Spouse is discouraging me from working out

[Anonymous]

Thread is proof positive why so many Americans are fat, nasty, obese slobs. So much hostility for fitness claiming it's too much time to take care of your health. It's completely laughable. 1.5 hours per day exercising between different parts of the day? Give me a break. It's not like it's spending 7 hours at the gym everyday like a professional body builder.

What a bunch of lazy couch potatoes. Posters in this thread prob spend 20-30 minutes poo pooing on an elliptical and doing arm curls with 5 lbs weights and consider it fitness. Then they wonder why they still get overweight and have lifestyle and age disease.

Heaven forbid you actually break a damn sweat.

[Anonymous]

I’m guessing the wife is more disapproving about the d*ickishness than the actual workout.

My husband is in better shape than i am and i tease him about how he makes me look bad for being lazier than him, but he looks great and i make sure he knows it. Also he doesn’t do it for two hours a day. He alternates cardio and weights because he knows how to properly exercise. He is still pretty “shredded” and “vascular” though.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know any women that find "vascularity" attractive. It's a dude thing. Women generally find it and the body builder look really gross.

Fit is great, strong is great, being healthy is great.

Ultimately... do you want your spouse to find you attractive? Or is your fitness regimen (which goes beyond being fit, strong, and healthy) more important to you? Can you find a middle ground?

+1 vascularity is a huge turnoff and I wouldn't have married someone who I thought would go in that direction. There are many many ways to be fit and healthy without this. Likely, most other ways of working out will leave your more fit/in better shape without the vascularity. More cardio, lighter weights. Trying to pin this as "I'm just getting healthy" is a strawman. Also +1 to investing in your wife.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know any women that find "vascularity" attractive. It's a dude thing. Women generally find it and the body builder look really gross.

Fit is great, strong is great, being healthy is great.

Ultimately... do you want your spouse to find you attractive? Or is your fitness regimen (which goes beyond being fit, strong, and healthy) more important to you? Can you find a middle ground?

+1 vascularity is a huge turnoff and I wouldn't have married someone who I thought would go in that direction. There are many many ways to be fit and healthy without this. Likely, most other ways of working out will leave your more fit/in better shape without the vascularity. More cardio, lighter weights. Trying to pin this as "I'm just getting healthy" is a strawman. Also +1 to investing in your wife.

Lol. More cardio, less weights?


Have you ever seen a cyclist’s or swimmer’s physique? They have veins everywhere.


It’s hilarious how bad dcum understands basic human physiology. You get in shape, you have vascularity.


Look at photos of men women supposedly find attractive. Chris Hemsworth, Henry Cavill, Hugh Jackman when he plays Wolverine…..all super vascular when they’re in shape.

Lol, here’s a cyclist’s physique and all they do is cardio only most of the time:





So you want guys to be in shape and fit, but not vascular. Oh yeah, and make sure you have a strict time limit for exercise. 15 minutes is not enough. But 1.5 hours per day means you are obsessive.


Lol, any more insanely stupid restrictions? Get in shape using only a well defined time window while simultaneously not getting vascular according to normal human physiology.

Insane.

[Anonymous]

Vascular and super muscle-y is so unattractive and gross.

[Anonymous]

OP post sample pics of yourself or internet pics of people who look like your body.

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Anonymous wrote:I get the feeling you are prioritizing working out over everything else in your life, including your wife. She's probably like "whoop-dee-doo" you are muscular.

Cool it bro. Get some balance back and show your wife some attention.

Wow, who knew taking care of your health would draw so much negativity.

I'm into fitness and exercise daily OP, but you're annoying. I'd be annoyed if I were your wife. You sound obsessed. Agree on finding some balance. Maybe run every other day, strength work on the non-run days, and one totally free/off day?

Literally tell me how doing fitness annoys my wife. I get up quietly at 445 AM. Run my 3-5 miles in 30-45 minutes. By the time I'm back in prep her breakfast before she and I even go to work. I then workout after work for 1 hour and get home at the same time because of traffic for her. So how exactly am I annoying her when my routine almost never affects her daily life? And no, me getting up early has never bothered her in over 2 years of me doing it.

She thinks you look gross and doesn't care about your bulk, muscles and veins. You know what she thinks. You're just insulted that she doesn't find your new bod as exciting as you do.

No, I’m insulted for being criticized snd bodily shamed for taking care of my health. Maybe you should start a weight training program to stave off age related diseases yourself. The benefits can be tremendous, like new research showing that strength training can help resist age relegated dementia and cognitive declines long term when you commit to training regularly:

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2213158220300206?via%3Dihub


https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/weight-training-may-boost-brain-power

"One group did weight training twice a week for six months, lifting 80% of the maximum amount they could. "

Doesn't sound like 2hr/day

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Maybe by lifting weights around the house, like taking out the trash and landscaping.

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Anonymous wrote:I get the feeling you are prioritizing working out over everything else in your life, including your wife. She's probably like "whoop-dee-doo" you are muscular.

Cool it bro. Get some balance back and show your wife some attention.

Wow, who knew taking care of your health would draw so much negativity.

I'm into fitness and exercise daily OP, but you're annoying. I'd be annoyed if I were your wife. You sound obsessed. Agree on finding some balance. Maybe run every other day, strength work on the non-run days, and one totally free/off day?

Literally tell me how doing fitness annoys my wife. I get up quietly at 445 AM. Run my 3-5 miles in 30-45 minutes. By the time I'm back in prep her breakfast before she and I even go to work. I then workout after work for 1 hour and get home at the same time because of traffic for her. So how exactly am I annoying her when my routine almost never affects her daily life? And no, me getting up early has never bothered her in over 2 years of me doing it.

