Would you allow your 16 year old daughter to wear one of those almost thong swimsuits?

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This is absolutely fine.

.while I don't think it's necessarily wrong for teens to wear this it absolutely is still a very sexy look in this culture. It's becoming more and more commonplace and that will certainly make it less sexy and more just "beachy/casual" eventually but for now, unless it's ubiquitous, it's going to be viewed as a sexy bathing suit. I've been to Rio plenty and even there where tangas and thongs are JUST bathing suit bottoms on so so so many body types and ages, there are still suits that are a little bit sexier cut. There isn't much denying that bikinis can be sexy when they show more . But as I said, if the style hangs around longer it won't be so scandalous here. And I also don't think it's all that terrible for a teen to wear them. Just depends on if the family cares or if the sexiness for lack of a better word is unconformable for them.

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Anonymous wrote:yes, even women breastfeeding. some people will stare. some will glance and some won't. you can't stop someone from looking, esp. if you look good and at the end of the day, who cares, right? the whole point is if you don't want to be noticed, dress and act accordingly. I have a dress that is a bit revealing on top that I wear to get, hopefully positive attention.

well, that is sad. You should just wear it because you like it.

Yeah, no woman EVER puts on a sexy dress for date night or to go out clubbing. Never, ever would we do such a thing....

to pretend that most girls are dressing for boys is pathetic. Yes, some girls do but some girls have painfully low self esteem and have been told snagging a guy is their ticket to a nice life. Most girls are not like that.

To assume most people go "clubbing" is equally as pathetic.

Dressing sexy for your husband is not the same as dressing for strangers to gawk at you.

Also, I think if you were more self confident you would understand these concepts.

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Anonymous wrote:Fortunately for me, my 17 yo DD is quite modest. She wants to hide all of her sexuality. I am ok with it.

If her opinion was different, I do not know what I could do. I mean, today, we could have world war III, but next year she will be on her own. If she wants to wear that at college, across the drill field in winter, I cannot stop her. Her ass might freeze and fall off, but....

So she does not wear a bikini?

Just because your daughter might choose to wear a thong in college doesn't seem like a good reason to let her wear one at 16. Your daughter might also choose to drink and smoke weed in college as well. Is that reason to let her start doing it at 16? Some activities just aren't age appropriate, and I would say choosing to flaunt your ass at 16 is one of them.

Every bathing suit has ass showing.

You let your college student drink and smoke pot?

Are posters just being intentionally dense here? Are you really going to claim that you don't know the difference between a bit of butt cheek hanging out of the bottom of a swim suit versus the ENTIRE ASS showing because the backside of the suit consists of nothing more than a piece of fabric going up the crack?

You know this thread is not about things it’s about Brazilian cut where the bottom cuts across the butt. It literally shows 1/2 inch more butt.

OP here. No these girls' swimsuits showed their ENTIRE butt cheeks. I thought I made that pretty clear in several of my posts.

You need to post a picture because the swimsuits that most girls are wearing and most moms are freaking out about are not thongs. They are not even allowed in most pools in Maryland.

So post a picture and let us see.

This is what I see a lot and moms are clutching their pearls.

Someone posted a picture of a suit similar to this up thread and I said no, this covers way more than what these girls were wearing. Its essentially a thong. Only difference is there is a bit more fabric above the butt crack instead of just a string and you can see a bit of fabric coming out of the butt crack. I called it an "almost thong" because I think of traditional thongs as nothing but string.

Wow, OP. You examined these swim bottoms really, really closely. I might suggest that *you* are the perv.

Urgh, I'm frustrated on Op's behalf. People have asked Op pointed questions about the actual swimsuit the girls were wearing. Op is doing her best to describe the suits by comparing them to the ones seen in these pictures.

But the point is that she couldn't answer so specifically unless she had scrutinized these teen girls' bottoms very closely. So she is enacting the behavior over which she is wringing her hands. OP, leave these girls, their swimsuits, and their butts alone! You have no control over them and it's not your business. They don't give two hoots about what you think.

Oh good grief. Trust me, I can describe the Speedo the dude I saw at the beach was wearing, unfortunately. Some things can not be unseen. As, I'm sure, Op can relate.

Can you also describe in detail what a 16yo boy wears when he is in a swim competition and should he expect 40 yo women to gawk at him for wearing such a revealing suit?

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Nope. You can still look great without revealing so much at an impressionable age. Just one mom's opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:yes, even women breastfeeding. some people will stare. some will glance and some won't. you can't stop someone from looking, esp. if you look good and at the end of the day, who cares, right? the whole point is if you don't want to be noticed, dress and act accordingly. I have a dress that is a bit revealing on top that I wear to get, hopefully positive attention.

well, that is sad. You should just wear it because you like it.

