Does anyone else find ‘cherish these moments’ parenting advice a little traumatizing?

[Anonymous]

"Cleaning and cooking can wait til tomorrow
For babies grow up as we've learned to our sorrow
So quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep
I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep"

Babies don't keep! That's all we are saying! If you really dislike the baby stage so much that you can't think of one positive thing about it you might miss, then I really don't know what to tell you! We are not trying to insult you, or say you are doing it wrong, or that it isn't hard. Things can be hard and wonderful at the same time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Smug Mommy isn't a thing, stop trying to make it happen.

Smug Mommy is…literally why this thread exists. I get that you’re unsettled by knowing what people really think and say about you after you drop your unsolicited advice and smug comments and exit stage left.

You sweet summer child. Do you honestly think any of the older moms you are trying to demean care at all what you think about them? None of them are unsettled by any of the complaining here. Caring about what others think is very much a young woman's issue, as evidenced by this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Cleaning and cooking can wait til tomorrow
For babies grow up as we've learned to our sorrow
So quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep
I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep"

Babies don't keep! That's all we are saying! If you really dislike the baby stage so much that you can't think of one positive thing about it you might miss, then I really don't know what to tell you! We are not trying to insult you, or say you are doing it wrong, or that it isn't hard. Things can be hard and wonderful at the same time.

We know that. And guess what? We’ve already been hearing it from literally everyone we encounter ever since we had a freaking bump. So you’re not original, you’re not coming in with vital information, you are just an annoying stranger who wants to use us as a soapbox to talk about your life and your experience. No thank you. That’s all we’re saying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Smug Mommy isn't a thing, stop trying to make it happen.

Smug Mommy is…literally why this thread exists. I get that you’re unsettled by knowing what people really think and say about you after you drop your unsolicited advice and smug comments and exit stage left.

You sweet summer child. Do you honestly think any of the older moms you are trying to demean care at all what you think about them? None of them are unsettled by any of the complaining here. Caring about what others think is very much a young woman's issue, as evidenced by this thread.

Absolute best thing about aging!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Smug Mommy isn't a thing, stop trying to make it happen.

Smug Mommy is…literally why this thread exists. I get that you’re unsettled by knowing what people really think and say about you after you drop your unsolicited advice and smug comments and exit stage left.

You sweet summer child. Do you honestly think any of the older moms you are trying to demean care at all what you think about them? None of them are unsettled by any of the complaining here. Caring about what others think is very much a young woman's issue, as evidenced by this thread.

OK, thanks, Linda! You have a great day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Cleaning and cooking can wait til tomorrow
For babies grow up as we've learned to our sorrow
So quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep
I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep"

Babies don't keep! That's all we are saying! If you really dislike the baby stage so much that you can't think of one positive thing about it you might miss, then I really don't know what to tell you! We are not trying to insult you, or say you are doing it wrong, or that it isn't hard. Things can be hard and wonderful at the same time.

We know that. And guess what? We’ve already been hearing it from literally everyone we encounter ever since we had a freaking bump. So you’re not original, you’re not coming in with vital information, you are just an annoying stranger who wants to use us as a soapbox to talk about your life and your experience. No thank you. That’s all we’re saying.

Jesus, chill lady. We are just making idle chit chat with you. No one is trying to give you "vital information" or stand on a soapbox. ITS CHIT CHAT. I know your generation doesn't really understand what that is, but I assure you its harmless. No one is trying to "annoy" you.

You really, really need to CTFD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Cleaning and cooking can wait til tomorrow
For babies grow up as we've learned to our sorrow
So quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep
I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep"

Babies don't keep! That's all we are saying! If you really dislike the baby stage so much that you can't think of one positive thing about it you might miss, then I really don't know what to tell you! We are not trying to insult you, or say you are doing it wrong, or that it isn't hard. Things can be hard and wonderful at the same time.

We know that. And guess what? We’ve already been hearing it from literally everyone we encounter ever since we had a freaking bump. So you’re not original, you’re not coming in with vital information, you are just an annoying stranger who wants to use us as a soapbox to talk about your life and your experience. No thank you. That’s all we’re saying.

Jesus, chill lady. We are just making idle chit chat with you. No one is trying to give you "vital information" or stand on a soapbox. ITS CHIT CHAT. I know your generation doesn't really understand what that is, but I assure you its harmless. No one is trying to "annoy" you.

You really, really need to CTFD.

We don’t want your idle chit chat. Ease on down the road.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Cleaning and cooking can wait til tomorrow
For babies grow up as we've learned to our sorrow
So quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep
I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep"

Babies don't keep! That's all we are saying! If you really dislike the baby stage so much that you can't think of one positive thing about it you might miss, then I really don't know what to tell you! We are not trying to insult you, or say you are doing it wrong, or that it isn't hard. Things can be hard and wonderful at the same time.

We know that. And guess what? We’ve already been hearing it from literally everyone we encounter ever since we had a freaking bump. So you’re not original, you’re not coming in with vital information, you are just an annoying stranger who wants to use us as a soapbox to talk about your life and your experience. No thank you. That’s all we’re saying.

Jesus, chill lady. We are just making idle chit chat with you. No one is trying to give you "vital information" or stand on a soapbox. ITS CHIT CHAT. I know your generation doesn't really understand what that is, but I assure you its harmless. No one is trying to "annoy" you.

