Couples in your 40s and 50s - how often (s**)?

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Anonymous wrote:Twice per week here. Shocked at all the PPs in low sex marriages. That is divorce worthy.

It is if your marriage is otherwise shitty.

No matter if the marriage is perfect in all other areas, without much sex it’s STILL divorce worthy.

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Anonymous wrote:Last relationship: gf was 40, I'm 55. Sex 2-3 times a night every night we were together. 12-15 bangs per month (BPMs). Much more sex than I had in a 20+ year marriage.

Huh? What are you defining as the sex you're having multiple times per night if not "bangs"? Her leg brushing against your schlong when she turns over?

Sex=penetration of a hole, and ejaculation into that hole.

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Anonymous wrote:Last relationship: gf was 40, I'm 55. Sex 2-3 times a night every night we were together. 12-15 bangs per month (BPMs). Much more sex than I had in a 20+ year marriage.

You are most probably lying. You are most probably also a jerk and most women probably realize this after conversing with you for more than a minute or two.

The Karens here hate it when a guy is happy.

[Anonymous]

no s** for over 3 years. DH got cancer and I got the vibrator.

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Anonymous wrote:Last relationship: gf was 40, I'm 55. Sex 2-3 times a night every night we were together. 12-15 bangs per month (BPMs). Much more sex than I had in a 20+ year marriage.

You are most probably lying. You are most probably also a jerk and most women probably realize this after conversing with you for more than a minute or two.

Of course he's lying. At that age, 70% of men have erection problems. Don't forget that they need pull ups for their balls, because gravity is cruel.

I agree entirely wit the PP who says he’s prob lying and a jerk. So +1 there.

But on the next comment: Unless you live at the ISS, most balls do in fact hang and do so very comfortably, not cruelly at all. Most men wouldn’t have it any other way. Not sure the handiwork you’ve been using for your research.

My husband sat on his own balls yesterday. Gravity def increases with age.

Um, does he run without a jock strap? I don’t think that happens to middle aged men unless they’ve never worn any sort of supportive underwear. It’s kind of like women and bras- far less sagging in middle age if the chest has always had good support.

I love my husband to death but his balls are definitely sagging compared to where they were in his 20s, when I first saw them. We joke about it. We shower together a lot, so I see them all the time in bright light lol. Mine is not a runner and wears boxer briefs, so it's just age.

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Anonymous wrote:We are both 56, married 32 years. Kids are in college. 1-2 times per week.

I no longer have any sex drive now that I am menopausal. I do really enjoy it once we get started, but never think about it AT ALL otherwise, and left to my own devices would rarely have sex. But it is still very important to DH, and he is important to me. So I treat it like exercise--I make sure it's on my mental to-do list and while I often feel less than excited to start, it feels good and I'm always happy to have done it.

Uh oh, you mentioned having kids. Ergo, you must only have sex in front of them when they're home on breaks, you sick pervert.

Why do people keep putting that they have kids? What does that have to do with the OP question?

How often do you have sex? I have kids.

Are you really this dense? It's a lot easier for tired, middle-aged people to have sex when there are no teenagers in the house. Now that our DC2 is in college, DH and I often have sex on weekend afternoons. The last time we did that regularly was when our DC1 napped every afternoon, before DC2 was born.

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Anonymous wrote:Last relationship: gf was 40, I'm 55. Sex 2-3 times a night every night we were together. 12-15 bangs per month (BPMs). Much more sex than I had in a 20+ year marriage.

You are most probably lying. You are most probably also a jerk and most women probably realize this after conversing with you for more than a minute or two.

Of course he's lying. At that age, 70% of men have erection problems. Don't forget that they need pull ups for their balls, because gravity is cruel.

I agree entirely wit the PP who says he’s prob lying and a jerk. So +1 there.

But on the next comment: Unless you live at the ISS, most balls do in fact hang and do so very comfortably, not cruelly at all. Most men wouldn’t have it any other way. Not sure the handiwork you’ve been using for your research.

My husband sat on his own balls yesterday. Gravity def increases with age.

Um, does he run without a jock strap? I don’t think that happens to middle aged men unless they’ve never worn any sort of supportive underwear. It’s kind of like women and bras- far less sagging in middle age if the chest has always had good support.

I love my husband to death but his balls are definitely sagging compared to where they were in his 20s, when I first saw them. We joke about it. We shower together a lot, so I see them all the time in bright light lol. Mine is not a runner and wears boxer briefs, so it's just age.