Yeah, no woman EVER puts on a sexy dress for date night or to go out clubbing. Never, ever would we do such a thing....

to pretend that most girls are dressing for boys is pathetic. Yes, some girls do but some girls have painfully low self esteem and have been told snagging a guy is their ticket to a nice life. Most girls are not like that.

To assume most people go "clubbing" is equally as pathetic.

Dressing sexy for your husband is not the same as dressing for strangers to gawk at you.

Also, I think if you were more self confident you would understand these concepts.

I'm not going to put on a sexy negligee that I *only* wear for my husband and run down to the mailbox in it, flashing the whole world as I go. I'm also not going to put on a Hooters uniform to do my grocery shopping.

There is a time, a place and an AGE for everything. 16 year old girls shouldn't be wearing azz baring thongs, sexy negligees and Hooters uniforms. That is my opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. You can still look great without revealing so much at an impressionable age. Just one mom's opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. You can still look great without revealing so much at an impressionable age. Just one mom's opinion.

+1000

Girls this age don’t even fully understand their sexuality. It’s mean for parents to allow their daughter to dress like this.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. You can still look great without revealing so much at an impressionable age. Just one mom's opinion.

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Girls this age don’t even fully understand their sexuality. It’s mean for parents to allow their daughter to dress like this.

x1000 to all of the above.

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Anonymous wrote:yes, even women breastfeeding. some people will stare. some will glance and some won't. you can't stop someone from looking, esp. if you look good and at the end of the day, who cares, right? the whole point is if you don't want to be noticed, dress and act accordingly. I have a dress that is a bit revealing on top that I wear to get, hopefully positive attention.

well, that is sad. You should just wear it because you like it.

Yeah, no woman EVER puts on a sexy dress for date night or to go out clubbing. Never, ever would we do such a thing....

to pretend that most girls are dressing for boys is pathetic. Yes, some girls do but some girls have painfully low self esteem and have been told snagging a guy is their ticket to a nice life. Most girls are not like that.

To assume most people go "clubbing" is equally as pathetic.

Dressing sexy for your husband is not the same as dressing for strangers to gawk at you.

Also, I think if you were more self confident you would understand these concepts.

I'm not going to put on a sexy negligee that I *only* wear for my husband and run down to the mailbox in it, flashing the whole world as I go. I'm also not going to put on a Hooters uniform to do my grocery shopping.

There is a time, a place and an AGE for everything. 16 year old girls shouldn't be wearing azz baring thongs, sexy negligees and Hooters uniforms. That is my opinion.

Many people on DCUM don't have enough self confidence to wear anything other than Lands End and VV. It's fine. but don't put your insecurities onto everybody else and virtue signal because you lack self esteem.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. You can still look great without revealing so much at an impressionable age. Just one mom's opinion.

+1000

Girls this age don’t even fully understand their sexuality. It’s mean for parents to allow their daughter to dress like this.

There is nothing sexual about wearing a bathing suit. So no, it's not mean.

It is pathetic that you sexualize the body of a minor though.

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I have to laugh at the moronic posters who are playing the angle of “stop sexualizing girls!” angle and the “bodies are natural and we shouldn’t adjust our clothes because men can’t control themselves!” angle.

You are so dim. It doesn’t matter what kind of perfect world you wish to live in where some stranger or some friend of your daughter isn’t fantasizing about your daughter’s a** when she’s letting the whole thing hang out. The fact is we live in a world where people judge and people leer and people think sexual things. I cannot fathom why your little feminist stance is more important to you than protecting your daughter and teaching her that some things are just not age appropriate. You are not as smart as you think you are, and you’re also not a good parent. You are trying to create a dream world for your daughter and not accepting reality.

And I get what some of you are saying about bikinis in general but as much as you want to argue, they are not all created equal. When I was a teenager if I wanted to wear a bikini, it had to be a sportier type with full coverage and a top that was not two tiny triangles. I respect my parents for having these rules and teaching me what is age appropriate. I have no hang ups about my body because of their rules. You are kidding yourself, also, if you think the reason your daughter wants a bikini is because it’s easier to go to the bathroom. Give me a break! I have a bridge to sell you!

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Anonymous wrote:yes, even women breastfeeding. some people will stare. some will glance and some won't. you can't stop someone from looking, esp. if you look good and at the end of the day, who cares, right? the whole point is if you don't want to be noticed, dress and act accordingly. I have a dress that is a bit revealing on top that I wear to get, hopefully positive attention.

well, that is sad. You should just wear it because you like it.

