Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was married for 7 years in my early to late 20s. I hated my first husband. He was lazy, always broke, never helped at home, always wearing that stupid big headphones while playing video games 12 hours a day. Never helped with our son except when son got sick and ex husband can use to call out work. Anyway, I warned him several times that I am going to replace him and I did... He divorced me, got into a nasty court battle. I made more money than him that time so he asked for alimony and child support. I quit my job, fired my lawyer and I gave him primary custody.
I am married to my AP now and we have a DS. I became a SAHM. I am happy with AP and we live a simple life. My years with ex husband was a waste of time. I see my older son every two weeks up in MD (less now because I have an infant), sometimes he visits me. DS says he prefers to live with his Dad in the basement of his grandparents house.
My husband now-former AP is wonderful and an amazing father. We are in our early 30s now. If there is one thing we learned about the whole ordeal is that unhappy marriage, affairs, and divorce are really bad for kids.
So let me get this straight. You quit your job in order to avoid paying alimony and child support, and also in order to avoid paying, you handed over primary custody of your child to a man who you say is a terrible person. All so you could go live happily ever after with your AP.
This is one of the lowest posts I've ever seen on DCUM.
And to the bolded: how about a parent abandoning a child, and in particular to an unfit parent who lives in a basement? Is that good or bad for children? You should like such a shitty person that I have trouble believing you aren't a troll.
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