Couples in your 40s and 50s - how often (s**)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mid 60's.

Usually, once a week.

But.....twice this week. Celebrated 42nd anniversary.

please, God, let that be me 10 years from now, just got our groove back after years of almost sexless marriage and serious discussion about separation, turns out there was lack of communication, one hug was enough to raise the flag

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:40sF and early 50s DH, long term marriage. How often do you have s** in a typical week?

3 times a week would ideal for me but 2 times is more typical. I'm nearly always the one asking. I get the usual reasons like he's tired, long day, needs to freshen up but won't. When he says he's tired, he'll then stay up very late watching TV etc. If he came to bed within an hour of me going to bed I'd definitely wake up and be available. But 2 hours later, I'm fast asleep. I've suggested different times, before dinner, early morning etc. That helps a little. But he thinks I'm too demanding. I am reciprocal and our sessions don't go beyond a half hour. So it's not like I'm taking up hours of his time. On the week of my time of month he is almost relieved BC he gets a break.

Do you think this is reasonable?

If you prefer 3 but typically have 2x week, that doesn't seem like that big of a discrepancy. Could you take care of yourself the 1x a week he's too tired? Maybe once or twice a month he could try to go 3 times a week?

[Anonymous]

sex twice a week, anal once a month.

[Anonymous]

Once a decade. Maybe twice i I’m lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:sex twice a week, anal once a month.

Lucky you! Assuming that they actually like it and aren’t giving into your pressuring once a month?

[Anonymous]

Once a week. Married 32 years and in our early 60s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Divorced with teenagers. Have been dating BF for two years. I’m late 40s, he’s mid 50s. At least 3 or 4 times a week. I figure I’ve had more sex with him than I did in my 20 year marriage.

That made me barf.

Why?

[Anonymous]

DH is early sixties & I'm late fifties, married 37 years, all kids grown and out of the house. We don't really have sex because it's too painful for me, and I have long-term health issues. Occasionally I'll give him a hand, so to speak, but usually he takes care of himself. Strong marriage in all other aspects, and I'm glad he's getting older to the point where he's said sex is no longer as crucial as it once was.

[Anonymous]

Three times a week. DH would be up for it almost every day, I think, but I’m usually exhausted and/or stressed about life/work/kids to do it more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorced with teenagers. Have been dating BF for two years. I’m late 40s, he’s mid 50s. At least 3 or 4 times a week. I figure I’ve had more sex with him than I did in my 20 year marriage.

Similar situation. Divorced. Both in our mid-50s. Twice a week. We each have two adult children. Have had more in 12 months than in 20+ years of marriage.

[Anonymous]

Last relationship: gf was 40, I'm 55. Sex 2-3 times a night every night we were together. 12-15 bangs per month (BPMs). Much more sex than I had in a 20+ year marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last relationship: gf was 40, I'm 55. Sex 2-3 times a night every night we were together. 12-15 bangs per month (BPMs). Much more sex than I had in a 20+ year marriage.

Age gap much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:41 and all kids are over 10.

Not since we were on vacation last summer.

+1. On vacation without kids we do it all the time. Home is another story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Divorced with teenagers. Have been dating BF for two years. I’m late 40s, he’s mid 50s. At least 3 or 4 times a week. I figure I’ve had more sex with him than I did in my 20 year marriage.

That made me barf.

Why?

Yes, made me cringe too. It was the mentioning she had teens so that painted the picture of her having sex
with her kids around. And then that it was with her boyfriend like she is some 20 something. Could have just said how often and left the other stuff out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Divorced with teenagers. Have been dating BF for two years. I’m late 40s, he’s mid 50s. At least 3 or 4 times a week. I figure I’ve had more sex with him than I did in my 20 year marriage.

That made me barf.

Why?

Yes, made me cringe too. It was the mentioning she had teens so that painted the picture of her having sex
with her kids around. And then that it was with her boyfriend like she is some 20 something. Could have just said how often and left the other stuff out.

Do your kids really not know you have sex? Is sex a bad thing?