How to marry a financially compatible man?

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Op—I don’t get the negativity being thrown your way. Why is looking for equal considered negative?

Look all you want. Expect the world to cough up: nah.

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I have not read every page of this thread but OP should realize that most men earning over $300,000 flat out never hit the official dating market. These men work hard day in and day out to earn the $300,000 and frequently will date women from work connections or the social circle they are already in.

Men earning this kind of money are typically not on dating websites.

When was the last time you came across a surgeon on a dating website? They date women from work.

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Anonymous wrote:Just go to any high end ski resort. Lots of wealthy men. And single men outnumber single women by a huge margin.

And where do you get to know the men? They all wear goggles on the slopes

The bars.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have not read every page of this thread but OP should realize that most men earning over $300,000 flat out never hit the official dating market. These men work hard day in and day out to earn the $300,000 and frequently will date women from work connections or the social circle they are already in.

Men earning this kind of money are typically not on dating websites.

When was the last time you came across a surgeon on a dating website? They date women from work.

I met my husband on a dating app years ago. He was making 170k in 2003 which back then was an equivalent of 300k now. You are over exaggerating what 300k really is.

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Anonymous wrote:Just go to any high end ski resort. Lots of wealthy men. And single men outnumber single women by a huge margin.

And where do you get to know the men? They all wear goggles on the slopes

The bars.

OP here: I am somewhat shy going to bars alone in the evening

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have not read every page of this thread but OP should realize that most men earning over $300,000 flat out never hit the official dating market. These men work hard day in and day out to earn the $300,000 and frequently will date women from work connections or the social circle they are already in.

Men earning this kind of money are typically not on dating websites.

When was the last time you came across a surgeon on a dating website? They date women from work.

Actually, that's not true. I work in the finance world, and some of those guys are on the dating websites precisely because they work hard day in and day out. Most of their friends from college and grad schools are married with little children, so there goes the social life, and besides they are too busy anyway. Dating people from work connections is not a good idea these days.

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Anonymous wrote:I have not read every page of this thread but OP should realize that most men earning over $300,000 flat out never hit the official dating market. These men work hard day in and day out to earn the $300,000 and frequently will date women from work connections or the social circle they are already in.

Men earning this kind of money are typically not on dating websites.

When was the last time you came across a surgeon on a dating website? They date women from work.

Actually, that's not true. I work in the finance world, and some of those guys are on the dating websites precisely because they work hard day in and day out. Most of their friends from college and grad schools are married with little children, so there goes the social life, and besides they are too busy anyway. Dating people from work connections is not a good idea these days.

So they are looking for early 40’s women? I doubt what OP lays out in terms of wealth would impress anyone who is successful in finance.

[Anonymous]

Op, I’m with you. I’m used to a certain of living. I’m a high income executive. Why should I settle for less?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have not read every page of this thread but OP should realize that most men earning over $300,000 flat out never hit the official dating market. These men work hard day in and day out to earn the $300,000 and frequently will date women from work connections or the social circle they are already in.

Men earning this kind of money are typically not on dating websites.

When was the last time you came across a surgeon on a dating website? They date women from work.

Actually, that's not true. I work in the finance world, and some of those guys are on the dating websites precisely because they work hard day in and day out. Most of their friends from college and grad schools are married with little children, so there goes the social life, and besides they are too busy anyway. Dating people from work connections is not a good idea these days.

So they are looking for early 40’s women? I doubt what OP lays out in terms of wealth would impress anyone who is successful in finance.

Round 3 arguing that all 40-50 yo men want 15-20 younger women.

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Anonymous wrote:I have not read every page of this thread but OP should realize that most men earning over $300,000 flat out never hit the official dating market. These men work hard day in and day out to earn the $300,000 and frequently will date women from work connections or the social circle they are already in.

Men earning this kind of money are typically not on dating websites.

When was the last time you came across a surgeon on a dating website? They date women from work.

Actually, that's not true. I work in the finance world, and some of those guys are on the dating websites precisely because they work hard day in and day out. Most of their friends from college and grad schools are married with little children, so there goes the social life, and besides they are too busy anyway. Dating people from work connections is not a good idea these days.

So they are looking for early 40’s women? I doubt what OP lays out in terms of wealth would impress anyone who is successful in finance.

So in your view men would be only looking for a young body which can produce kids? They cannot be looking for an equal partner of same age or slightly younger, with whom they are on the same stage of life, would have similar lifestyle, lots of common topics for discussion?
It's highly taxing for many men to be a sole provider to a young family, especially when the wife is younger and likely makes "out of college" salary. It depletes their savings, there might be a need to still repay her student loans, or finance her education.

Many 40+ men already have kids and not necessarily look to continue brooding. There is also a trend among younger couples to be childless to enjoy life while young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, I’m with you. I’m used to a certain of living. I’m a high income executive. Why should I settle for less?

OP here: I certainly understand you:0)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have not read every page of this thread but OP should realize that most men earning over $300,000 flat out never hit the official dating market. These men work hard day in and day out to earn the $300,000 and frequently will date women from work connections or the social circle they are already in.

Men earning this kind of money are typically not on dating websites.

When was the last time you came across a surgeon on a dating website? They date women from work.

OP but I dated a surgeon last year. On Bumble. However, that is very rare. It ended because he wants to get married and have children. He is not looking for me or OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have not read every page of this thread but OP should realize that most men earning over $300,000 flat out never hit the official dating market. These men work hard day in and day out to earn the $300,000 and frequently will date women from work connections or the social circle they are already in.

Men earning this kind of money are typically not on dating websites.

When was the last time you came across a surgeon on a dating website? They date women from work.

OP but I dated a surgeon last year. On Bumble. However, that is very rare. It ended because he wants to get married and have children. He is not looking for me or OP.

Was he forthcoming with you on that (desire to have children)? If so, it wasn't a wise choice for you to waste a year with him.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m female in my late 40s and make $500k. My kids are taken care of and their father makes just under $1M.

I get what you’re looking for—someone who can keep up with you financially and culturally. It’s expensive to travel to Europe for 2 weeks in summer, spend 2 weeks skiing in the winter, and have a few long weekends. You’re future partner needs to be able to pay their own way. People on DCUM are so quick to tell women who want a more extravagant lifestyle to get their own money. Well, you have your own money. I don’t see why what you’re looking for is unreasonable. However, in the DC area it’s probably not realistic. You need to look in NY or Silicon Valley.

Vomit. And yes, you are right. Those men are not in DC. Which is why I told a family member to leave 20 years ago...and he did and now very wealthy.

What is there to vomit about?

You live in an unrealistic bubble about what matters. It is especially disgusting since you have money and waste it on “lifestyle” and BS appearances.

Lady, stocks are on sale. You’re an idiot. There are plenty of index funds that will do very very well if you buy in now.

Sorry. Money does matter. It's all well and good to be idealistic that love conquers all. And then reality creeps in and life is expensive. How many people on DCUM outsource everything that they can? That's not trivial money. If OP wants to travel then that's what's important to her. You many consider it a waste on "lifestyle" but at 40 with a grown child, what do you think she should be doing? Her kid is off to college, she has her retirement money already. I have no idea what sort of non wasteful lifestyle expenses you think she should be spending her money on.

Investing it. Not spending 40k a year on travel and 15k on country club memberships. It is vapid.

Ok here: hi , go ahead tell me where I should be investing. I am open for your ideas. I personally couldn’t find anything better than CDs and waiting out for housing crash sitting on cash for the next 2 years. So please, tell me your secret stocks. I exited stocks in the fall

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have not read every page of this thread but OP should realize that most men earning over $300,000 flat out never hit the official dating market. These men work hard day in and day out to earn the $300,000 and frequently will date women from work connections or the social circle they are already in.

Men earning this kind of money are typically not on dating websites.

When was the last time you came across a surgeon on a dating website? They date women from work.

OP but I dated a surgeon last year. On Bumble. However, that is very rare. It ended because he wants to get married and have children. He is not looking for me or OP.

Was he forthcoming with you on that (desire to have children)? If so, it wasn't a wise choice for you to waste a year with him.

I said a year ago; I didn’t say I dated him for a year: you need to learn to read. Also I don’t consider anybody a waste of time because I’m not getting remarried. Ever.