Life with AP after divorce

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure.

New poster. It is an "amazing prize". We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them. DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time. They are grown now. No one knows we are blended. They are all ours. I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing. (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it. Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.

PP you're amazing. I love that you say my kids instead of just his kids ?

[Anonymous]

The questions mark was a heart

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure.

New poster. It is an "amazing prize". We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them. DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time. They are grown now. No one knows we are blended. They are all ours. I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing. (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it. Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.

No, the kids know you're not their mother. They aren't yours. And they aren't blended - what is there to blend with?

You should know every time they looked at you, they wished it was their mom instead. Whatever else they told you - kids of divorce learn early to tell adults what they want to hear.

Perhaps you were barren so you went after someone else's kids because you could buy them. No worries. The kids know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure.

New poster. It is an "amazing prize". We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them. DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time. They are grown now. No one knows we are blended. They are all ours. I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing. (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it. Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.

PP you're amazing. I love that you say my kids instead of just his kids ?

Buying kids from their mother isn't amazing. It's cruel. Of course all exes are nutty - what else could DH tell you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure.

New poster. It is an "amazing prize". We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them. DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time. They are grown now. No one knows we are blended. They are all ours. I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing. (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it. Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.

No, the kids know you're not their mother. They aren't yours. And they aren't blended - what is there to blend with?

You should know every time they looked at you, they wished it was their mom instead. Whatever else they told you - kids of divorce learn early to tell adults what they want to hear.

Perhaps you were barren so you went after someone else's kids because you could buy them. No worries. The kids know.

What a repugnant thing to say. I shouldn't even add this, but I am not "barren". I gave birth to three kids. I inherited two. I love them all more than someone like you could ever understand. And yes, we are blended. I'm the one they call, even as adults, when they need mom. I'm the one who was there when they graduated from high school, then college. I'm the one who planned my daughter's wedding. And I the one she asked for when she gave us our grandchild. I'm not sure what happened to you to make you so ugly - I truly hope you heal. You insulted not only me, but women struggling with infertility. That's messed up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure.

New poster. It is an "amazing prize". We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them. DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time. They are grown now. No one knows we are blended. They are all ours. I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing. (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it. Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.

No, the kids know you're not their mother. They aren't yours. And they aren't blended - what is there to blend with?

You should know every time they looked at you, they wished it was their mom instead. Whatever else they told you - kids of divorce learn early to tell adults what they want to hear.

Perhaps you were barren so you went after someone else's kids because you could buy them. No worries. The kids know.

What a repugnant thing to say. I shouldn't even add this, but I am not "barren". I gave birth to three kids. I inherited two. I love them all more than someone like you could ever understand. And yes, we are blended. I'm the one they call, even as adults, when they need mom. I'm the one who was there when they graduated from high school, then college. I'm the one who planned my daughter's wedding. And I the one she asked for when she gave us our grandchild. I'm not sure what happened to you to make you so ugly - I truly hope you heal. You insulted not only me, but women struggling with infertility. That's messed up.

You inherited them? Did their mother die? Or did you just pretend that she did? I tell you what's messed up, it's pretending the woman who carried them and birthed them and raised them for seven years doesn't exist.

Their mom would have been there for them just fine. She would have loved to be there for weddings and graduations. But you used your husband's money to take that chance away from her. Taking kids away from their mother is a repugnant act that I'm happy to insult. The kids know who their mom is. It's not you. They didn't want you. They wanted their mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure.

New poster. It is an "amazing prize". We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them. DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time. They are grown now. No one knows we are blended. They are all ours. I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing. (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it. Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.

No, the kids know you're not their mother. They aren't yours. And they aren't blended - what is there to blend with?

You should know every time they looked at you, they wished it was their mom instead. Whatever else they told you - kids of divorce learn early to tell adults what they want to hear.

Perhaps you were barren so you went after someone else's kids because you could buy them. No worries. The kids know.

