My wife cheated on me for 2 years with a co-worker...

[Anonymous]

Get a lawyer, proof of infidelity and have her move out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are in a dangerous situation here. Make sure you always have an overnight bag packed with at least one change of clothes toothbrush Etc and any medicines you might need. Because mark my words and next thing she's going to do is claim that you physically abused her. Then you come home from work one day and find out that you are kicked out of your house for at least two weeks and you can't even go back in to get anything.

this. Your wife clearly wants the house and is going to try to get you out.

NP — OMG this. Be prepared. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. A colleague had this happen to him. Another however was able to have the cheating wife thrown out. I guess the deal was that he had to demonstrate he did not condone her behavior by not letting her in the house after he learned of the infidelity. You need a lawyer stat.

[Anonymous]

I think you need to see an attorney but you don't necessarily need to "lawyer up." Depending on where you live, the adultery may not even matter much.

It seems that you need a divorce though. I would get started on that ASAP. Start a separation. In most cases, you can do this in the home and no one has to move yet. I would agree to 50/50 of everything and be done with it. If she wants to keep the house, she will have to find a way to buy you out unless you agree otherwise. This can be done with mediation or with attorneys to come to an agreement. I would not litiigate. It wastes money and makes it all so much worse. Just do it simply, fairly. Get it done and move on with your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to see an attorney but you don't necessarily need to "lawyer up." Depending on where you live, the adultery may not even matter much.

It seems that you need a divorce though. I would get started on that ASAP. Start a separation. In most cases, you can do this in the home and no one has to move yet. I would agree to 50/50 of everything and be done with it. If she wants to keep the house, she will have to find a way to buy you out unless you agree otherwise. This can be done with mediation or with attorneys to come to an agreement. I would not litiigate. It wastes money and makes it all so much worse. Just do it simply, fairly. Get it done and move on with your life.

In the middle of divorcing a cheater right now and this is sound advice. We have done in-house separation (which has sucked for me, but has been good for the kids) and agreed to split everything 50/50. In most states, divorce is simply a mathematical equation despite crappy behavior on behalf of one or both spouses. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Disagree. You can usually get a guilty cheater to give you a much better deal than 50/50. The adultery card should be played to your advantage in negotiations. If it gets to divorce court the judge is usually less favorable to the cheater, even if it’s not “official”.

OP, be careful. Cheaters are manipulators and liars by definition. Play your cards close to your chest and be prepared to expect them to do anything. Nothing is beneath them. Lying , manipulating and scamming is their life’s work. They can be quite convincing. Everything goes through your attorney.

[Anonymous]

If you have any social media connections with her family or friends, sever them NOW.

[Anonymous]

You are right, but you need to divorce. She can leave the house

A wife

[Anonymous]

1. Retain lawyer.
2. Obtain a small voice recorder and keep it running and on your person 24/7. Do not use your phone. This is for when she inevitably reports you for DV.
3. Stay in the home no matter what. If you leave the house you will lose the house and probably lose your kids.
4. If it were me, I'd tell the kids mommy was a whore who broke up the marriage. I didn't do that and the kids still blame me.

Conclusion: your life will be so much better 5 years from now. Just get a vasectomy and never, ever cohabitate with a woman again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are in a dangerous situation here. Make sure you always have an overnight bag packed with at least one change of clothes toothbrush Etc and any medicines you might need. Because mark my words and next thing she's going to do is claim that you physically abused her. Then you come home from work one day and find out that you are kicked out of your house for at least two weeks and you can't even go back in to get anything.

this. Your wife clearly wants the house and is going to try to get you out.

NP — OMG this. Be prepared. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. A colleague had this happen to him. Another however was able to have the cheating wife thrown out. I guess the deal was that he had to demonstrate he did not condone her behavior by not letting her in the house after he learned of the infidelity. You need a lawyer stat.

No, you can't kick the cheating, lying whore out of the house, but you must never share the same bed with her again. I'd put a deadbolt on the master bedroom, and she can sleep in the guest room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to talk to an attorney.

Do not move out. Record her when necessary so she can't claim a made-up abuse thing against you.

She cannot kick you out of the house. Unless it's agreed upon and she buys you out of the house, she's not getting the house.

Do not record without consent in Maryland. It is against the law.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to talk to an attorney.

Do not move out. Record her when necessary so she can't claim a made-up abuse thing against you.

She cannot kick you out of the house. Unless it's agreed upon and she buys you out of the house, she's not getting the house.

Do not record without consent in Maryland. It is against the law.

You pull out your phone and when the cheater starts to say things to provoke and spread untruth, you say I am going to record this and you start recording.

Therapists will recommend you do this. Also, do not reply to texts or emails or create a trail that they will use against you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are in a dangerous situation here. Make sure you always have an overnight bag packed with at least one change of clothes toothbrush Etc and any medicines you might need. Because mark my words and next thing she's going to do is claim that you physically abused her. Then you come home from work one day and find out that you are kicked out of your house for at least two weeks and you can't even go back in to get anything.

this. Your wife clearly wants the house and is going to try to get you out.

NP — OMG this. Be prepared. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. A colleague had this happen to him. Another however was able to have the cheating wife thrown out. I guess the deal was that he had to demonstrate he did not condone her behavior by not letting her in the house after he learned of the infidelity. You need a lawyer stat.

No, you can't kick the cheating, lying whore out of the house, but you must never share the same bed with her again. I'd put a deadbolt on the master bedroom, and she can sleep in the guest room.

I'd have a very hard time not throwing her and all of her sh*t out on the front lawn. She can go stay at the co-worker's place. Though--I'm sure he's running for the hills right now. Most men that cheat with married do that when their cover is blown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. Retain lawyer.
2. Obtain a small voice recorder and keep it running and on your person 24/7. Do not use your phone. This is for when she inevitably reports you for DV.
3. Stay in the home no matter what. If you leave the house you will lose the house and probably lose your kids.
4. If it were me, I'd tell the kids mommy was a whore who broke up the marriage. I didn't do that and the kids still blame me.

Conclusion: your life will be so much better 5 years from now. Just get a vasectomy and never, ever cohabitate with a woman again.

And it wouldn't be a lie.

[Anonymous]

You're right. Don't leave, not even for one night. I'm so sorry she did this to you.

[Anonymous]

Don't leave the house. Tell her to leave. If you leave, then she has a case for maritial property in most states. Keep paying the bills you've been paying and stay in the house.