She thinks you look gross and doesn't care about your bulk, muscles and veins. You know what she thinks. You're just insulted that she doesn't find your new bod as exciting as you do.

No, I’m insulted for being criticized snd bodily shamed for taking care of my health. Maybe you should start a weight training program to stave off age related diseases yourself. The benefits can be tremendous, like new research showing that strength training can help resist age relegated dementia and cognitive declines long term when you commit to training regularly:

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2213158220300206?via%3Dihub


https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/weight-training-may-boost-brain-power

"One group did weight training twice a week for six months, lifting 80% of the maximum amount they could. "

Doesn't sound like 2hr/day

Can you read?

It’s 3-5 mile runs in mornings starting around 5 AM followed by 1 hour of weight training after work.


You all act like that is an insane program. What a bunch of lazy couch potatoes.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe by lifting weights around the house, like taking out the trash and landscaping.

Already do that. You don’t gain strength doing that. Have you ever tried to challenge your muscles in your life? I mean actually challenge them hard. They adapt. They plateau. There’s no way you’ll increase your strength doing dinky things like this or only going to the gym 3x a week and working out your legs only once per week. You need to pound them into submission and lift hard to see progress. Small time chores are like lifting paper clips.

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Anonymous wrote:I get the feeling you are prioritizing working out over everything else in your life, including your wife. She's probably like "whoop-dee-doo" you are muscular.

Cool it bro. Get some balance back and show your wife some attention.

Wow, who knew taking care of your health would draw so much negativity.

I'm into fitness and exercise daily OP, but you're annoying. I'd be annoyed if I were your wife. You sound obsessed. Agree on finding some balance. Maybe run every other day, strength work on the non-run days, and one totally free/off day?

Literally tell me how doing fitness annoys my wife. I get up quietly at 445 AM. Run my 3-5 miles in 30-45 minutes. By the time I'm back in prep her breakfast before she and I even go to work. I then workout after work for 1 hour and get home at the same time because of traffic for her. So how exactly am I annoying her when my routine almost never affects her daily life? And no, me getting up early has never bothered her in over 2 years of me doing it.

She thinks you look gross and doesn't care about your bulk, muscles and veins. You know what she thinks. You're just insulted that she doesn't find your new bod as exciting as you do.

No, I’m insulted for being criticized snd bodily shamed for taking care of my health. Maybe you should start a weight training program to stave off age related diseases yourself. The benefits can be tremendous, like new research showing that strength training can help resist age relegated dementia and cognitive declines long term when you commit to training regularly:

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2213158220300206?via%3Dihub


https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/weight-training-may-boost-brain-power

"One group did weight training twice a week for six months, lifting 80% of the maximum amount they could. "

Doesn't sound like 2hr/day

Can you read?

It’s 3-5 mile runs in mornings starting around 5 AM followed by 1 hour of weight training after work.


You all act like that is an insane program. What a bunch of lazy couch potatoes.

You sound pleasant. I work out 5 days a week and I’m not lazy or fat. I also think men who look (and act) like you are incredibly unattractive. Your ego seems to be overinflated and you’re probably just butthurt that you think you look soooo good, but your wife and every other woman (beside body builder women) think you give them the ick.

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Don't get into cycling, OP. You're clearly going to be one of those men raging the trail, weaving in and out of people, threading the needle, angry that pedestrians are in the way of getting your best time.

And yeah, you're going above health and fitness. We get you're excited about your newfound hobby, but switch off run/lift days (don't do both), take one rest day a week, and try being more versatile in your life.

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OP is definitely not into this just for health and fitness. Those that are really don't care very much about how they look. It is a nice by-product.

And 1.5 hours of training a day really isn't that much, especially if you can do it at home. People do it all the time. But non-douchy people that do it for a particular reason also don't talk about it all the time.

In sum, OP has a bad gym bro attitude.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know any women that find "vascularity" attractive. It's a dude thing. Women generally find it and the body builder look really gross.

Fit is great, strong is great, being healthy is great.

Ultimately... do you want your spouse to find you attractive? Or is your fitness regimen (which goes beyond being fit, strong, and healthy) more important to you? Can you find a middle ground?

+1 vascularity is a huge turnoff and I wouldn't have married someone who I thought would go in that direction. There are many many ways to be fit and healthy without this. Likely, most other ways of working out will leave your more fit/in better shape without the vascularity. More cardio, lighter weights. Trying to pin this as "I'm just getting healthy" is a strawman. Also +1 to investing in your wife.

Lol. More cardio, less weights?


Have you ever seen a cyclist’s or swimmer’s physique? They have veins everywhere.


It’s hilarious how bad dcum understands basic human physiology. You get in shape, you have vascularity.


Look at photos of men women supposedly find attractive. Chris Hemsworth, Henry Cavill, Hugh Jackman when he plays Wolverine…..all super vascular when they’re in shape.

Lol, here’s a cyclist’s physique and all they do is cardio only most of the time:





So you want guys to be in shape and fit, but not vascular. Oh yeah, and make sure you have a strict time limit for exercise. 15 minutes is not enough. But 1.5 hours per day means you are obsessive.


Lol, any more insanely stupid restrictions? Get in shape using only a well defined time window while simultaneously not getting vascular according to normal human physiology.

Insane.

Lol only extreme professional cyclists have legs like this. Amateur cyclists, even really intensive ones, just have defined quads and calves, not the veiny look.

[Anonymous]

So when does she get 1.5 hours a day to work out? You have conveniently avoided commenting on whether or not you have kids and are shirking your responsibilities to be with them. When she has 1.5 hours a day every day where you are 💯 doing stuff for the kids and she doesn't have to, I will be on your side.