Life with AP after divorce

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's honest because it fits your narrative.

Different poster. I don't think that all AP marriages have to end up that way, with tremendous damage to the family (although tbh I haven't ever seen it end up otherwise, but I don't have a lot of experience with this either, so I have a limited sample). But surely you can see that Georgia Mom is describing a fantasy life that can't be true, right? I am much more likely to believe the honest poster who describes an imperfect situation than someone like Georgia Mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's honest because it fits your narrative.

Different poster. I don't think that all AP marriages have to end up that way, with tremendous damage to the family (although tbh I haven't ever seen it end up otherwise, but I don't have a lot of experience with this either, so I have a limited sample). But surely you can see that Georgia Mom is describing a fantasy life that can't be true, right? I am much more likely to believe the honest poster who describes an imperfect situation than someone like Georgia Mom.

Tbh I've seen both. My grandfather cheated for years with many different women and had 2 children that we know of. He married his last April. They have been married almost 30 yrs and seem happy. My grandmother is a better woman than me. She had them over for dinner after 20 yrs.

I have a friend who started off as some guys fwb. He met someone and got married while still banging my friend. She was in love smh. She cut it off after 6 or 7 yrs. 5 yrs later he still stalks her linked in. It took her 2 or 3 yrs to get over this dude. She said she had to pretend he was dead.

[Anonymous]

I was married for 7 years in my early to late 20s. I hated my first husband. He was lazy, always broke, never helped at home, always wearing that stupid big headphones while playing video games 12 hours a day. Never helped with our son except when son got sick and ex husband can use to call out work. Anyway, I warned him several times that I am going to replace him and I did... He divorced me, got into a nasty court battle. I made more money than him that time so he asked for alimony and child support. I quit my job, fired my lawyer and I gave him primary custody.

I am married to my AP now and we have a DS. I became a SAHM. I am happy with AP and we live a simple life. My years with ex husband was a waste of time. I see my older son every two weeks up in MD (less now because I have an infant), sometimes he visits me. DS says he prefers to live with his Dad in the basement of his grandparents house.

My husband now-former AP is wonderful and an amazing father. We are in our early 30s now. If there is one thing we learned about the whole ordeal is that unhappy marriage, affairs, and divorce are really bad for kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was married for 7 years in my early to late 20s. I hated my first husband. He was lazy, always broke, never helped at home, always wearing that stupid big headphones while playing video games 12 hours a day. Never helped with our son except when son got sick and ex husband can use to call out work. Anyway, I warned him several times that I am going to replace him and I did... He divorced me, got into a nasty court battle. I made more money than him that time so he asked for alimony and child support. I quit my job, fired my lawyer and I gave him primary custody.

I am married to my AP now and we have a DS. I became a SAHM. I am happy with AP and we live a simple life. My years with ex husband was a waste of time. I see my older son every two weeks up in MD (less now because I have an infant), sometimes he visits me. DS says he prefers to live with his Dad in the basement of his grandparents house.

My husband now-former AP is wonderful and an amazing father. We are in our early 30s now. If there is one thing we learned about the whole ordeal is that unhappy marriage, affairs, and divorce are really bad for kids.

You sound oddly proud for abandoning your child, like you really stuck it to your DH by doing that. Ugh. Hopefully you do a better job of parenting this second time around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was married for 7 years in my early to late 20s. I hated my first husband. He was lazy, always broke, never helped at home, always wearing that stupid big headphones while playing video games 12 hours a day. Never helped with our son except when son got sick and ex husband can use to call out work. Anyway, I warned him several times that I am going to replace him and I did... He divorced me, got into a nasty court battle. I made more money than him that time so he asked for alimony and child support. I quit my job, fired my lawyer and I gave him primary custody.

I am married to my AP now and we have a DS. I became a SAHM. I am happy with AP and we live a simple life. My years with ex husband was a waste of time. I see my older son every two weeks up in MD (less now because I have an infant), sometimes he visits me. DS says he prefers to live with his Dad in the basement of his grandparents house.

My husband now-former AP is wonderful and an amazing father. We are in our early 30s now. If there is one thing we learned about the whole ordeal is that unhappy marriage, affairs, and divorce are really bad for kids.

So let me get this straight. You quit your job in order to avoid paying alimony and child support, and also in order to avoid paying, you handed over primary custody of your child to a man who you say is a terrible person. All so you could go live happily ever after with your AP.

This is one of the lowest posts I've ever seen on DCUM.

And to the bolded: how about a parent abandoning a child, and in particular to an unfit parent who lives in a basement? Is that good or bad for children? You should like such a shitty person that I have trouble believing you aren't a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was married for 7 years in my early to late 20s. I hated my first husband. He was lazy, always broke, never helped at home, always wearing that stupid big headphones while playing video games 12 hours a day. Never helped with our son except when son got sick and ex husband can use to call out work. Anyway, I warned him several times that I am going to replace him and I did... He divorced me, got into a nasty court battle. I made more money than him that time so he asked for alimony and child support. I quit my job, fired my lawyer and I gave him primary custody.

I am married to my AP now and we have a DS. I became a SAHM. I am happy with AP and we live a simple life. My years with ex husband was a waste of time. I see my older son every two weeks up in MD (less now because I have an infant), sometimes he visits me. DS says he prefers to live with his Dad in the basement of his grandparents house.

My husband now-former AP is wonderful and an amazing father. We are in our early 30s now. If there is one thing we learned about the whole ordeal is that unhappy marriage, affairs, and divorce are really bad for kids.