Wow, what a horrendous thing to say. You may have only been "going after" people who were unfaithful to their spouses, but who you end up insulting are not only them, but parents of children of regular divorce where there was no infidelity, just plain old "irreconcilable differences". My sister was five when my parents met and got married (after my mother's divorce, so don't start the witch hunt!), and my sister loves my dad with all of her heart. He raised her, he supported her, he loves her. Her father never paid a dime of child support nor did he have custody. She still sees him, he and my dad both walked my sister down the aisle when she got married. Essentially what you're saying is that my sister isn't my dad's, and that she wishes my dad weren't around, which I know is not the case.

You seem like a really broken person, and I hope you find what it is you're looking for that fix whatever part of you is so full of hate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure.

New poster. It is an "amazing prize". We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them. DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time. They are grown now. No one knows we are blended. They are all ours. I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing. (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it. Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.

No, the kids know you're not their mother. They aren't yours. And they aren't blended - what is there to blend with?

You should know every time they looked at you, they wished it was their mom instead. Whatever else they told you - kids of divorce learn early to tell adults what they want to hear.

Perhaps you were barren so you went after someone else's kids because you could buy them. No worries. The kids know.

What a repugnant thing to say. I shouldn't even add this, but I am not "barren". I gave birth to three kids. I inherited two. I love them all more than someone like you could ever understand. And yes, we are blended. I'm the one they call, even as adults, when they need mom. I'm the one who was there when they graduated from high school, then college. I'm the one who planned my daughter's wedding. And I the one she asked for when she gave us our grandchild. I'm not sure what happened to you to make you so ugly - I truly hope you heal. You insulted not only me, but women struggling with infertility. That's messed up.

You inherited them? Did their mother die? Or did you just pretend that she did? I tell you what's messed up, it's pretending the woman who carried them and birthed them and raised them for seven years doesn't exist.

Their mom would have been there for them just fine. She would have loved to be there for weddings and graduations. But you used your husband's money to take that chance away from her. Taking kids away from their mother is a repugnant act that I'm happy to insult. The kids know who their mom is. It's not you. They didn't want you. They wanted their mom.

Wow, you seem to be taking this realllllly personal PP. Are YOU the scorned ex that somehow found this thread on DCUM? You seem to be speaking as if you are. If you're not, I don't see how you have any business saying those things to the PP when you don't even know her or her children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure.

New poster. It is an "amazing prize". We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them. DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time. They are grown now. No one knows we are blended. They are all ours. I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing. (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it. Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.

No, the kids know you're not their mother. They aren't yours. And they aren't blended - what is there to blend with?

You should know every time they looked at you, they wished it was their mom instead. Whatever else they told you - kids of divorce learn early to tell adults what they want to hear.

Perhaps you were barren so you went after someone else's kids because you could buy them. No worries. The kids know.

What a repugnant thing to say. I shouldn't even add this, but I am not "barren". I gave birth to three kids. I inherited two. I love them all more than someone like you could ever understand. And yes, we are blended. I'm the one they call, even as adults, when they need mom. I'm the one who was there when they graduated from high school, then college. I'm the one who planned my daughter's wedding. And I the one she asked for when she gave us our grandchild. I'm not sure what happened to you to make you so ugly - I truly hope you heal. You insulted not only me, but women struggling with infertility. That's messed up.

You inherited them? Did their mother die? Or did you just pretend that she did? I tell you what's messed up, it's pretending the woman who carried them and birthed them and raised them for seven years doesn't exist.

Their mom would have been there for them just fine. She would have loved to be there for weddings and graduations. But you used your husband's money to take that chance away from her. Taking kids away from their mother is a repugnant act that I'm happy to insult. The kids know who their mom is. It's not you. They didn't want you. They wanted their mom.

Wow, you seem to be taking this realllllly personal PP. Are YOU the scorned ex that somehow found this thread on DCUM? You seem to be speaking as if you are. If you're not, I don't see how you have any business saying those things to the PP when you don't even know her or her children.

No, I'm married, and most importantly, my children are with me and not with some other woman. You don't need to "have business" to respond to people on DCUM. They put their business out there to comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure.

New poster. It is an "amazing prize". We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them. DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time. They are grown now. No one knows we are blended. They are all ours. I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing. (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it. Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.

No, the kids know you're not their mother. They aren't yours. And they aren't blended - what is there to blend with?

