Breaking up after she was a drunken embarrassment at a wedding?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh, we've all been there. Give her benefit of doubt if everything else is going well. weddings are emotional.

No I've never gotten black out drunk and humped someone ever, nevermind at a sibling's wedding.

This person is damn near 30 way past the time for this kind of behavior to be ignored.

Dump her OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh, we've all been there. Give her benefit of doubt if everything else is going well. weddings are emotional.

No. No, we haven't "all" been there. In my entire life, on BOTH sides of my VERY large family, only ONCE did someone get drunk. All the uncles pulled together and escorted him out of the bat mitzvah and the aunts comforted his crying wife in the bathroom, before having her drive the drunk guy home. That's FOUR DECADES.

Not everyone gets sloppy or drunk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh, we've all been there. Give her benefit of doubt if everything else is going well. weddings are emotional.

No I've never gotten black out drunk and humped someone ever, nevermind at a sibling's wedding.

This person is damn near 30 way past the time for this kind of behavior to be ignored.

Dump her OP!

I guess you never went to college.

What a bunch of nerds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh, we've all been there. Give her benefit of doubt if everything else is going well. weddings are emotional.

I assume her entire extended family assumes she cheats on me, no?

You seem way more concerned with how you are perceived. Seems to me you view your girlfriend less as an individual, and more as, "how can this person make me look good"? On that basis alone you should break up with her because you have issues with women and hopefully she can find someone who values her for more than that.

Oh shut up! Your " Man is always a jerk and the woman is always a victim " schtick is tired. Tired and pathetic.

Get some help for your obsessive misandry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh, we've all been there. Give her benefit of doubt if everything else is going well. weddings are emotional.

No I've never gotten black out drunk and humped someone ever, nevermind at a sibling's wedding.

This person is damn near 30 way past the time for this kind of behavior to be ignored.

Dump her OP!

I guess you never went to college.

What a bunch of nerds.

Oh I went to college, to learn and not to get drunk. I think it would be sad to spend thousands just to be blackout drunk.

[Anonymous]

At 27 she's old enough to know better. It's hard to say unless you're the one in the situation but I'd probably leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh, we've all been there. Give her benefit of doubt if everything else is going well. weddings are emotional.

No I've never gotten black out drunk and humped someone ever, nevermind at a sibling's wedding.

This person is damn near 30 way past the time for this kind of behavior to be ignored.

Dump her OP!

I guess you never went to college.

What a bunch of nerds.

Oh I went to college, to learn and not to get drunk. I think it would be sad to spend thousands just to be blackout drunk.

It would be even sadder to go to college and not have some wild and crazy, memorable experiences. Sucks to suck.

[Anonymous]

How long have you been dating, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh, we've all been there. Give her benefit of doubt if everything else is going well. weddings are emotional.

No I've never gotten black out drunk and humped someone ever, nevermind at a sibling's wedding.

This person is damn near 30 way past the time for this kind of behavior to be ignored.

Dump her OP!

I guess you never went to college.

What a bunch of nerds.

Oh I went to college, to learn and not to get drunk. I think it would be sad to spend thousands just to be blackout drunk.

It would be even sadder to go to college and not have some wild and crazy, memorable experiences. Sucks to suck.

DP. You can have wild/crazy experiences without being black out drunk. What juvenile thinking.

[Anonymous]

1 day of excess drinking would not be a dealbreaker. most people have done this at some point in their lives; I dare say brother's wedding is a pretty good excuse. but I'm pushing 40 and I still overdo it once a year or so. so if that seems like appalling alcoholism to you, we are just perhaps just operating on different standards.

now, grinding on the groomsman may be a dealbreaker. I wasn't there, but i'm assuming your description means it was a bit more than she danced flirtatiously with another guy.

[Anonymous]

OP you sound super judgmental, and for that reason you should dump her. But also stop to consider whether being judgmental about your girlfriends' foibles is a pattern with you. Yes, getting sloppy drunk at a wedding can be embarassing .... but also totally common! Your reaction of being embarrassed is not the only possible reaction. Some boyfriends would have been:

a) amused, and joked with her about it later
b) drunk too and joined in with the fun
c) protective, and tried to get her to drink some water so she didn't over do it
d) worried, if she genuinely had an alcohol problem.

But you instead are supercilious and embarrassed. That says a LOT more about you than her.

Of course, maybe she does have a drinking problem -- that is a whole separate issue. But I don't see anything in your email that evinces concern that she has a drinking problem, just embarrassment. Which is yours to own. I had a boyfriend with a drinking problem once, and the one night I saw him lose control I was worried out of my mind for him. Embarrassment was not what I felt, at all.

[Anonymous]

She sounds like fun. If you break up with her send me her number.

[Anonymous]

Dump. How would you feel if you were married and your wife got blackout drunk and was grinding another man in public?

She's 27 and should be way past this type of behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh, we've all been there. Give her benefit of doubt if everything else is going well. weddings are emotional.

No. No, we haven't "all" been there. In my entire life, on BOTH sides of my VERY large family, only ONCE did someone get drunk. All the uncles pulled together and escorted him out of the bat mitzvah and the aunts comforted his crying wife in the bathroom, before having her drive the drunk guy home. That's FOUR DECADES.

Not everyone gets sloppy or drunk.

Yes they do, just not around you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh, we've all been there. Give her benefit of doubt if everything else is going well. weddings are emotional.

I assume her entire extended family assumes she cheats on me, no?

You seem way more concerned with how you are perceived. Seems to me you view your girlfriend less as an individual, and more as, "how can this person make me look good"? On that basis alone you should break up with her because you have issues with women and hopefully she can find someone who values her for more than that.

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