first thing that goes over the side for many women when things are busy, stressful, etc. No one is to blame a lot of the time, it's just a sad fact of life in many cases even where both spouses are trying hard.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The secret to my amazing marriage is my rampant libido. DH loves that. More than anything else I bring to the relationship - a clean house, a pay check, well raised kids, a fit body, and attractive face, my high educational qualification, my cooking abilities, my social acumen. All of this is nice to have but pales in comparison to my sexual enthusiasm and insatiable appetite for sex with him. It is what it is. Ladies, you can accept it or keep wondering why your DH and your relationship is at an impasse. Men are not really that complicated. Oh, and I know I will be flamed now by the women.

See? Is it really all that hard to imagine?

I don't care about the home cooked meal, the vacuuming, or the second income. And I don't need you to be a fitness goddess, or the perfect mom. Sometimes I want to fuck you, to bend you over and pump away. It's fun, and it feels amazing to be inside you. But more than anything, I want you to want it (me) too.

It's not rocket science.

Answering yourself now? This just keeps getting more tragic...

Doesn't make it any less true.

So you admit you're answering yourself?

Well ladies, you know what to do. If you want to get a winner of a man who trolls DCUM and thinks he's entitled to sex because his boner is the center of the universe, then you know what to do: bend over and take it- and act enthusiastic, dammit!

Yes, laugh away, ladies. Bottom line: If you don't want to bend over, DH will find someone who will, and who won't bitch when he forgets to empty the dishwasher. You really just don't get it. It's not about entitlement. Did you even read the answer above, honey? It's about a simple human need. I can sleep by myself, and I can feed myself. But I need sex, and it shouldn't come at the cost of having to being your little slave boy.

You can't raise the kids by yourself, but obviously you don't care about them. Or anything besides yourself, for that matter. Good riddance!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a DW in a similar situation. I work full time, have three children under the age of 6, pretty much run our household, and have struggled with yo-yo weight gain and loss. Mostly because I don't have time to go to the gym bc my husband expects me to run the household and do 90% of kid stuff in addition to working.

Our sex life sucks. But to be honest, it's DH's fault. If he stepped up and tried to create a more relaxing environment that was conducive to intimacy (helping more in evenings so I can relax, making dinner maybe once or twice a week, actually planning and initiating a date night once a month, etc), maybe I would actually want to have sex with him. Instead I feel like I am taking care of another child....

So maybe you need to accept some responsibility here for your wife's lack of interest. Maybe she is tired. Maybe she needs some effort from you. For women, sex is 90% emotional.

Why the heck did you have THREE kids with this guy? I stopped at two, because that's all I could handle alone with a full time job AND a desire for an active sex life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What a crock of shit some of you spew out of your pie holes. A DH doing dishes, running a vacuum, or cooking dinner is gonna increase sex drive? Please, thats nothing more than you turning your DH into a chump.. Thinking of my DH raming his strong tongue between my legs makes me wet. Dishes? Please. All I hear are a bunch of tired word out stale excuses

You clearly know very little about women and/or marriage.

And if more men truly understood that chores = sex, there would be a marked decline in marriage. But men are too fucking stupid in our 20s to believe it, so the cycle continues.

Seriously: MEN GET NOTHING OUT OF MARRIAGE. NOTHING. But by the time we actually come to this realization, it's too fucking late.

BS. My husband went from a filthy, messy apartment to a beautiful, well kept home. Two children. Millions of dollars, after starting from a negative net worth. Plus, sex at least twice a week. You just married the wrong person.