Reply to Life with AP after divorce

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Life with AP after divorce"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure. [/quote]

New poster.  It is an "amazing prize".  We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them.  DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time.  They are grown now.  [b]No one knows we are blended.  [/b]They are all ours.  I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing.  (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it.  Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.[/quote]
No, the kids know you're not their mother. They aren't yours. And they aren't blended - what is there to blend with?

You should know every time they looked at you, they wished it was their mom instead.  Whatever else they told you - kids of divorce learn early to tell adults what they want to hear.

Perhaps you were barren so you went after someone else's kids because you could buy them. No worries. The kids know. [/quote]

Wow, what a horrendous thing to say. You may have only been "going after" people who were unfaithful to their spouses, but who you end up insulting are not only them, but parents of children of regular divorce where there was no infidelity, just plain old "irreconcilable differences". My sister was five when my parents met and got married (after my mother's divorce, so don't start the witch hunt!), and my sister loves my dad with all of her heart. He raised her, he supported her, he loves her. Her father never paid a dime of child support nor did he have custody. She still sees him, he and my dad both walked my sister down the aisle when she got married. Essentially what you're saying is that my sister isn't my dad's, and that she wishes my dad weren't around, which I know is not the case.

You seem like a really broken person, and I hope you find what it is you're looking for that fix whatever part of you is so full of hate. [/quote]

I'm not going after people who are unfaithful to their spouses, that's their business.  I'm going after people who take children away from their mothers.

Did your dad take your sister away from her mother?

If not, nothing I said applied to you.[/quote]

No he didn't, the situation I explained would be my dad taking my sister away from her dad (which he didn't do, but that's the equivalent here). So are you only concerned with women who "take away", as you put it, children specifically from their mothers? If my dad HAD "taken away" my sister from her father, that would've been okay in your book as long as she wasn't being "taken away" from my mother? Just trying to see where your line is here, PP.[/quote]

Yes. I'm only concerned with women who take children away from their mothers.  (And fathers who assist them but it's usually new wives who drive that, to excise all presence of the wife #1 away).  Mothers who aren't, by their own admission, abusive or neglectful.  Just in all likelihood, impoverished by their husband's departure, which is then used against them, because the new family is "more financially stable".  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics