How to marry a financially compatible man?

[Anonymous]

I am a woman in early 40s, recently divorced. Not looking to remarry immediately, I just date. But if I was to remarry, it would need to be someone "financially compatible". I have a net worth if $3.5mm (primarily real estate trust-like managed arrangement). No financial obligations except for a very small mortgage (net worth counted after mortgage).

My trust makes around 250k/year. I also work full time at a fed contractor making 100K/year at a contracting position. I am not particular career oriented as I already make enough for single lifestyle. Basically it's like having 2 jobs with gross total income 300-350k depending on a year. Ideally I need my future husband in a 300K+ income bracket, to "restore" the lifestyle I had prior to my divorce. I had a comfortable income with exH at 700-$1mm/year. I like traveling to Europe, skiing, nice clothing, restaurants etc. I would want to mix the income which has to be roughly equal, without mixing our pre-marital assets. That way we both could step up our joint lifestyle and afford more as a couple plus benefit on joint taxes (every economist knows "economy of scale" principle). Of course, we could buy another joint property or start some joint business in real estate which I am very familiar with

My partner would need to have a similar life style: e.g. not being cheap, willing to mix incomes but not assets, like art in other words being accustomed to this lifestyle. I can't imagine arguing about things which I can somewhat afford myself already. I am a member of a country club (where everyone seems married); a sport club, travel every season for 2 weeks on average; go out to nice restaurants.

Is it realistic to find a partner like this? How would I "weed out" those under the parameters I am looking for? Are there dating platforms for wealthier people? I am not on any app at the moment, would it be a poor taste to put the requirements on the profile?

[Anonymous]

You sound like a real charmer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a real charmer.

Why? I simply look for a financially equal man of roughly my age/could be max 10 years older, not burdened by obligations

[Anonymous]

What has your dating life been like so far? Do the opposite of what you're currently doing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a real charmer.

Why? I simply look for a financially equal man of roughly my age/could be max 10 years older, not burdened by obligations

Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

I feel like most UMC men will make at least $300k. That should not be hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What has your dating life been like so far? Do the opposite of what you're currently doing

I am not particular doing anything. I just go places with my grown up son, parents, travel, do minimal cosmetic procedures to become the best version of myself (lipo, sports, massages). I have a suitor but he's not compatible socially so I don't plan anything serious on that front. It's a much younger man. He makes a lot as AC specialist/general contractor but he's not a reader or world traveler. I would be miserable with someone limited like that, but we do have sex once in a while

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like most UMC men will make at least $300k. That should not be hard.

All women's dating experience on this thread sounds depressing: men without houses, no money for gas even etc. Is it a good taste to be upfront with financial expectations on my dating profile?

[Anonymous]

The longer your list, the slimmer the prospects.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The longer your list, the slimmer the prospects.

I am not interested in a long term relationship or wasting time on incompatible men so if I get contacted once a month it’s ok. I am almost at peace staying single for the rest of my life but if someone similar to me comes forward I will hear him

[Anonymous]

Ideally I need my future husband in a 300K+ income bracket, to "restore" the lifestyle I had prior to my divorce.

Ah, nothing impresses a man more than a woman’s need to spend his money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The longer your list, the slimmer the prospects.

I am not interested in a long term relationship or wasting time on incompatible men so if I get contacted once a month it’s ok. I am almost at peace staying single for the rest of my life but if someone similar to me comes forward I will hear him

You will “hear him?” Who are you, the empress? I imagine this attitude of yours turns men off, big time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like most UMC men will make at least $300k. That should not be hard.

All women's dating experience on this thread sounds depressing: men without houses, no money for gas even etc. Is it a good taste to be upfront with financial expectations on my dating profile?

No, it isn’t in good taste. You will likely be alone forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Ideally I need my future husband in a 300K+ income bracket, to "restore" the lifestyle I had prior to my divorce.

Ah, nothing impresses a man more than a woman’s need to spend his money.

He will be equally spending my money on joint accounts , not sure what the issue is as long as we are aligned about how to spend joint $600k. A couple in 600k breaker can afford a way better lifestyle than a single person at 300k

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The longer your list, the slimmer the prospects.

I am not interested in a long term relationship or wasting time on incompatible men so if I get contacted once a month it’s ok. I am almost at peace staying single for the rest of my life but if someone similar to me comes forward I will hear him

You will “hear him?” Who are you, the empress? I imagine this attitude of yours turns men off, big time.

I mean, if I meet someone who is compatible I will invest in this relationship. Women waste so much time in marriages with incompatible men! I don’t want to fall into this trap