So let me get this straight. You quit your job in order to avoid paying alimony and child support, and also in order to avoid paying, you handed over primary custody of your child to a man who you say is a terrible person. All so you could go live happily ever after with your AP.

This is one of the lowest posts I've ever seen on DCUM.

And to the bolded: how about a parent abandoning a child, and in particular to an unfit parent who lives in a basement? Is that good or bad for children? You should like such a shitty person that I have trouble believing you aren't a troll.

Agree. This is beyond.

[Anonymous]

"Ow" here.
That's really messed up. Your child needs you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was married for 7 years in my early to late 20s. I hated my first husband. He was lazy, always broke, never helped at home, always wearing that stupid big headphones while playing video games 12 hours a day. Never helped with our son except when son got sick and ex husband can use to call out work. Anyway, I warned him several times that I am going to replace him and I did... He divorced me, got into a nasty court battle. I made more money than him that time so he asked for alimony and child support. I quit my job, fired my lawyer and I gave him primary custody.

I am married to my AP now and we have a DS. I became a SAHM. I am happy with AP and we live a simple life. My years with ex husband was a waste of time. I see my older son every two weeks up in MD (less now because I have an infant), sometimes he visits me. DS says he prefers to live with his Dad in the basement of his grandparents house.

My husband now-former AP is wonderful and an amazing father. We are in our early 30s now. If there is one thing we learned about the whole ordeal is that unhappy marriage, affairs, and divorce are really bad for kids.

So let me get this straight. You quit your job in order to avoid paying alimony and child support, and also in order to avoid paying, you handed over primary custody of your child to a man who you say is a terrible person. All so you could go live happily ever after with your AP.

This is one of the lowest posts I've ever seen on DCUM.

And to the bolded: how about a parent abandoning a child, and in particular to an unfit parent who lives in a basement? Is that good or bad for children? You should like such a shitty person that I have trouble believing you aren't a troll.

Agree. This is beyond.

The worst part is that she's so cavalier about it, relishing in the fact that she stuck it to her husband and basically discarded her child, then started a new life with her AP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was married for 7 years in my early to late 20s. I hated my first husband. He was lazy, always broke, never helped at home, always wearing that stupid big headphones while playing video games 12 hours a day. Never helped with our son except when son got sick and ex husband can use to call out work. Anyway, I warned him several times that I am going to replace him and I did... He divorced me, got into a nasty court battle. I made more money than him that time so he asked for alimony and child support. I quit my job, fired my lawyer and I gave him primary custody.

I am married to my AP now and we have a DS. I became a SAHM. I am happy with AP and we live a simple life. My years with ex husband was a waste of time. I see my older son every two weeks up in MD (less now because I have an infant), sometimes he visits me. DS says he prefers to live with his Dad in the basement of his grandparents house.

My husband now-former AP is wonderful and an amazing father. We are in our early 30s now. If there is one thing we learned about the whole ordeal is that unhappy marriage, affairs, and divorce are really bad for kids.

So let me get this straight. You quit your job in order to avoid paying alimony and child support, and also in order to avoid paying, you handed over primary custody of your child to a man who you say is a terrible person. All so you could go live happily ever after with your AP.

This is one of the lowest posts I've ever seen on DCUM.

And to the bolded: how about a parent abandoning a child, and in particular to an unfit parent who lives in a basement? Is that good or bad for children? You should like such a shitty person that I have trouble believing you aren't a troll.

Agree. This is beyond.

The worst part is that she's so cavalier about it, relishing in the fact that she stuck it to her husband and basically discarded her child, then started a new life with her AP.

Men do this. All. The. Fucking. Time.

[Anonymous]

True

[Anonymous]

Love my AP, but there's no effing way I'd want to be married to him.

[Anonymous]

Why not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was married for 7 years in my early to late 20s. I hated my first husband. He was lazy, always broke, never helped at home, always wearing that stupid big headphones while playing video games 12 hours a day. Never helped with our son except when son got sick and ex husband can use to call out work. Anyway, I warned him several times that I am going to replace him and I did... He divorced me, got into a nasty court battle. I made more money than him that time so he asked for alimony and child support. I quit my job, fired my lawyer and I gave him primary custody.

I am married to my AP now and we have a DS. I became a SAHM. I am happy with AP and we live a simple life. My years with ex husband was a waste of time. I see my older son every two weeks up in MD (less now because I have an infant), sometimes he visits me. DS says he prefers to live with his Dad in the basement of his grandparents house.

My husband now-former AP is wonderful and an amazing father. We are in our early 30s now. If there is one thing we learned about the whole ordeal is that unhappy marriage, affairs, and divorce are really bad for kids.

So let me get this straight. You quit your job in order to avoid paying alimony and child support, and also in order to avoid paying, you handed over primary custody of your child to a man who you say is a terrible person. All so you could go live happily ever after with your AP.

This is one of the lowest posts I've ever seen on DCUM.

And to the bolded: how about a parent abandoning a child, and in particular to an unfit parent who lives in a basement? Is that good or bad for children? You should like such a shitty person that I have trouble believing you aren't a troll.

Agree. This is beyond.

The worst part is that she's so cavalier about it, relishing in the fact that she stuck it to her husband and basically discarded her child, then started a new life with her AP.

Men do this. All. The. Fucking. Time.

And it's equally terrible.

[Anonymous]

Yes it is equally terrible but somehow less incomprehensible. Maybe because it is so common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes it is equally terrible but somehow less incomprehensible. Maybe because it is so common.

I think it's just less surprising that a man can be so selfish.