Couples in your 40s and 50s - how often (s**)?

[Anonymous]

40sF and early 50s DH, long term marriage. How often do you have s** in a typical week?

3 times a week would ideal for me but 2 times is more typical. I'm nearly always the one asking. I get the usual reasons like he's tired, long day, needs to freshen up but won't. When he says he's tired, he'll then stay up very late watching TV etc. If he came to bed within an hour of me going to bed I'd definitely wake up and be available. But 2 hours later, I'm fast asleep. I've suggested different times, before dinner, early morning etc. That helps a little. But he thinks I'm too demanding. I am reciprocal and our sessions don't go beyond a half hour. So it's not like I'm taking up hours of his time. On the week of my time of month he is almost relieved BC he gets a break.

Do you think this is reasonable?

[Anonymous]

Every other week or 2

[Anonymous]

I'd bet your age is less of a determinative factor than the age of your kids and how self-sufficient they are.

We are both 40 with a 3 and 5 year old and we maybe have sex once every other week. We're both tired from the kids.
Maybe there's more to it and there's deeper relationship problems, not sure, things seem ok otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Pity f^$k once a month for about a year. Now I just take care of myself

[Anonymous]

41 and all kids are over 10.

Not since we were on vacation last summer.

[Anonymous]

S**, no idea. Sex, well yes, every few days.

[Anonymous]

You can say sex.

[Anonymous]

Its FRIDAY night finally.

In case it wasn’t clear, weekly sans red corvette.

Its okay, I would like more but DW is always worn out by work and 5 yr old

Both 47.

[Anonymous]

Once every 6 weeks or so. Late 40s. Kids are 16 and 17.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can say sex.

If you can’t say it how do you do it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can say sex.

If you can’t say it how do you do it?

OP here. I would have typed it out but board says non explicit and I didn't want to risk it being taken down. A month back there was a brief discussion here about vibrators and it got taken down really quickly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can say sex.

If you can’t say it how do you do it?

OP here. I would have typed it out but board says non explicit and I didn't want to risk it being taken down. A month back there was a brief discussion here about vibrators and it got taken down really quickly.

They have to keep it unblocked…how else would we talk about the sex/gender of babies on the expecting moms board

[Anonymous]

Divorced with teenagers. Have been dating BF for two years. I’m late 40s, he’s mid 50s. At least 3 or 4 times a week. I figure I’ve had more sex with him than I did in my 20 year marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorced with teenagers. Have been dating BF for two years. I’m late 40s, he’s mid 50s. At least 3 or 4 times a week. I figure I’ve had more sex with him than I did in my 20 year marriage.

Yea but you haven’t hooked him into marriage yet. Do you even live together yet?

[Anonymous]

Once a week, when it was happening.