How to marry a financially compatible man?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The longer your list, the slimmer the prospects.

I am not interested in a long term relationship or wasting time on incompatible men so if I get contacted once a month it’s ok. I am almost at peace staying single for the rest of my life but if someone similar to me comes forward I will hear him

You will “hear him?” Who are you, the empress? I imagine this attitude of yours turns men off, big time.

I mean, if I meet someone who is compatible I will invest in this relationship. Women waste so much time in marriages with incompatible men! I don’t want to fall into this trap

Didn’t you already fall into that trap once?

[Anonymous]

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Ideally I need my future husband in a 300K+ income bracket, to "restore" the lifestyle I had prior to my divorce.

Ah, nothing impresses a man more than a woman’s need to spend his money.

A man who thinks that I am still “spending” his money even when I contribute just as much to joint accounts is certainly non compatible with me. There are many men who are not capable of a “joint” concern but this is what marriage is about. Believe me, if I abs my exH had separate accounts neither of us would be at current level of net worth.
Higher net worth is built over decades of careful financial budgeting and planning for the family: real estate, 401k, employment and unearned incomes, budgeting of expenses etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The longer your list, the slimmer the prospects.

I am not interested in a long term relationship or wasting time on incompatible men so if I get contacted once a month it’s ok. I am almost at peace staying single for the rest of my life but if someone similar to me comes forward I will hear him

You will “hear him?” Who are you, the empress? I imagine this attitude of yours turns men off, big time.

I mean, if I meet someone who is compatible I will invest in this relationship. Women waste so much time in marriages with incompatible men! I don’t want to fall into this trap

Didn’t you already fall into that trap once?

Not really. My exH cheated for years but didn’t file for divorce as financially he didn’t want to break the marriage. I realized marriage couldn’t work with 3 people in it. But I don’t regret my financial trajectory in former marriage, or all that travels, good times we had, having my child. I got a lot from my marriage

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The longer your list, the slimmer the prospects.

I am not interested in a long term relationship or wasting time on incompatible men so if I get contacted once a month it’s ok. I am almost at peace staying single for the rest of my life but if someone similar to me comes forward I will hear him

You will “hear him?” Who are you, the empress? I imagine this attitude of yours turns men off, big time.

I mean, if I meet someone who is compatible I will invest in this relationship. Women waste so much time in marriages with incompatible men! I don’t want to fall into this trap

Didn’t you already fall into that trap once?

Not really. My exH cheated for years but didn’t file for divorce as financially he didn’t want to break the marriage. I realized marriage couldn’t work with 3 people in it. But I don’t regret my financial trajectory in former marriage, or all that travels, good times we had, having my child. I got a lot from my marriage

Divorced and in your forties with a child, to boot. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The longer your list, the slimmer the prospects.

I am not interested in a long term relationship or wasting time on incompatible men so if I get contacted once a month it’s ok. I am almost at peace staying single for the rest of my life but if someone similar to me comes forward I will hear him

You will “hear him?” Who are you, the empress? I imagine this attitude of yours turns men off, big time.

I mean, if I meet someone who is compatible I will invest in this relationship. Women waste so much time in marriages with incompatible men! I don’t want to fall into this trap

Didn’t you already fall into that trap once?

Not really. My exH cheated for years but didn’t file for divorce as financially he didn’t want to break the marriage. I realized marriage couldn’t work with 3 people in it. But I don’t regret my financial trajectory in former marriage, or all that travels, good times we had, having my child. I got a lot from my marriage

Divorced and in your forties with a child, to boot. Good luck.

My child has a trust more than enough for college and house downpayment, so no need to boot anything for my next husband

[Anonymous]

Op here again: did anyone here had luck with higher net worth dating websites ? Tnx for suggestions !

[Anonymous]

I would just get comfortable With being single for now and date people you find interesting and enjoy spending time with. If, in the future, marriage seems like something that you want with a particular person, then weigh all the factors and decide what you want to do. You are early 40s with a grown up son. That is a very different point in life than most 40s professional men in the DC area who are high earners. Many, many of them will still have younger kids.

You don’t need to marry if it doesn’t fit with your life. So, just have fun for now.

[Anonymous]

Unless you are fascinating and terrific in the sack, most professional men will not be the least bit interested in you or your $. Once one has enough $, money becomes secondary to other attributes. You sound dull.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here again: did anyone here had luck with higher net worth dating websites ? Tnx for suggestions !

Gross. You don’t know what love is.

[Anonymous]

What you seek is a business arrangement, not a marriage. Sorry but, you sound incapable of loving, which would explain your current circumstance. I wish you luck.

[Anonymous]

I also think you want a business partner not a new husband. Maybe see if you can find a business partner to start another real estate business with. Don’t confuse that relationship with marriage or sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What you seek is a business arrangement, not a marriage. Sorry but, you sound incapable of loving, which would explain your current circumstance. I wish you luck.

I am very loving, with endless patience and still pretty good looking. My exH didn’t want to divorce for these reasons and he still didn’t remarry. He was surrounded by ladies hunting for his money on business trips I couldn’t live next 5-10 years like that it was affecting my well being.

Marriage is a financial contract.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also think you want a business partner not a new husband. Maybe see if you can find a business partner to start another real estate business with. Don’t confuse that relationship with marriage or sex.

My exH and I were business partners. It worked until there were other competitors for his wealth

[Anonymous]

OP seems like a very detail oriented troll. See the hilarious post above about how loving and patient she is.

[Anonymous]

It sort of seems like your first marriage was mostly a business arrangement. I don’t think trying to replicate that is the best plan. In your 40s, you don’t have to marry for crazy passionate love, but marriage is still more than a business arrangement. You should be looking for genuine compatibility, shared interests, kindness and consideration. If you find all of that in a man who only makes $160K, would you really not consider it?