I wonder if it’s the boxers and boxer briefs that are the cause of all these sagging testicles and if it’s a generational thing. Guys in their 60s tended to wear regular briefs, which give a lot more support down there, so that might explain the other guy in his 60s discussed above.

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Anonymous wrote:Last relationship: gf was 40, I'm 55. Sex 2-3 times a night every night we were together. 12-15 bangs per month (BPMs). Much more sex than I had in a 20+ year marriage.

Huh? What are you defining as the sex you're having multiple times per night if not "bangs"? Her leg brushing against your schlong when she turns over?

Sex=penetration of a hole, and ejaculation into that hole.

What about her?!

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Anonymous wrote:no s** for over 3 years. DH got cancer and I got the vibrator.

If you were my wife, I wouldn’t be happy about doing it, but I would definitely encourage you find a lover.
My wife is so beautiful when she is having sex, I could never deny her that. Even if I dont get to witness it which I probably wouldn’t.

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Anonymous wrote:Last relationship: gf was 40, I'm 55. Sex 2-3 times a night every night we were together. 12-15 bangs per month (BPMs). Much more sex than I had in a 20+ year marriage.

Huh? What are you defining as the sex you're having multiple times per night if not "bangs"? Her leg brushing against your schlong when she turns over?

Sex=penetration of a hole, and ejaculation into that hole.

What about her?!

She gets a dirty Sanchez.

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Anonymous wrote:We are both 56, married 32 years. Kids are in college. 1-2 times per week.

I no longer have any sex drive now that I am menopausal. I do really enjoy it once we get started, but never think about it AT ALL otherwise, and left to my own devices would rarely have sex. But it is still very important to DH, and he is important to me. So I treat it like exercise--I make sure it's on my mental to-do list and while I often feel less than excited to start, it feels good and I'm always happy to have done it.

Uh oh, you mentioned having kids. Ergo, you must only have sex in front of them when they're home on breaks, you sick pervert.

Why do people keep putting that they have kids? What does that have to do with the OP question?

How often do you have sex? I have kids.

Are you really this dense? It's a lot easier for tired, middle-aged people to have sex when there are no teenagers in the house. Now that our DC2 is in college, DH and I often have sex on weekend afternoons. The last time we did that regularly was when our DC1 napped every afternoon, before DC2 was born.

No, teenagers are out the house frequently.

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Anonymous wrote:We are both 56, married 32 years. Kids are in college. 1-2 times per week.

I no longer have any sex drive now that I am menopausal. I do really enjoy it once we get started, but never think about it AT ALL otherwise, and left to my own devices would rarely have sex. But it is still very important to DH, and he is important to me. So I treat it like exercise--I make sure it's on my mental to-do list and while I often feel less than excited to start, it feels good and I'm always happy to have done it.

Uh oh, you mentioned having kids. Ergo, you must only have sex in front of them when they're home on breaks, you sick pervert.

Why do people keep putting that they have kids? What does that have to do with the OP question?

How often do you have sex? I have kids.

Are you really this dense? It's a lot easier for tired, middle-aged people to have sex when there are no teenagers in the house. Now that our DC2 is in college, DH and I often have sex on weekend afternoons. The last time we did that regularly was when our DC1 napped every afternoon, before DC2 was born.

Were your teenagers in the bedroom with you?

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Op, 2x a week at your age is really high although if you aren't satisfied, it's worth a conversation. Although fair warning, I have had many of those conversations and we never can get past 2x a month, on a great month.

Some lucky couples out there but for most of us long term monogamy is tough to deal with.

[Anonymous]

Divorced, early 40s mom here w/ 50/50 custody. BF is late 40s. We have sex 99% of times we see each other w/o kids. He travels for work often, so it's a bit down this month (we'll top out at probably 7 times this month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last relationship: gf was 40, I'm 55. Sex 2-3 times a night every night we were together. 12-15 bangs per month (BPMs). Much more sex than I had in a 20+ year marriage.

The PP is much older - this is typical boomer behavior. My first ever manager used to keep a spreadsheet together with his sexual activity and also prostate problems, such as how many times a night he'd wake up to pee, and reminders for viagra, cholesterol, herpes meds etc. He'd keep it on the share drive and it was not password protected. I don't know if he was just stupid or didn't care.