Can you have a successful sexless marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I are very much in love and love each other and like each other - our marriage is great- and we only have sex ~10x/year.
We have talked about having more sex because we know we're supposed to but it's just what happens. Neither of us have a super high sex drive and we're tired- kids are young!
I'm sure we'll hit another peak when they are older when we do it more, but I would call our marriage very successful.

If you're both happy, then it's not a problem. It's disparity that's an issue. Definitely check in with each other to make sure you're both truly happy with the frequency and quality. If you're on the same page, then hang on to each other tightly. Because well-matched libidos are part of a great foundation for any marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus bloody christ, if having sex with your spouse is so horrible that you think taking out the garbage is much more worth you time , then you need a.lobotomy. oh.wait you'd need a brain first.

You just don't get it. You don't listen. You cannot understand anyone's perspective than your own. You are rude and condescending.

Gee...can't imagine why your wife won't touch you.

That last comment does so much collateral damage. Yes, the PP you're responding to is being obtuse. But the "just-so" stories where a wife will want to have sex with a husband if only he'd be a better listener and more attentive just aren't true in a lot of cases. Creating a presumption that a wife's lack of sexual interest is a reflection on a husband's worth as a man and as a husband makes it so much harder for couples to work through these things. If a wife gets some horrible disease, it's much easier for a husband to live without sex without a lot of resentment. Because he knows it's not her judging him as unworthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus bloody christ, if having sex with your spouse is so horrible that you think taking out the garbage is much more worth you time , then you need a.lobotomy. oh.wait you'd need a brain first.

You just don't get it. You don't listen. You cannot understand anyone's perspective than your own. You are rude and condescending.

Gee...can't imagine why your wife won't touch you.

You're the one who compared sex to taking out the garbage, and apparently you hate sex so.much you'd rather take.out.the.garbage. Dysfunctional people gonna dysfunction. You're quite easy to understand, you think the world revolves around your pussy. It doesn't

[Anonymous]

A question for the men who say just take fifteen minutes and do it for the sake of your marriage, would you be willing to let your wife peg you for fifteen minutes twice a week for the sake of your marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus bloody christ, if having sex with your spouse is so horrible that you think taking out the garbage is much more worth you time , then you need a.lobotomy. oh.wait you'd need a brain first.

You just don't get it. You don't listen. You cannot understand anyone's perspective than your own. You are rude and condescending.

Gee...can't imagine why your wife won't touch you.

That last comment does so much collateral damage. Yes, the PP you're responding to is being obtuse. But the "just-so" stories where a wife will want to have sex with a husband if only he'd be a better listener and more attentive just aren't true in a lot of cases. Creating a presumption that a wife's lack of sexual interest is a reflection on a husband's worth as a man and as a husband makes it so much harder for couples to work through these things. If a wife gets some horrible disease, it's much easier for a husband to live without sex without a lot of resentment. Because he knows it's not her judging him as unworthy.

Of.course. The pp is someone who only values herself for her power to withhold sex. She resents.her.husbamd because in order to exert power she has to deny him.sex. it's frustrating because it's so pointless and self destructive and she doesn't want to face up to it. The nasty comment at the end isn't a bug, it's a primary feature. She's a bitter nasty harpy who has a constant black cloud floating over her. It's so silly. These nasty women don't have sex with their husbands because they're just nasty people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A question for the men who say just take fifteen minutes and do it for the sake of your marriage, would you be willing to let your wife peg you for fifteen minutes twice a week for the sake of your marriage?

Your point is you think marital sex is gross and the equivalent to a heterosexual man being in effect anally raped by his hateful sex denying spouse. You're mentally ill and people like you shouldn't get married to anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A question for the men who say just take fifteen minutes and do it for the sake of your marriage, would you be willing to let your wife peg you for fifteen minutes twice a week for the sake of your marriage?

Man here, yes. Seriously, not trolling. I don't enjoy that but if my wife needed to do that to be sexually satisfied, I'd take it.

I'd bargain for a back rub out of it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus bloody christ, if having sex with your spouse is so horrible that you think taking out the garbage is much more worth you time , then you need a.lobotomy. oh.wait you'd need a brain first.

You just don't get it. You don't listen. You cannot understand anyone's perspective than your own. You are rude and condescending.

Gee...can't imagine why your wife won't touch you.