You really, really need to CTFD.

We don’t want your idle chit chat. Ease on down the road.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Cleaning and cooking can wait til tomorrow
For babies grow up as we've learned to our sorrow
So quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep
I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep"

Babies don't keep! That's all we are saying! If you really dislike the baby stage so much that you can't think of one positive thing about it you might miss, then I really don't know what to tell you! We are not trying to insult you, or say you are doing it wrong, or that it isn't hard. Things can be hard and wonderful at the same time.

We know that. And guess what? We’ve already been hearing it from literally everyone we encounter ever since we had a freaking bump. So you’re not original, you’re not coming in with vital information, you are just an annoying stranger who wants to use us as a soapbox to talk about your life and your experience. No thank you. That’s all we’re saying.

Jesus, chill lady. We are just making idle chit chat with you. No one is trying to give you "vital information" or stand on a soapbox. ITS CHIT CHAT. I know your generation doesn't really understand what that is, but I assure you its harmless. No one is trying to "annoy" you.

You really, really need to CTFD.

We don’t want your idle chit chat. Ease on down the road.

I'm concerned by the level of anger you feel over this relatively minor issue that most people consider "polite conversation." Its fine for you to find this mildly annoying and eye rolling but in the grand scheme of life, this is not worth the stress/anger/energy you are exerting over it. Do you have a husband? Parents? What do they think about your level of upset over relatively minor things?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Smug Mommy isn't a thing, stop trying to make it happen.

Smug Mommy is…literally why this thread exists. I get that you’re unsettled by knowing what people really think and say about you after you drop your unsolicited advice and smug comments and exit stage left.

You sweet summer child. Do you honestly think any of the older moms you are trying to demean care at all what you think about them? None of them are unsettled by any of the complaining here. Caring about what others think is very much a young woman's issue, as evidenced by this thread.

Absolute best thing about aging!

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Cleaning and cooking can wait til tomorrow
For babies grow up as we've learned to our sorrow
So quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep
I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep"

Babies don't keep! That's all we are saying! If you really dislike the baby stage so much that you can't think of one positive thing about it you might miss, then I really don't know what to tell you! We are not trying to insult you, or say you are doing it wrong, or that it isn't hard. Things can be hard and wonderful at the same time.

We know that. And guess what? We’ve already been hearing it from literally everyone we encounter ever since we had a freaking bump. So you’re not original, you’re not coming in with vital information, you are just an annoying stranger who wants to use us as a soapbox to talk about your life and your experience. No thank you. That’s all we’re saying.

Jesus, chill lady. We are just making idle chit chat with you. No one is trying to give you "vital information" or stand on a soapbox. ITS CHIT CHAT. I know your generation doesn't really understand what that is, but I assure you its harmless. No one is trying to "annoy" you.

You really, really need to CTFD.

We don’t want your idle chit chat. Ease on down the road.

I'm concerned by the level of anger you feel over this relatively minor issue that most people consider "polite conversation." Its fine for you to find this mildly annoying and eye rolling but in the grand scheme of life, this is not worth the stress/anger/energy you are exerting over it. Do you have a husband? Parents? What do they think about your level of upset over relatively minor things?

I’m concerned at your level of failing to grasp that people have different perspectives and opinions than you do. To me, polite conversation is a smile and a compliment, such as “Your baby is so precious. It reminds me of special days with my son.” That is polite. “Oh ho, you think you’re tired now? Try parenting a teenager” is not polite. “Little kids, little problems” is not polite. Unsolicited advice is not polite.

If you don’t agree with that perspective or don’t like it, that’s fine. You’re not going to shout me down or shame me out of my opinion.

I do indeed have a wonderful husband, two wonderful children, and two wonderful parents. I also have a brother, a sister, and six nieces and nephews. I’ve got good friends, neighbors, extended family and coworkers. What do the close people in my life have in common? They respect one another, they don’t impose, they don’t offer unsolicited advice, they don’t push. People who do that are not close with me, they are kept at arm’s length. If your mileage varies, good for you.

I…don’t care that you’re “concerned” for me. (And we all know what “concerned” really means on DCUM.) So there’s that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Smug Mommy isn't a thing, stop trying to make it happen.

Smug Mommy is…literally why this thread exists. I get that you’re unsettled by knowing what people really think and say about you after you drop your unsolicited advice and smug comments and exit stage left.

Do you always think everyone is out to get you? Just because people think you're ridiculous doesn't mean they're the same people who say things you don't like.

[Anonymous]

The lady doth protest too much, methinks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Statements and attitudes like this were TERRIBLE for my PPD. I was trying SO HARD to enjoy my beloved, wanted, adored children but every moment of the day was such a terrible struggle. I was basically nonfunctional, I was miserable all the time, I was crying 8-10 times a day every day. I literally ate a big box of cookies every day for months because food was my only comfort. I put on 30 pounds. I knew I would regret not enjoying them but you can’t willpower or attitude adjust depression away. It doesn’t work like that. So on top of the misery, I had the guilt and failure for being miserable.

I will never say anything like this to any parent.

I don’t see how anyone can read this and still think that these kinds of comments are a fine thing to say to a stranger.

[Anonymous]

Why are older women with old kids being called "Mommy". This is not the cute catchphrase someone thinks it is.