Breaking up after she was a drunken embarrassment at a wedding?

[Anonymous]

Thank goodness it was her family. What do they think? Is this par for the course?

Anyway, I would not pursue this relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely a red flag. Is there a history with the groomsman? Some other issue? Is she older and resentful that her brother is getting married first? Something else going on in her life that would make this just a bad night rather than a possible pattern? Has she done this before?

She's 27. Only sibling is the brother, so understandable she was emotional. But the vulgar grinding with brother's friend at a quaint wedding was just awful. He was taking full advantage too. No, I'm not insecure or threatened. Without question most embarrassing experience of my life.

Even without the grinding, this behavior is a red flag. Anyone else in her family have a problem with drinking or drugs? If so, that is extra reason to walk. These things run in families.

[Anonymous]

How did her family members react? Were her parents embarrassed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank goodness it was her family. What do they think? Is this par for the course?

Anyway, I would not pursue this relationship.

Amazing family. All of them love me, except for brother (something she denies).

[Anonymous]

Meh, we've all been there. Give her benefit of doubt if everything else is going well. weddings are emotional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did her family members react? Were her parents embarrassed?

Yes, her parents are teetotalers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh, we've all been there. Give her benefit of doubt if everything else is going well. weddings are emotional.

+1

[Anonymous]

I'm glad I didn't date you in my 20's...

[Anonymous]

Immediate dump.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh, we've all been there. Give her benefit of doubt if everything else is going well. weddings are emotional.

I assume her entire extended family assumes she cheats on me, no?

[Anonymous]

I'm glad I come from a WASP family. If someone gets too drunk everyone does their best to kind of look away and brush over it. Unless it was a pattern I wouldn't really care. Sometimes you just drink too much and get too wild. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

I'd let her know how embarrassed and disappointed you were and how it's affecting your view of her. Do you need time to think it over or are you totally disgusted? If you want to give it time, do. See how she reacts to you being honest with her. If she's defensive or immature about it, you may have your answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely a red flag. Is there a history with the groomsman? Some other issue? Is she older and resentful that her brother is getting married first? Something else going on in her life that would make this just a bad night rather than a possible pattern? Has she done this before?

She's 27. Only sibling is the brother, so understandable she was emotional. But the vulgar grinding with brother's friend at a quaint wedding was just awful. He was taking full advantage too. No, I'm not insecure or threatened. Without question most embarrassing experience of my life.

No, no, NO. When my only brother (only sibling) got married, I was HAPPY for him and his new wife. I danced, I played with babies so their parents could dance/eat, I chatted with cousins and my brother's old college roommate, I made new friends, etc. I sipped one glass of wine throughout the whole night, and gulped water (it was Mexico, and it was hot). I did not cry, did not grind, did not get drink, pass out, or make a scene. I had a great time and remember everything that happened. What she did is NOT acceptable.

OP, I say you dump her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh, we've all been there. Give her benefit of doubt if everything else is going well. weddings are emotional.

I assume her entire extended family assumes she cheats on me, no?

You seem way more concerned with how you are perceived. Seems to me you view your girlfriend less as an individual, and more as, "how can this person make me look good"? On that basis alone you should break up with her because you have issues with women and hopefully she can find someone who values her for more than that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh, we've all been there. Give her benefit of doubt if everything else is going well. weddings are emotional.

I assume her entire extended family assumes she cheats on me, no?

At the very least that she's just not that into you and doesn't really respect you.