Can you have a successful sexless marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes absolutely. I haven't had sex in seven years with my husband.

I was you. I am divorced. Maybe it works for you, but normally this kind of sexlessness is really a symptom for unresolvable relationship issues. You both must have low drives. If you are happy, good for you. For me, it was a long-term symptom of incompatability and that our decision to get married was a mistake from the start.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sex is so overrated. Marriage is so much more than sex.

We are in our 40s and have sex 1-2 times a year. This is plenty for both of us.

You mean 1-2 times a year “with each other”.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A question for the men who say just take fifteen minutes and do it for the sake of your marriage, would you be willing to let your wife peg you for fifteen minutes twice a week for the sake of your marriage?

Hell yes.

DCUM sexless harpy wife: "men would you do ___some_absurd_sexual_act____ for the sake of marriage?"

Men: "hell yes"

Lol.

Another Man here and when I read the question I knew it wasn’t going to go the way she thought it would.

it just show how clueless the poster is about sex. men love to be pegged.

[Anonymous]

She is happy with little sex a few timers per year. I stay happy because I cheat every week at work and often while we are on vacation. I’d never leave her and wouldn’t want to be with another person but I will not give up having sex on the side to keep me sane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is happy with little sex a few timers per year. I stay happy because I cheat every week at work and often while we are on vacation. I’d never leave her and wouldn’t want to be with another person but I will not give up having sex on the side to keep me sane.

How do you cheat while on vacation? That just seems really difficult logistically, like to leave the hotel room and sneak off and your mistress happens to be in the same vacation town?

[Anonymous]

She won’t even let you taste it??? Touch it??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While dating my husband worked outside the house played in different sports leagues showered every day looked presentable asked how my day was we went to date movies took trips and yeah we had a ton of sex. Once married he started working from home showers once a week stopped his sports leagues this is pre-covid doesn't do his fair share of the housework now that we have kids and yeah we no longer have as much sex. We haven't been on a trip in 5 years. So if he wants to go back to the guy was dating yeah I'll have sex with that guy as much as he wants.

Please review how commas are used in written English. Reading this hurt my brain.

[Anonymous]

I really care about grammar, but find such interventions distracting. Is the post comprehensible? I thought communicating with each other was the main objective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman who must have a man's soul. DH does all the right things -- walks, kind convo, flowers -- but is very low libido. I just cannot connect on the deepest level without sex. I'm closer to 50 than 40 and still think about it daily. I have been very open with DH about my needs over the years. We have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy that I hope will get us through the long term. Compassion for each other is key.

Do more help around the house.

Plan date nights.

Take the kids and give him an entire day for himself. Maybe a spa day?

Just accept that this is how some people are and you're a bad spouse for wanting things to change. Or did you ignore the "in sickness and in (sexual) health" part of your vows.

Have I covered everything?

[Anonymous]

Depends how you define success. We have sex about 6-8 times a year, and it's acceptable, but not great. I used to have affairs; now that my libido is lower, I make sure to take care of myself at least twice a week. We are still friends, and we both enjoy the companionship, plus we have kids together whom we enjoy spending time with. Is it a passionate love affair? No. Have we raised healthy, happy kids, created a respectable estate and remained friends? Yes.

[Anonymous]

No. Cry myself to sleep when my husband goes to sleep and never reaches over to touch me. It hurts more when we have watched a romantic movie or have a little buzz. I daydream about old boyfriends all the time to help me get through, but it makes me sadder. I just want to be desired.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:While dating? My husband worked!! Outside, the house played in different sports leagues. Showered? Every day looked. Presentable? Asked how? My day was - we went!!! To date movies !!! Took trips? And?yeah we had a ton of sex. Once married. He started working from home showers. Once a week stopped. His sports? Leagues!!! This? Is pre-covid...doesn't do his fair share of the housework?? Now. That we have kids?? And? yeah??we no longer? Have as much sex!!!/b] We haven't been on[b]. A trip!!! In 5 years, so if he wants to go back to the guy was dating???? yeah I'll have sex with that guy??? As much as he wants!!!

Please review how commas are used in written English. Reading this hurt my brain.

I am trying to fix it...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends how you define success. We have sex about 6-8 times a year, and it's acceptable, but not great. I used to have affairs; now that my libido is lower, I make sure to take care of myself at least twice a week. We are still friends, and we both enjoy the companionship, plus we have kids together whom we enjoy spending time with. Is it a passionate love affair? No. Have we raised healthy, happy kids, created a respectable estate and remained friends? Yes.

Your marriage sounds pathetic. I'd never settle for that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Depends how you define success. We have sex about 6-8 times a year, and it's acceptable, but not great. I used to have affairs; now that my libido is lower, I make sure to take care of myself at least twice a week. We are still friends, and we both enjoy the companionship, plus we have kids together whom we enjoy spending time with. Is it a passionate love affair? No. Have we raised healthy, happy kids, created a respectable estate and remained friends? Yes.

Your marriage sounds pathetic. I'd never settle for that.

Even for a few million dollars?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends how you define success. We have sex about 6-8 times a year, and it's acceptable, but not great. I used to have affairs; now that my libido is lower, I make sure to take care of myself at least twice a week. We are still friends, and we both enjoy the companionship, plus we have kids together whom we enjoy spending time with. Is it a passionate love affair? No. Have we raised healthy, happy kids, created a respectable estate and remained friends? Yes.

Your libido is lower if you count times you sex with husband. But you still do it 2 x week ? So he is not into you ? If so, I’m impressed that you’re willing to play the long game