You should know every time they looked at you, they wished it was their mom instead. Whatever else they told you - kids of divorce learn early to tell adults what they want to hear.

Perhaps you were barren so you went after someone else's kids because you could buy them. No worries. The kids know.

Wow, what a horrendous thing to say. You may have only been "going after" people who were unfaithful to their spouses, but who you end up insulting are not only them, but parents of children of regular divorce where there was no infidelity, just plain old "irreconcilable differences". My sister was five when my parents met and got married (after my mother's divorce, so don't start the witch hunt!), and my sister loves my dad with all of her heart. He raised her, he supported her, he loves her. Her father never paid a dime of child support nor did he have custody. She still sees him, he and my dad both walked my sister down the aisle when she got married. Essentially what you're saying is that my sister isn't my dad's, and that she wishes my dad weren't around, which I know is not the case.

You seem like a really broken person, and I hope you find what it is you're looking for that fix whatever part of you is so full of hate.

I'm not going after people who are unfaithful to their spouses, that's their business. I'm going after people who take children away from their mothers.

Did your dad take your sister away from her mother?

If not, nothing I said applied to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure.

New poster. It is an "amazing prize". We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them. DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time. They are grown now. No one knows we are blended. They are all ours. I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing. (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it. Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.

No, the kids know you're not their mother. They aren't yours. And they aren't blended - what is there to blend with?

You should know every time they looked at you, they wished it was their mom instead. Whatever else they told you - kids of divorce learn early to tell adults what they want to hear.

Perhaps you were barren so you went after someone else's kids because you could buy them. No worries. The kids know.

Wow, what a horrendous thing to say. You may have only been "going after" people who were unfaithful to their spouses, but who you end up insulting are not only them, but parents of children of regular divorce where there was no infidelity, just plain old "irreconcilable differences". My sister was five when my parents met and got married (after my mother's divorce, so don't start the witch hunt!), and my sister loves my dad with all of her heart. He raised her, he supported her, he loves her. Her father never paid a dime of child support nor did he have custody. She still sees him, he and my dad both walked my sister down the aisle when she got married. Essentially what you're saying is that my sister isn't my dad's, and that she wishes my dad weren't around, which I know is not the case.

You seem like a really broken person, and I hope you find what it is you're looking for that fix whatever part of you is so full of hate.

I'm not going after people who are unfaithful to their spouses, that's their business. I'm going after people who take children away from their mothers.

Did your dad take your sister away from her mother?

If not, nothing I said applied to you.

No he didn't, the situation I explained would be my dad taking my sister away from her dad (which he didn't do, but that's the equivalent here). So are you only concerned with women who "take away", as you put it, children specifically from their mothers? If my dad HAD "taken away" my sister from her father, that would've been okay in your book as long as she wasn't being "taken away" from my mother? Just trying to see where your line is here, PP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure.

New poster. It is an "amazing prize". We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them. DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time. They are grown now. No one knows we are blended. They are all ours. I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing. (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it. Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.

No, the kids know you're not their mother. They aren't yours. And they aren't blended - what is there to blend with?

You should know every time they looked at you, they wished it was their mom instead. Whatever else they told you - kids of divorce learn early to tell adults what they want to hear.

Perhaps you were barren so you went after someone else's kids because you could buy them. No worries. The kids know.

What a repugnant thing to say. I shouldn't even add this, but I am not "barren". I gave birth to three kids. I inherited two. I love them all more than someone like you could ever understand. And yes, we are blended. I'm the one they call, even as adults, when they need mom. I'm the one who was there when they graduated from high school, then college. I'm the one who planned my daughter's wedding. And I the one she asked for when she gave us our grandchild. I'm not sure what happened to you to make you so ugly - I truly hope you heal. You insulted not only me, but women struggling with infertility. That's messed up.

You inherited them? Did their mother die? Or did you just pretend that she did? I tell you what's messed up, it's pretending the woman who carried them and birthed them and raised them for seven years doesn't exist.

Their mom would have been there for them just fine. She would have loved to be there for weddings and graduations. But you used your husband's money to take that chance away from her. Taking kids away from their mother is a repugnant act that I'm happy to insult. The kids know who their mom is. It's not you. They didn't want you. They wanted their mom.

