Spouse is discouraging me from working out

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

Why would i think that based on what i said? If you have kids and a spouse time consuming hobbies can be a drag on the family. YMMV.

Because all those people with kids in the house who are running/training have friction? Isn’t that your belief? I’m sorry things are unpleasant in your house. Truly. But there is tons of projection here.

No, meat head. I never said all. Tons of projection indeed.

I read your post on friction, and I call projection. Lots of families talk to each other and make things like daily gym and even marathon training work. By the way, I am woman, far from a “meat head.”

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

Why would i think that based on what i said? If you have kids and a spouse time consuming hobbies can be a drag on the family. YMMV.

Because all those people with kids in the house who are running/training have friction? Isn’t that your belief? I’m sorry things are unpleasant in your house. Truly. But there is tons of projection here.

No, meat head. I never said all. Tons of projection indeed.

I read your post on friction, and I call projection. Lots of families talk to each other and make things like daily gym and even marathon training work. By the way, I am woman, far from a “meat head.”

Indeed. PP “friction poster” is an uninformed idiot. And likely has zero experience with any of this.

Meanwhile, we are taking like 1-2 hours during the week. Most people mindlessly watch that much TV a day.

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

Why would i think that based on what i said? If you have kids and a spouse time consuming hobbies can be a drag on the family. YMMV.

Because all those people with kids in the house who are running/training have friction? Isn’t that your belief? I’m sorry things are unpleasant in your house. Truly. But there is tons of projection here.

No, meat head. I never said all. Tons of projection indeed.

Well, you (or someone) posted this, which seems close to saying the issue is common or the majority of people face it:

Basically anyone who gets super into a new fitness regime like marathons, triathlons, cycling, cross fit, or whatever probably finds friction at home. Acting like this is unique to just bodybuilding is weird.

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

Why would i think that based on what i said? If you have kids and a spouse time consuming hobbies can be a drag on the family. YMMV.

Because all those people with kids in the house who are running/training have friction? Isn’t that your belief? I’m sorry things are unpleasant in your house. Truly. But there is tons of projection here.

No, meat head. I never said all. Tons of projection indeed.

Well, you (or someone) posted this, which seems close to saying the issue is common or the majority of people face it:

Basically anyone who gets super into a new fitness regime like marathons, triathlons, cycling, cross fit, or whatever probably finds friction at home. Acting like this is unique to just bodybuilding is weird.

So defensive. Wonder why?

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

Why would i think that based on what i said? If you have kids and a spouse time consuming hobbies can be a drag on the family. YMMV.

Because all those people with kids in the house who are running/training have friction? Isn’t that your belief? I’m sorry things are unpleasant in your house. Truly. But there is tons of projection here.

No, meat head. I never said all. Tons of projection indeed.

Well, you (or someone) posted this, which seems close to saying the issue is common or the majority of people face it:

Basically anyone who gets super into a new fitness regime like marathons, triathlons, cycling, cross fit, or whatever probably finds friction at home. Acting like this is unique to just bodybuilding is weird.

So defensive. Wonder why?

This is the best you have. You could respond with this any time somebody posts a disagreement. This is a discussion forum. You realize this?

So, you have no experience and are making this all up. Got it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

Why would i think that based on what i said? If you have kids and a spouse time consuming hobbies can be a drag on the family. YMMV.

Because all those people with kids in the house who are running/training have friction? Isn’t that your belief? I’m sorry things are unpleasant in your house. Truly. But there is tons of projection here.

No, meat head. I never said all. Tons of projection indeed.

Well, you (or someone) posted this, which seems close to saying the issue is common or the majority of people face it:

Basically anyone who gets super into a new fitness regime like marathons, triathlons, cycling, cross fit, or whatever probably finds friction at home. Acting like this is unique to just bodybuilding is weird.

So defensive. Wonder why?

This is the best you have. You could respond with this any time somebody posts a disagreement. This is a discussion forum. You realize this?

So, you have no experience and are making this all up. Got it.

Really? This is surprising? Probe that is makes no difference now.

https://www.runnersworld.com/uk/training/beginners/a27330852/running-relationships/

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

Why would i think that based on what i said? If you have kids and a spouse time consuming hobbies can be a drag on the family. YMMV.

Because all those people with kids in the house who are running/training have friction? Isn’t that your belief? I’m sorry things are unpleasant in your house. Truly. But there is tons of projection here.

No, meat head. I never said all. Tons of projection indeed.

Well, you (or someone) posted this, which seems close to saying the issue is common or the majority of people face it:

Basically anyone who gets super into a new fitness regime like marathons, triathlons, cycling, cross fit, or whatever probably finds friction at home. Acting like this is unique to just bodybuilding is weird.

So defensive. Wonder why?

This is the best you have. You could respond with this any time somebody posts a disagreement. This is a discussion forum. You realize this?

So, you have no experience and are making this all up. Got it.

