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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Cleaning and cooking can wait til tomorrow
For babies grow up as we've learned to our sorrow
So quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep
I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep"

Babies don't keep! That's all we are saying! If you really dislike the baby stage so much that you can't think of one positive thing about it you might miss, then I really don't know what to tell you! We are not trying to insult you, or say you are doing it wrong, or that it isn't hard. Things can be hard and wonderful at the same time. [/quote]

We know that. And guess what? We’ve already been hearing it from literally everyone we encounter ever since we had a freaking bump. So you’re not original, you’re not coming in with vital information, you are just an annoying stranger who wants to use us as a soapbox to talk about your life and your experience. No thank you. That’s all we’re saying. [/quote]

Jesus, chill lady. We are just making idle chit chat with you. No one is trying to give you "vital information" or stand on a soapbox. ITS CHIT CHAT. I know your generation doesn't really understand what that is, but I assure you its harmless. No one is trying to "annoy" you.

You really, really need to CTFD. [/quote]

We don’t want your idle chit chat. Ease on down the road. [/quote]

I'm concerned by the level of anger you feel over this relatively minor issue that most people consider "polite conversation." Its fine for you to find this mildly annoying and eye rolling but in the grand scheme of life, this is not worth the stress/anger/energy you are exerting over it. Do you have a husband? Parents? What do they think about your level of upset over relatively minor things?[/quote]

I’m concerned at your level of failing to grasp that people have different perspectives and opinions than you do. To me, polite conversation is a smile and a compliment, such as “Your baby is so precious. It reminds me of special days with my son.” That is polite. “Oh ho, you think you’re tired now? Try parenting a teenager” is not polite. “Little kids, little problems” is not polite. Unsolicited advice is not polite.

If you don’t agree with that perspective or don’t like it, that’s fine. You’re not going to shout me down or shame me out of my opinion.

I do indeed have a wonderful husband, two wonderful children, and two wonderful parents. I also have a brother, a sister, and six nieces and nephews. I’ve got good friends, neighbors, extended family and coworkers. What do the close people in my life have in common? They respect one another, they don’t impose, they don’t offer unsolicited advice, they don’t push. People who do that are not close with me, they are kept at arm’s length. If your mileage varies, good for you.

I…don’t care that you’re “concerned” for me. (And we all know what “concerned” really means on DCUM.) So there’s that. [/quote]

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