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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure. [/quote]

New poster.  It is an "amazing prize".  We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them.  DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time.  They are grown now.  [b]No one knows we are blended.  [/b]They are all ours.  I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing.  (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it.  Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.[/quote]
No, the kids know you're not their mother. They aren't yours. And they aren't blended - what is there to blend with?

You should know every time they looked at you, they wished it was their mom instead.  Whatever else they told you - kids of divorce learn early to tell adults what they want to hear.

Perhaps you were barren so you went after someone else's kids because you could buy them. No worries. The kids know. [/quote]

What a repugnant thing to say.  I shouldn't even add this, but I am not "barren".  I gave birth to three kids.  I inherited two.  I love them all more than someone like you could ever understand.  And yes, we are blended.  I'm the one they call, even as adults, when they need mom.  I'm the one who was there when they graduated from high school, then college.  I'm the one who planned my daughter's wedding.  And I the one she asked for when she gave us our grandchild. I'm not sure what happened to you to make you so ugly - I truly hope you heal.  You insulted not only me, but women struggling with infertility.  That's messed up.[/quote]

You inherited them?  Did their mother die? Or did you just pretend that she did? I tell you what's messed up, it's pretending the woman who carried them and birthed them and raised them for seven years doesn't exist.

Their mom would have been there for them just fine.  She would have loved to be there for weddings and graduations.  But you used your husband's money to take that chance away from her.  Taking kids away from their mother is a repugnant act that I'm happy to insult.  The kids know who their mom is.  It's not you. They didn't want you.  They wanted their mom. [/quote]

Wow, you seem to be taking this realllllly personal PP. Are YOU the scorned ex that somehow found this thread on DCUM? You seem to be speaking as if you are. If you're not, I don't see how you have any business saying those things to the PP when you don't even know her or her children.[/quote]
No, I'm married, and most importantly, my children are with me and not with some other woman.  You don't need to "have business" to respond to people on DCUM.  They put their business out there to comment. [/quote]

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