Would you allow your 16 year old daughter to wear one of those almost thong swimsuits?

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Anonymous wrote:Fortunately for me, my 17 yo DD is quite modest. She wants to hide all of her sexuality. I am ok with it.

If her opinion was different, I do not know what I could do. I mean, today, we could have world war III, but next year she will be on her own. If she wants to wear that at college, across the drill field in winter, I cannot stop her. Her ass might freeze and fall off, but....

So she does not wear a bikini?

She does not wear a small bikini. Maybe a tankini.

You can still see her cleavage and asscheeks! That is NOT modest.

Thanks Sister Nofun

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculous.

Please worry about other important things. Stop shaming women.

Who cares what someone else wears?

Women will be the downfall of women.....

Because women wearing this type of clothing encourages objectifying ALL women. Men prefer for women to wear less clothing so some women wearing less clothing makes the standard that ALL women should go to the pool or beach this way.

Young girls wearing this type of clothing sexualizes young girls and signals to men “look at me in a sexual way because I am showing off my ass and boobs.” This in turn encourages men to sexualize all young girls, which is wrong.

Nah. They objectify themselves and themselves only - which they are free to do that if that is what they want to do. I, personally, would not want that kind of attention nor would I want the judgment that comes along with it.

They are not objectifying themselves.

You are objectifying then and you are an apologist for a generation of kavenaugh men who are not expected to control themselves.

Why does this land on men so often? Of course if someone attractive is walking around with floss up their ass, males will notice. That's why the girls do it. Do you really think they don't know?
Older men should be ashamed if they lear at kids. Kids shouldn't.
Not everything should be considered the fault of lust driven men.
Some people who post here really need to get a life

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Anonymous wrote:While visiting my husband's brother's family this summer, we went to the beach and their 16 year old daughter and her friends wore those bikini's that aren't quite thongs, but about 3/4 of their butt cheeks were hanging out. I'm shocked that DH brother and wife allow her to wear a swimsuit like that, but I kept my mouth shut. My daughters are a bit younger, but is this the kind of swimsuit that most high school girls wear now?

You should continue to keep your mouth shut. My SIL said something similar to me. Something about how she can't believe I let my daughters wear those short shorts. I looked at her and said because they like them, they fit into them, they're good kids, and the last thing I'm going to do is shame a girl for what they're wearing.

Okay but you didn’t remotely engage with what your SIL said. And you can’t “shame” a girl (WTF with the overuse of the word “shame” these days, BTW) for the clothes she’s wearing if you just don’t let her wear those clothes in the first place! I realize this is going to blow your mind, but you are the mother which means you are the decider! Stop abdicating your responsibilities onto your underage daughter, maybe?

Well this might blow your mind, but I actually did let them buy the clothes. I DECIDED they can wear them and that I'm not going to make a big deal over a pair of short shorts that 75% of teen girls wear these days. What makes you think that YOU get to decide what's appropriate for all teen girls, Judgy?

Yes, I judge you and your (lack of) parenting. Way to sexualize your teen daughters, Mom! Girl power, amirite?

NP.

You do realize, PP, you are being super judgy right now, right? And that’s a bad thing.

Also, you are not funny, “amirite”.

Frankly our society needs more judgement and shaming, not less.

Judging and shaming teen girls is not one of them. Go find something else to criticize.

We’re judging and shaming their idiot mothers, not the girls.

Honestly some of you women need to get a grip. Have you been to a beach in Europe? You all would have a blast calling the women there a tramp with low self- esteem. I was at Portugal last year and literally every female of all ages were topless. Some men were completely naked but I bet that's acceptable, amirite?

Oh my gosh, you poor thing! Are you under the impression that the United States of America is in Europe?

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Anonymous wrote:Fortunately for me, my 17 yo DD is quite modest. She wants to hide all of her sexuality. I am ok with it.

If her opinion was different, I do not know what I could do. I mean, today, we could have world war III, but next year she will be on her own. If she wants to wear that at college, across the drill field in winter, I cannot stop her. Her ass might freeze and fall off, but....

So she does not wear a bikini?

She does not wear a small bikini. Maybe a tankini.

You can still see her cleavage and asscheeks! That is NOT modest.

Thanks Sister Nofun

I think the PP was trying to be sarcastic. How about these for my younger DS to go along with DD? Please excuse the chiseled body he is still a growing boy. the backside looks pretty covered



PS: They may also be wearing rash guards if we can find the right colors!

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You should continue to keep your mouth shut. My SIL said something similar to me. Something about how she can't believe I let my daughters wear those short shorts. I looked at her and said because they like them, they fit into them, they're good kids, and the last thing I'm going to do is shame a girl for what they're wearing.

Okay but you didn’t remotely engage with what your SIL said. And you can’t “shame” a girl (WTF with the overuse of the word “shame” these days, BTW) for the clothes she’s wearing if you just don’t let her wear those clothes in the first place! I realize this is going to blow your mind, but you are the mother which means you are the decider! Stop abdicating your responsibilities onto your underage daughter, maybe?

Well this might blow your mind, but I actually did let them buy the clothes. I DECIDED they can wear them and that I'm not going to make a big deal over a pair of short shorts that 75% of teen girls wear these days. What makes you think that YOU get to decide what's appropriate for all teen girls, Judgy?

Yes, I judge you and your (lack of) parenting. Way to sexualize your teen daughters, Mom! Girl power, amirite?

NP.

You do realize, PP, you are being super judgy right now, right? And that’s a bad thing.

Also, you are not funny, “amirite”.

Frankly our society needs more judgement and shaming, not less.

Judging and shaming teen girls is not one of them. Go find something else to criticize.

We’re judging and shaming their idiot mothers, not the girls.

Honestly some of you women need to get a grip. Have you been to a beach in Europe? You all would have a blast calling the women there a tramp with low self- esteem. I was at Portugal last year and literally every female of all ages were topless. Some men were completely naked but I bet that's acceptable, amirite?

Oh my gosh, you poor thing! Are you under the impression that the United States of America is in Europe?

Goodness, great job for completely missing the point. You obviously don't have the capability to participate in this discussion.

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You should continue to keep your mouth shut. My SIL said something similar to me. Something about how she can't believe I let my daughters wear those short shorts. I looked at her and said because they like them, they fit into them, they're good kids, and the last thing I'm going to do is shame a girl for what they're wearing.

Okay but you didn’t remotely engage with what your SIL said. And you can’t “shame” a girl (WTF with the overuse of the word “shame” these days, BTW) for the clothes she’s wearing if you just don’t let her wear those clothes in the first place! I realize this is going to blow your mind, but you are the mother which means you are the decider! Stop abdicating your responsibilities onto your underage daughter, maybe?

Well this might blow your mind, but I actually did let them buy the clothes. I DECIDED they can wear them and that I'm not going to make a big deal over a pair of short shorts that 75% of teen girls wear these days. What makes you think that YOU get to decide what's appropriate for all teen girls, Judgy?

Yes, I judge you and your (lack of) parenting. Way to sexualize your teen daughters, Mom! Girl power, amirite?

NP.

You do realize, PP, you are being super judgy right now, right? And that’s a bad thing.

Also, you are not funny, “amirite”.

Frankly our society needs more judgement and shaming, not less.

Judging and shaming teen girls is not one of them. Go find something else to criticize.

We’re judging and shaming their idiot mothers, not the girls.

Honestly some of you women need to get a grip. Have you been to a beach in Europe? You all would have a blast calling the women there a tramp with low self- esteem. I was at Portugal last year and literally every female of all ages were topless. Some men were completely naked but I bet that's acceptable, amirite?

Oh my gosh, you poor thing! Are you under the impression that the United States of America is in Europe?

Goodness, great job for completely missing the point. You obviously don't have the capability to participate in this discussion.

Bringing up how people do things in Europe is as irrelevant to the conversation about Americans as if you had brought up how things are done in Saudi Arabia.

“Honestly some of you women need to get a grip. Have you been to a beach in Saudi Arabia? You all would have a blast calling the women there prudes with no sense of fashion or fun.”

That’s how stupid you sound.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to the pool at my 55+ community yesterday. Someone's late teens or early 20s granddaughter was there, laying on a raft face down, her entire naked ass visible to all due to a thong. I found it to be inappropriate because why do I have to look at someone's naked ass just because I happen to glance at the pool while sitting under my umbrella reading a book? No rule against it though so whatever I guess.

whatever, MAGA.

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You should continue to keep your mouth shut. My SIL said something similar to me. Something about how she can't believe I let my daughters wear those short shorts. I looked at her and said because they like them, they fit into them, they're good kids, and the last thing I'm going to do is shame a girl for what they're wearing.

Okay but you didn’t remotely engage with what your SIL said. And you can’t “shame” a girl (WTF with the overuse of the word “shame” these days, BTW) for the clothes she’s wearing if you just don’t let her wear those clothes in the first place! I realize this is going to blow your mind, but you are the mother which means you are the decider! Stop abdicating your responsibilities onto your underage daughter, maybe?

Well this might blow your mind, but I actually did let them buy the clothes. I DECIDED they can wear them and that I'm not going to make a big deal over a pair of short shorts that 75% of teen girls wear these days. What makes you think that YOU get to decide what's appropriate for all teen girls, Judgy?

Yes, I judge you and your (lack of) parenting. Way to sexualize your teen daughters, Mom! Girl power, amirite?

NP.

You do realize, PP, you are being super judgy right now, right? And that’s a bad thing.

Also, you are not funny, “amirite”.

Frankly our society needs more judgement and shaming, not less.

Judging and shaming teen girls is not one of them. Go find something else to criticize.

We’re judging and shaming their idiot mothers, not the girls.

Honestly some of you women need to get a grip. Have you been to a beach in Europe? You all would have a blast calling the women there a tramp with low self- esteem. I was at Portugal last year and literally every female of all ages were topless. Some men were completely naked but I bet that's acceptable, amirite?

Oh my gosh, you poor thing! Are you under the impression that the United States of America is in Europe?

Goodness, great job for completely missing the point. You obviously don't have the capability to participate in this discussion.

Bringing up how people do things in Europe is as irrelevant to the conversation about Americans as if you had brought up how things are done in Saudi Arabia.

“Honestly some of you women need to get a grip. Have you been to a beach in Saudi Arabia? You all would have a blast calling the women there prudes with no sense of fashion or fun.”

That’s how stupid you sound.

Really? So you're seriously suggesting that it's okay if teen girls in the U.S. who wear short shorts are viewed as being promiscuous and having low self-esteem, but girls in Europe or other parts of the world who show more skin shouldn't be viewed that way? You really think this in this day and age? And you bringing up how things are done in Saudi Arabia is about as moronic as it can get. My whole point was that no one should be judged on what they wear to begin with.

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You should continue to keep your mouth shut. My SIL said something similar to me. Something about how she can't believe I let my daughters wear those short shorts. I looked at her and said because they like them, they fit into them, they're good kids, and the last thing I'm going to do is shame a girl for what they're wearing.

Okay but you didn’t remotely engage with what your SIL said. And you can’t “shame” a girl (WTF with the overuse of the word “shame” these days, BTW) for the clothes she’s wearing if you just don’t let her wear those clothes in the first place! I realize this is going to blow your mind, but you are the mother which means you are the decider! Stop abdicating your responsibilities onto your underage daughter, maybe?

Well this might blow your mind, but I actually did let them buy the clothes. I DECIDED they can wear them and that I'm not going to make a big deal over a pair of short shorts that 75% of teen girls wear these days. What makes you think that YOU get to decide what's appropriate for all teen girls, Judgy?

Yes, I judge you and your (lack of) parenting. Way to sexualize your teen daughters, Mom! Girl power, amirite?

NP.

You do realize, PP, you are being super judgy right now, right? And that’s a bad thing.

Also, you are not funny, “amirite”.

Frankly our society needs more judgement and shaming, not less.

Judging and shaming teen girls is not one of them. Go find something else to criticize.

We’re judging and shaming their idiot mothers, not the girls.

Honestly some of you women need to get a grip. Have you been to a beach in Europe? You all would have a blast calling the women there a tramp with low self- esteem. I was at Portugal last year and literally every female of all ages were topless. Some men were completely naked but I bet that's acceptable, amirite?

Oh my gosh, you poor thing! Are you under the impression that the United States of America is in Europe?

Goodness, great job for completely missing the point. You obviously don't have the capability to participate in this discussion.

Bringing up how people do things in Europe is as irrelevant to the conversation about Americans as if you had brought up how things are done in Saudi Arabia.

“Honestly some of you women need to get a grip. Have you been to a beach in Saudi Arabia? You all would have a blast calling the women there prudes with no sense of fashion or fun.”

That’s how stupid you sound.

Really? So you're seriously suggesting that it's okay if teen girls in the U.S. who wear short shorts are viewed as being promiscuous and having low self-esteem, but girls in Europe or other parts of the world who show more skin shouldn't be viewed that way? You really think this in this day and age? And you bringing up how things are done in Saudi Arabia is about as moronic as it can get. My whole point was that no one should be judged on what they wear to begin with.

When one is going with the cultural norm, it is because it is the cultural norm. (So it is a safe assumption that the women and girls in Portugal swim topless because that’s what everyone does and has always done.)

When one is going against the cultural norm, it is usually for a specific reason. (So when girls wear a thong to the community swimming pool at which the vast majority of women and girls wear bottoms that cover their butts, it is safe to assume the girls are doing it for attention.)

i.e. European fashion standards (swimwear or otherwise) are not relevant to US fashion standards

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Anonymous wrote:While visiting my husband's brother's family this summer, we went to the beach and their 16 year old daughter and her friends wore those bikini's that aren't quite thongs, but about 3/4 of their butt cheeks were hanging out. I'm shocked that DH brother and wife allow her to wear a swimsuit like that, but I kept my mouth shut. My daughters are a bit younger, but is this the kind of swimsuit that most high school girls wear now?

You should continue to keep your mouth shut. My SIL said something similar to me. Something about how she can't believe I let my daughters wear those short shorts. I looked at her and said because they like them, they fit into them, they're good kids, and the last thing I'm going to do is shame a girl for what they're wearing.

Okay but you didn’t remotely engage with what your SIL said. And you can’t “shame” a girl (WTF with the overuse of the word “shame” these days, BTW) for the clothes she’s wearing if you just don’t let her wear those clothes in the first place! I realize this is going to blow your mind, but you are the mother which means you are the decider! Stop abdicating your responsibilities onto your underage daughter, maybe?

Well this might blow your mind, but I actually did let them buy the clothes. I DECIDED they can wear them and that I'm not going to make a big deal over a pair of short shorts that 75% of teen girls wear these days. What makes you think that YOU get to decide what's appropriate for all teen girls, Judgy?

Yes, I judge you and your (lack of) parenting. Way to sexualize your teen daughters, Mom! Girl power, amirite?

My kids are fine, thank you, regardless of what shorts they wear. They are kind-hearted, open-minded, cultured, and hard-working kids who get good grades, don't drink, vape, nor have they even kissed a boy. I guess all of this is due to my lack of parenting. Whatever makes you feel better, Judgy!

Hmmm… my kids are all of these thing as well. And they also have basic manners, an important aspect of which is not walking around in public with their butts hanging out of their clothes. So I win.

Sorry your girls have low self-esteem, no fashion sense, and absolutely no concept of appropriate dress. I’m sure they’ll still end up IvY sTeM grads like the daughters of the idiot PP above (as if that has anything to do with sexualizing oneself).

Wow awfully presumptuous of you to say that teen girls who wear 3 in. shorts have low self esteem and have no fashion sense. You seem absolutely triggered and have a lot of anger. Sorry someone hurt you.

Girls/women with self esteem don’t walk around with their butt cheeks hanging out. They just don’t crave that kind of attention, sorry!

And the short shorts look completely stupid, as though the girl wearing them just forgot to put her pants on before she left the house, so the no fashion sense statement stands.

I think you’re the one who is triggered (understandably). It never feels good to be called out on bad parenting. But allowing your teen daughters to walk around in public half naked for literally no reason is indeed bad parenting.

Whatever, weirdo.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not allow this. If she wants to sexualize herself when she is an adult living on her own, that’s her decision. But while she is a child living at home with mom and dad, she must follow certain rules for appropriate dress, and as her parents, WE get to set those rules.

These responses are unhinged. What did you wear at 16, a paper bag? Wearing a cheeky style bathing suit (different from a thong) is not sexualizing yourself. It’s a bathing suit. It’s nothing more revealing than a bikini which is essentially an excuse to wear what is a bra and panties to the pool. My 16 year old can wear whatever she feels good wearing as long as it’s not vulgar. She’s confident beautiful smart and wearing short shorts or a cropped tank isn’t changing that not to mention they’re teens hanging out in the summer. This isn’t a job interview or church. Jeez grow up!

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You should continue to keep your mouth shut. My SIL said something similar to me. Something about how she can't believe I let my daughters wear those short shorts. I looked at her and said because they like them, they fit into them, they're good kids, and the last thing I'm going to do is shame a girl for what they're wearing.

Okay but you didn’t remotely engage with what your SIL said. And you can’t “shame” a girl (WTF with the overuse of the word “shame” these days, BTW) for the clothes she’s wearing if you just don’t let her wear those clothes in the first place! I realize this is going to blow your mind, but you are the mother which means you are the decider! Stop abdicating your responsibilities onto your underage daughter, maybe?

Well this might blow your mind, but I actually did let them buy the clothes. I DECIDED they can wear them and that I'm not going to make a big deal over a pair of short shorts that 75% of teen girls wear these days. What makes you think that YOU get to decide what's appropriate for all teen girls, Judgy?

Yes, I judge you and your (lack of) parenting. Way to sexualize your teen daughters, Mom! Girl power, amirite?

NP.

You do realize, PP, you are being super judgy right now, right? And that’s a bad thing.

Also, you are not funny, “amirite”.

Frankly our society needs more judgement and shaming, not less.

Judging and shaming teen girls is not one of them. Go find something else to criticize.

We’re judging and shaming their idiot mothers, not the girls.

Honestly some of you women need to get a grip. Have you been to a beach in Europe? You all would have a blast calling the women there a tramp with low self- esteem. I was at Portugal last year and literally every female of all ages were topless. Some men were completely naked but I bet that's acceptable, amirite?

Oh my gosh, you poor thing! Are you under the impression that the United States of America is in Europe?

Goodness, great job for completely missing the point. You obviously don't have the capability to participate in this discussion.

Bringing up how people do things in Europe is as irrelevant to the conversation about Americans as if you had brought up how things are done in Saudi Arabia.

“Honestly some of you women need to get a grip. Have you been to a beach in Saudi Arabia? You all would have a blast calling the women there prudes with no sense of fashion or fun.”

That’s how stupid you sound.

Really? So you're seriously suggesting that it's okay if teen girls in the U.S. who wear short shorts are viewed as being promiscuous and having low self-esteem, but girls in Europe or other parts of the world who show more skin shouldn't be viewed that way? You really think this in this day and age? And you bringing up how things are done in Saudi Arabia is about as moronic as it can get. My whole point was that no one should be judged on what they wear to begin with.

When one is going with the cultural norm, it is because it is the cultural norm. (So it is a safe assumption that the women and girls in Portugal swim topless because that’s what everyone does and has always done.)

When one is going against the cultural norm, it is usually for a specific reason. (So when girls wear a thong to the community swimming pool at which the vast majority of women and girls wear bottoms that cover their butts, it is safe to assume the girls are doing it for attention.)

i.e. European fashion standards (swimwear or otherwise) are not relevant to US fashion standards

Vast number of teen girls in the U.S. wear short shorts, crop tops, and a good amount wear bikini bottoms that are not full coverage. Yes, those are now the cultural norms in women's wear the past 20 years or more. It's time for people to lighten up. The more we are flabbergasted and judgy about it, the more it becomes sexualized. Oh, and I don't know where you live, but I have yet to see a teenage girl wear a full-on thong at a community pool.

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Anonymous wrote:While visiting my husband's brother's family this summer, we went to the beach and their 16 year old daughter and her friends wore those bikini's that aren't quite thongs, but about 3/4 of their butt cheeks were hanging out. I'm shocked that DH brother and wife allow her to wear a swimsuit like that, but I kept my mouth shut. My daughters are a bit younger, but is this the kind of swimsuit that most high school girls wear now?

I don't know if most wear them, but they're increasingly common. And it depends where you are. In Hawaii, those are standard for young women, if not full-on thongs. At 16 especially, I don't think it's a big deal if the girl is happy and comfortable in them. If they aren't string sides, the cheeky bottoms are actually more conducive to water sports.

What made you bump a 5-year-old thread? The people discussing this before you bumped probably have older teens or young adults by now.

In case others have a similar or the same question.

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Anonymous wrote:Fortunately for me, my 17 yo DD is quite modest. She wants to hide all of her sexuality. I am ok with it.

If her opinion was different, I do not know what I could do. I mean, today, we could have world war III, but next year she will be on her own. If she wants to wear that at college, across the drill field in winter, I cannot stop her. Her ass might freeze and fall off, but....

So she does not wear a bikini?

She does not wear a small bikini. Maybe a tankini.

You can still see her cleavage and asscheeks! That is NOT modest.

Thanks Sister Nofun

I think the PP was trying to be sarcastic. How about these for my younger DS to go along with DD? Please excuse the chiseled body he is still a growing boy. the backside looks pretty covered



PS: They may also be wearing rash guards if we can find the right colors!

I wouldn't let my daughter go out with that muffin top.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not allow this. If she wants to sexualize herself when she is an adult living on her own, that’s her decision. But while she is a child living at home with mom and dad, she must follow certain rules for appropriate dress, and as her parents, WE get to set those rules.

These responses are unhinged. What did you wear at 16, a paper bag? Wearing a cheeky style bathing suit (different from a thong) is not sexualizing yourself. It’s a bathing suit. It’s nothing more revealing than a bikini which is essentially an excuse to wear what is a bra and panties to the pool. My 16 year old can wear whatever she feels good wearing as long as it’s not vulgar. She’s confident beautiful smart and wearing short shorts or a cropped tank isn’t changing that not to mention they’re teens hanging out in the summer. This isn’t a job interview or church. Jeez grow up!

It's 100% sexualizing. Wear it if you want, but don't pretend it's not.