Spouse is discouraging me from working out

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She’s either insecure about her own body or resentful of how much time the working out is taking from family/household time. The latter really is likely if you have kids.

Is she out of shape?

We get home at the same time after work after I'm done at the gym because of how much further she works from the home.

I mean yes, she's out of shape. Not obse, but out of shape, yes. She'd definitely struggle to run 3 miles.

Kids or no?

No

Then I guess she's just less attracted to you now. And you seem turned off by her lack of fitness. This probably isn't going to end well and she's picking up on that.

[Anonymous]

There is something "off" about the way this story, and the way it was written. Sounds like it's written by a woman, or a teenager even, but not a "man"....even though OP says "I'm just a man...".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get the feeling you are prioritizing working out over everything else in your life, including your wife. She's probably like "whoop-dee-doo" you are muscular.

Cool it bro. Get some balance back and show your wife some attention.

Wow, who knew taking care of your health would draw so much negativity.

I'm into fitness and exercise daily OP, but you're annoying. I'd be annoyed if I were your wife. You sound obsessed. Agree on finding some balance. Maybe run every other day, strength work on the non-run days, and one totally free/off day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is something "off" about the way this story, and the way it was written. Sounds like it's written by a woman, or a teenager even, but not a "man"....even though OP says "I'm just a man...".

It's written by someone in love with himself. The vascularity, shredding, muscularity, etc. The description is all a bit much.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is something "off" about the way this story, and the way it was written. Sounds like it's written by a woman, or a teenager even, but not a "man"....even though OP says "I'm just a man...".

It's written by someone in love with himself. The vascularity, shredding, muscularity, etc. The description is all a bit much.

Yes and that's why I don't think OP is being transparent here. It's very oddly worded for a seemingly mature man who is married etc. Doesn't pass my sniff test.

[Anonymous]

Do you talk about lifting etc? I am a woman who does and it bores my family to tears. So assuming you are not talking a lot about it or taking excess time (I think walking 10k plus 1 hour of lifting is ideal so I’m not going to say it’s too much time unless you have life stuff), then I’d tell her to drop it when she raises it. Everytime she brings it up.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she’s just not into you any more and she’s using that as an excuse to not have sex? There are many reasons a woman might have to want it any more with you.

Personally l would find a more in shape natural guy (no steroids) more attractive, within reason

[Anonymous]

Yeah, this post is weird. I am also very in shape and my wife has never said a thing to me about it. I also spend a lot of time, especially on weekends, doing solo training and group bike rides and stuff like that. All things she can't do because of prior injuries. We still spend a lot time together.

There is something going on with OP. I would also never refer to myself as shredded. I do joke about veins popping out all over the place with my brothers on a text message string.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get the feeling you are prioritizing working out over everything else in your life, including your wife. She's probably like "whoop-dee-doo" you are muscular.

Cool it bro. Get some balance back and show your wife some attention.

Wow, who knew taking care of your health would draw so much negativity.

It always does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get the feeling you are prioritizing working out over everything else in your life, including your wife. She's probably like "whoop-dee-doo" you are muscular.

Cool it bro. Get some balance back and show your wife some attention.

Wow, who knew taking care of your health would draw so much negativity.

I'm into fitness and exercise daily OP, but you're annoying. I'd be annoyed if I were your wife. You sound obsessed. Agree on finding some balance. Maybe run every other day, strength work on the non-run days, and one totally free/off day?

+1

Your wife likely finds your new hobby annoying. And yes, you *can* be very fit and healthy and work out a lot and not get “shredded” and vascular. Bleh. Really, you can.

[Anonymous]

The part about you working out is kind of irrelevant. The problem is that your wife is criticizing your body and the criticism is unsolicited and unwelcome.

[Anonymous]

She’s worried you’re gonna be balls deep in someone else, including possibly another dude. Because what you’re describing is rather gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get the feeling you are prioritizing working out over everything else in your life, including your wife. She's probably like "whoop-dee-doo" you are muscular.

Cool it bro. Get some balance back and show your wife some attention.

Wow, who knew taking care of your health would draw so much negativity.

I'm into fitness and exercise daily OP, but you're annoying. I'd be annoyed if I were your wife. You sound obsessed. Agree on finding some balance. Maybe run every other day, strength work on the non-run days, and one totally free/off day?

Literally tell me how doing fitness annoys my wife. I get up quietly at 445 AM. Run my 3-5 miles in 30-45 minutes. By the time I'm back in prep her breakfast before she and I even go to work. I then workout after work for 1 hour and get home at the same time because of traffic for her. So how exactly am I annoying her when my routine almost never affects her daily life? And no, me getting up early has never bothered her in over 2 years of me doing it.

[Anonymous]

She is not attracted to you that way you look. Does not matter if you are in shape or not, she is not attracted to you. What are you going to do about it? For what it is worth, I find muscular and very vascular men unattractive. It’s a huge turn off for me. So I get her expressing it, as that isn’t what she signed up for, although she may not be going about it the right way. Also, you say it is not affecting her but is your time when you are not at the gym focused directly on her at all?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get the feeling you are prioritizing working out over everything else in your life, including your wife. She's probably like "whoop-dee-doo" you are muscular.

Cool it bro. Get some balance back and show your wife some attention.

Wow, who knew taking care of your health would draw so much negativity.

I'm into fitness and exercise daily OP, but you're annoying. I'd be annoyed if I were your wife. You sound obsessed. Agree on finding some balance. Maybe run every other day, strength work on the non-run days, and one totally free/off day?

Literally tell me how doing fitness annoys my wife. I get up quietly at 445 AM. Run my 3-5 miles in 30-45 minutes. By the time I'm back in prep her breakfast before she and I even go to work. I then workout after work for 1 hour and get home at the same time because of traffic for her. So how exactly am I annoying her when my routine almost never affects her daily life? And no, me getting up early has never bothered her in over 2 years of me doing it.

She thinks you look gross and doesn't care about your bulk, muscles and veins. You know what she thinks. You're just insulted that she doesn't find your new bod as exciting as you do.