Yeah, no woman EVER puts on a sexy dress for date night or to go out clubbing. Never, ever would we do such a thing....

to pretend that most girls are dressing for boys is pathetic. Yes, some girls do but some girls have painfully low self esteem and have been told snagging a guy is their ticket to a nice life. Most girls are not like that.

To assume most people go "clubbing" is equally as pathetic.

Dressing sexy for your husband is not the same as dressing for strangers to gawk at you.

Also, I think if you were more self confident you would understand these concepts.

I'm not going to put on a sexy negligee that I *only* wear for my husband and run down to the mailbox in it, flashing the whole world as I go. I'm also not going to put on a Hooters uniform to do my grocery shopping.

There is a time, a place and an AGE for everything. 16 year old girls shouldn't be wearing azz baring thongs, sexy negligees and Hooters uniforms. That is my opinion.

Many people on DCUM don't have enough self confidence to wear anything other than Lands End and VV. It's fine. but don't put your insecurities onto everybody else and virtue signal because you lack self esteem.

Huh? You think that strutting around in a negligee in front of your neighbors is some great show of self worth? Ha. No - it's just you being inappropriate.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. You can still look great without revealing so much at an impressionable age. Just one mom's opinion.

+1000

Girls this age don’t even fully understand their sexuality. It’s mean for parents to allow their daughter to dress like this.

There is nothing sexual about wearing a bathing suit. So no, it's not mean.

It is pathetic that you sexualize the body of a minor though.

Minors past puberty are sexual beings. They have secondary sex characteristics, sexual organ development, hormonal changes, sexual desire and arousal, and they can look much older than their actual age. It is completely normal and healthy for teens to notice each others bodies and for there to be sexual attraction between teenagers. Bodies are sexual. That is where the sexual organs are and where sex characteristics develop. Almost ever species has mating rituals that involve moving their bodies or using body parts to signal attraction or to attract a mate. And everyone, other than maybe someone who is asexual has assessed other people's bodies.

There is no need for teen girls to wear a suit that has their ass hanging out. Well anyone really, but once an adult they are responsible for their own poor choices.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. You can still look great without revealing so much at an impressionable age. Just one mom's opinion.

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Girls this age don’t even fully understand their sexuality. It’s mean for parents to allow their daughter to dress like this.

There is nothing sexual about wearing a bathing suit. So no, it's not mean.

It is pathetic that you sexualize the body of a minor though.

Minors past puberty are sexual beings. They have secondary sex characteristics, sexual organ development, hormonal changes, sexual desire and arousal, and they can look much older than their actual age. It is completely normal and healthy for teens to notice each others bodies and for there to be sexual attraction between teenagers. Bodies are sexual. That is where the sexual organs are and where sex characteristics develop. Almost ever species has mating rituals that involve moving their bodies or using body parts to signal attraction or to attract a mate. And everyone, other than maybe someone who is asexual has assessed other people's bodies.

There is no need for teen girls to wear a suit that has their ass hanging out. Well anyone really, but once an adult they are responsible for their own poor choices.

All that crazy is in your f’s Up pedohile head.

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Anonymous wrote:yes, even women breastfeeding. some people will stare. some will glance and some won't. you can't stop someone from looking, esp. if you look good and at the end of the day, who cares, right? the whole point is if you don't want to be noticed, dress and act accordingly. I have a dress that is a bit revealing on top that I wear to get, hopefully positive attention.

well, that is sad. You should just wear it because you like it.

Yeah, no woman EVER puts on a sexy dress for date night or to go out clubbing. Never, ever would we do such a thing....

to pretend that most girls are dressing for boys is pathetic. Yes, some girls do but some girls have painfully low self esteem and have been told snagging a guy is their ticket to a nice life. Most girls are not like that.

To assume most people go "clubbing" is equally as pathetic.

Dressing sexy for your husband is not the same as dressing for strangers to gawk at you.

Also, I think if you were more self confident you would understand these concepts.

I'm not going to put on a sexy negligee that I *only* wear for my husband and run down to the mailbox in it, flashing the whole world as I go. I'm also not going to put on a Hooters uniform to do my grocery shopping.

There is a time, a place and an AGE for everything. 16 year old girls shouldn't be wearing azz baring thongs, sexy negligees and Hooters uniforms. That is my opinion.

Many people on DCUM don't have enough self confidence to wear anything other than Lands End and VV. It's fine. but don't put your insecurities onto everybody else and virtue signal because you lack self esteem.

Huh? You think that strutting around in a negligee in front of your neighbors is some great show of self worth? Ha. No - it's just you being inappropriate.

Yes if you constantly decide what you wear based on how others will judge you or react to you... you lack self esteem.