Wow, you seem to be taking this realllllly personal PP. Are YOU the scorned ex that somehow found this thread on DCUM? You seem to be speaking as if you are. If you're not, I don't see how you have any business saying those things to the PP when you don't even know her or her children.

No, I'm married, and most importantly, my children are with me and not with some other woman. You don't need to "have business" to respond to people on DCUM. They put their business out there to comment.

Never said you had to "have business" to respond on DCUM, PP. What I did say is that you seem to speaking from a very personal point of view. You say their mother "would have loved to be there weddings and graduations", something that I don't know how you could possibly surmise unless you knew her personally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure.

New poster. It is an "amazing prize". We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them. DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time. They are grown now. No one knows we are blended. They are all ours. I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing. (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it. Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.

No, the kids know you're not their mother. They aren't yours. And they aren't blended - what is there to blend with?

You should know every time they looked at you, they wished it was their mom instead. Whatever else they told you - kids of divorce learn early to tell adults what they want to hear.

Perhaps you were barren so you went after someone else's kids because you could buy them. No worries. The kids know.

Wow, what a horrendous thing to say. You may have only been "going after" people who were unfaithful to their spouses, but who you end up insulting are not only them, but parents of children of regular divorce where there was no infidelity, just plain old "irreconcilable differences". My sister was five when my parents met and got married (after my mother's divorce, so don't start the witch hunt!), and my sister loves my dad with all of her heart. He raised her, he supported her, he loves her. Her father never paid a dime of child support nor did he have custody. She still sees him, he and my dad both walked my sister down the aisle when she got married. Essentially what you're saying is that my sister isn't my dad's, and that she wishes my dad weren't around, which I know is not the case.

You seem like a really broken person, and I hope you find what it is you're looking for that fix whatever part of you is so full of hate.

I'm not going after people who are unfaithful to their spouses, that's their business. I'm going after people who take children away from their mothers.

Did your dad take your sister away from her mother?

If not, nothing I said applied to you.

No he didn't, the situation I explained would be my dad taking my sister away from her dad (which he didn't do, but that's the equivalent here). So are you only concerned with women who "take away", as you put it, children specifically from their mothers? If my dad HAD "taken away" my sister from her father, that would've been okay in your book as long as she wasn't being "taken away" from my mother? Just trying to see where your line is here, PP.

Yes. I'm only concerned with women who take children away from their mothers. (And fathers who assist them but it's usually new wives who drive that, to excise all presence of the wife #1 away). Mothers who aren't, by their own admission, abusive or neglectful. Just in all likelihood, impoverished by their husband's departure, which is then used against them, because the new family is "more financially stable".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure.

New poster. It is an "amazing prize". We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them. DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time. They are grown now. No one knows we are blended. They are all ours. I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing. (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it. Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.

No, the kids know you're not their mother. They aren't yours. And they aren't blended - what is there to blend with?

You should know every time they looked at you, they wished it was their mom instead. Whatever else they told you - kids of divorce learn early to tell adults what they want to hear.

Perhaps you were barren so you went after someone else's kids because you could buy them. No worries. The kids know.

Wow, what a horrendous thing to say. You may have only been "going after" people who were unfaithful to their spouses, but who you end up insulting are not only them, but parents of children of regular divorce where there was no infidelity, just plain old "irreconcilable differences". My sister was five when my parents met and got married (after my mother's divorce, so don't start the witch hunt!), and my sister loves my dad with all of her heart. He raised her, he supported her, he loves her. Her father never paid a dime of child support nor did he have custody. She still sees him, he and my dad both walked my sister down the aisle when she got married. Essentially what you're saying is that my sister isn't my dad's, and that she wishes my dad weren't around, which I know is not the case.

You seem like a really broken person, and I hope you find what it is you're looking for that fix whatever part of you is so full of hate.

I'm not going after people who are unfaithful to their spouses, that's their business. I'm going after people who take children away from their mothers.

Did your dad take your sister away from her mother?

If not, nothing I said applied to you.