That last comment does so much collateral damage. Yes, the PP you're responding to is being obtuse. But the "just-so" stories where a wife will want to have sex with a husband if only he'd be a better listener and more attentive just aren't true in a lot of cases. Creating a presumption that a wife's lack of sexual interest is a reflection on a husband's worth as a man and as a husband makes it so much harder for couples to work through these things. If a wife gets some horrible disease, it's much easier for a husband to live without sex without a lot of resentment. Because he knows it's not her judging him as unworthy.

It is absolutely the case that my friends who don't want their husbands it's because the husbands criticise them, belittle them, take them for granted, are rude and selfish. Resentment is a powerful libido killer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus bloody christ, if having sex with your spouse is so horrible that you think taking out the garbage is much more worth you time , then you need a.lobotomy. oh.wait you'd need a brain first.

You just don't get it. You don't listen. You cannot understand anyone's perspective than your own. You are rude and condescending.

Gee...can't imagine why your wife won't touch you.

That last comment does so much collateral damage. Yes, the PP you're responding to is being obtuse. But the "just-so" stories where a wife will want to have sex with a husband if only he'd be a better listener and more attentive just aren't true in a lot of cases. Creating a presumption that a wife's lack of sexual interest is a reflection on a husband's worth as a man and as a husband makes it so much harder for couples to work through these things. If a wife gets some horrible disease, it's much easier for a husband to live without sex without a lot of resentment. Because he knows it's not her judging him as unworthy.

Of.course. The pp is someone who only values herself for her power to withhold sex. She resents.her.husbamd because in order to exert power she has to deny him.sex. it's frustrating because it's so pointless and self destructive and she doesn't want to face up to it. The nasty comment at the end isn't a bug, it's a primary feature. She's a bitter nasty harpy who has a constant black cloud floating over her. It's so silly. These nasty women don't have sex with their husbands because they're just nasty people.

You really need professional help. Your anger is off the charts.

[Anonymous]

The truth is sex drive decreases dramatically for most women as they approach menopause. Simply a biological fact of life. And as men reach about the same age, the drive is there, but the equipment is less, um, reliable. The perfect storm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A question for the men who say just take fifteen minutes and do it for the sake of your marriage, would you be willing to let your wife peg you for fifteen minutes twice a week for the sake of your marriage?

If that relationship formed with her pegging him 2X per week for 15 minutes, and that became a regular practice while they were dating, during courtship, throughout their early marriage years, and the wife specifically made it know that these bi weekly peggings are an important need for her, as confirmed by all of society and mass media and multiple DCUM posts per day ...... well then YES absolutely.

See the point? Regular sex is not some new out of the blue requirement from men. It is a baseline part of all normal male/female relationships. Wives don't become wives without having regular sex. And you cannot just take that away and expect to remain monogamously married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus bloody christ, if having sex with your spouse is so horrible that you think taking out the garbage is much more worth you time , then you need a.lobotomy. oh.wait you'd need a brain first.

You just don't get it. You don't listen. You cannot understand anyone's perspective than your own. You are rude and condescending.

Gee...can't imagine why your wife won't touch you.

That last comment does so much collateral damage. Yes, the PP you're responding to is being obtuse. But the "just-so" stories where a wife will want to have sex with a husband if only he'd be a better listener and more attentive just aren't true in a lot of cases. Creating a presumption that a wife's lack of sexual interest is a reflection on a husband's worth as a man and as a husband makes it so much harder for couples to work through these things. If a wife gets some horrible disease, it's much easier for a husband to live without sex without a lot of resentment. Because he knows it's not her judging him as unworthy.

It is absolutely the case that my friends who don't want their husbands it's because the husbands criticise them, belittle them, take them for granted, are rude and selfish. Resentment is a powerful libido killer.

Tell your friends to get a divorce, they should not remain married to such terrible husbands, no wonder they do not want sex!!

Oh but also tell them IF they stay it means they accept the DADT policy which keeps their sexless marriage together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A question for the men who say just take fifteen minutes and do it for the sake of your marriage, would you be willing to let your wife peg you for fifteen minutes twice a week for the sake of your marriage?

If that's what turns her on, I'm totally up for it. We've done kinkier stuff than that. It keeps a marriage alive and bedroom fun exciting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A question for the men who say just take fifteen minutes and do it for the sake of your marriage, would you be willing to let your wife peg you for fifteen minutes twice a week for the sake of your marriage?

Hell yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A question for the men who say just take fifteen minutes and do it for the sake of your marriage, would you be willing to let your wife peg you for fifteen minutes twice a week for the sake of your marriage?

Hell yes.

DCUM sexless harpy wife: "men would you do ___some_absurd_sexual_act____ for the sake of marriage?"

Men: "hell yes"

Lol.