No he didn't, the situation I explained would be my dad taking my sister away from her dad (which he didn't do, but that's the equivalent here). So are you only concerned with women who "take away", as you put it, children specifically from their mothers? If my dad HAD "taken away" my sister from her father, that would've been okay in your book as long as she wasn't being "taken away" from my mother? Just trying to see where your line is here, PP.

Yes. I'm only concerned with women who take children away from their mothers. (And fathers who assist them but it's usually new wives who drive that, to excise all presence of the wife #1 away). Mothers who aren't, by their own admission, abusive or neglectful. Just in all likelihood, impoverished by their husband's departure, which is then used against them, because the new family is "more financially stable".

PP, I'm trying really hard not to LOL at you, but I'm not succeeding. I don't know what happened to you in your life to make you a hateful person, but I sincerely hope you're in therapy for this, because I can't imagine this is healthy for any person to hold in. I find it pretty telling that if this situation were involving men you would think everything was completely fine and dandy. Good to know. Carry on in your obvious misery PP. Hope you eventually find that happiness you're looking for.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure.

New poster. It is an "amazing prize". We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them. DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time. They are grown now. No one knows we are blended. They are all ours. I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing. (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it. Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.

No, the kids know you're not their mother. They aren't yours. And they aren't blended - what is there to blend with?

You should know every time they looked at you, they wished it was their mom instead. Whatever else they told you - kids of divorce learn early to tell adults what they want to hear.

Perhaps you were barren so you went after someone else's kids because you could buy them. No worries. The kids know.

What a repugnant thing to say. I shouldn't even add this, but I am not "barren". I gave birth to three kids. I inherited two. I love them all more than someone like you could ever understand. And yes, we are blended. I'm the one they call, even as adults, when they need mom. I'm the one who was there when they graduated from high school, then college. I'm the one who planned my daughter's wedding. And I the one she asked for when she gave us our grandchild. I'm not sure what happened to you to make you so ugly - I truly hope you heal. You insulted not only me, but women struggling with infertility. That's messed up.

You inherited them? Did their mother die? Or did you just pretend that she did? I tell you what's messed up, it's pretending the woman who carried them and birthed them and raised them for seven years doesn't exist.

Their mom would have been there for them just fine. She would have loved to be there for weddings and graduations. But you used your husband's money to take that chance away from her. Taking kids away from their mother is a repugnant act that I'm happy to insult. The kids know who their mom is. It's not you. They didn't want you. They wanted their mom.

Wow, you seem to be taking this realllllly personal PP. Are YOU the scorned ex that somehow found this thread on DCUM? You seem to be speaking as if you are. If you're not, I don't see how you have any business saying those things to the PP when you don't even know her or her children.

No, I'm married, and most importantly, my children are with me and not with some other woman. You don't need to "have business" to respond to people on DCUM. They put their business out there to comment.

Never said you had to "have business" to respond on DCUM, PP. What I did say is that you seem to speaking from a very personal point of view. You say their mother "would have loved to be there weddings and graduations", something that I don't know how you could possibly surmise unless you knew her personally.

Really odd. I'm guessing she is applying her situation to mine. Nothing else makes sense. If our kids' bio mother had wanted to be at graduations, she would have been there. She did come to the wedding. She had visitation rights - every other weekend and four weeks during the summer. We would have given more had she asked. At most she saw the kids twice a year. She took them for a few days around Winter Break and for a long weekend over the summer. She never called. I had the kids call her. When they got older, they stopped visiting. They didn't want to spend time with her, she didn't press it so neither did we. I wish they had a better relationship with her, but only for selfish reasons. I don't want her to drop dead and the kids have to live with guilt for not seeing her. The relationship has improved a little. They still won't visit with her for more than a couple of days, but at least they will go. The younger of the two is in college. She was with us for about a month over the summer and I convinced her to spend a couple of days with her mom while she was here. I'm not a monster. Their mother had every opportunity to stay involved after my DH was awarded custody. They were 4 and 7, for heavens sake! She is the one who bailed. The kids are angry, but not at me or their father.

This angry poster is either worried about losing her kids in a custody battle or off her meds.