Really? This is surprising? Probe that is makes no difference now.

https://www.runnersworld.com/uk/training/beginners/a27330852/running-relationships/

The title of the article is CAN. It uses mostly language like MAY. Did you even read it?

And, you have not refuted what is obvious. You have zero experience with any of this. Can you even run a mile?

People talk so much out of their ass here it is hilarious.

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

Why would i think that based on what i said? If you have kids and a spouse time consuming hobbies can be a drag on the family. YMMV.

Because all those people with kids in the house who are running/training have friction? Isn’t that your belief? I’m sorry things are unpleasant in your house. Truly. But there is tons of projection here.

No, meat head. I never said all. Tons of projection indeed.

Well, you (or someone) posted this, which seems close to saying the issue is common or the majority of people face it:

Basically anyone who gets super into a new fitness regime like marathons, triathlons, cycling, cross fit, or whatever probably finds friction at home. Acting like this is unique to just bodybuilding is weird.

So defensive. Wonder why?

This is the best you have. You could respond with this any time somebody posts a disagreement. This is a discussion forum. You realize this?

So, you have no experience and are making this all up. Got it.

Really? This is surprising? Probe that is makes no difference now.

https://www.runnersworld.com/uk/training/beginners/a27330852/running-relationships/

The title of the article is CAN. It uses mostly language like MAY. Did you even read it?

And, you have not refuted what is obvious. You have zero experience with any of this. Can you even run a mile?

People talk so much out of their ass here it is hilarious.

I run 20 miles a week. You haven’t been right a single time.

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

Why would i think that based on what i said? If you have kids and a spouse time consuming hobbies can be a drag on the family. YMMV.

Because all those people with kids in the house who are running/training have friction? Isn’t that your belief? I’m sorry things are unpleasant in your house. Truly. But there is tons of projection here.

No, meat head. I never said all. Tons of projection indeed.

Well, you (or someone) posted this, which seems close to saying the issue is common or the majority of people face it:

Basically anyone who gets super into a new fitness regime like marathons, triathlons, cycling, cross fit, or whatever probably finds friction at home. Acting like this is unique to just bodybuilding is weird.

So defensive. Wonder why?

This is the best you have. You could respond with this any time somebody posts a disagreement. This is a discussion forum. You realize this?

So, you have no experience and are making this all up. Got it.

Really? This is surprising? Probe that is makes no difference now.

https://www.runnersworld.com/uk/training/beginners/a27330852/running-relationships/

The title of the article is CAN. It uses mostly language like MAY. Did you even read it?

And, you have not refuted what is obvious. You have zero experience with any of this. Can you even run a mile?

People talk so much out of their ass here it is hilarious.

I run 20 miles a week. You haven’t been right a single time.

Oh boy. 20 miles. You must have a lot of friction at home then. It must be unbearable.

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

Why would i think that based on what i said? If you have kids and a spouse time consuming hobbies can be a drag on the family. YMMV.

Because all those people with kids in the house who are running/training have friction? Isn’t that your belief? I’m sorry things are unpleasant in your house. Truly. But there is tons of projection here.

No, meat head. I never said all. Tons of projection indeed.

Well, you (or someone) posted this, which seems close to saying the issue is common or the majority of people face it:

Basically anyone who gets super into a new fitness regime like marathons, triathlons, cycling, cross fit, or whatever probably finds friction at home. Acting like this is unique to just bodybuilding is weird.

So defensive. Wonder why?

This is the best you have. You could respond with this any time somebody posts a disagreement. This is a discussion forum. You realize this?

So, you have no experience and are making this all up. Got it.

Really? This is surprising? Probe that is makes no difference now.

https://www.runnersworld.com/uk/training/beginners/a27330852/running-relationships/

The title of the article is CAN. It uses mostly language like MAY. Did you even read it?

And, you have not refuted what is obvious. You have zero experience with any of this. Can you even run a mile?

People talk so much out of their ass here it is hilarious.

I run 20 miles a week. You haven’t been right a single time.

Oh boy. 20 miles. You must have a lot of friction at home then. It must be unbearable.

Do you have a point to make here?

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

Why would i think that based on what i said? If you have kids and a spouse time consuming hobbies can be a drag on the family. YMMV.

Because all those people with kids in the house who are running/training have friction? Isn’t that your belief? I’m sorry things are unpleasant in your house. Truly. But there is tons of projection here.

No, meat head. I never said all. Tons of projection indeed.

Well, you (or someone) posted this, which seems close to saying the issue is common or the majority of people face it:

Basically anyone who gets super into a new fitness regime like marathons, triathlons, cycling, cross fit, or whatever probably finds friction at home. Acting like this is unique to just bodybuilding is weird.

So defensive. Wonder why?

This is the best you have. You could respond with this any time somebody posts a disagreement. This is a discussion forum. You realize this?

So, you have no experience and are making this all up. Got it.

Really? This is surprising? Probe that is makes no difference now.

https://www.runnersworld.com/uk/training/beginners/a27330852/running-relationships/

The title of the article is CAN. It uses mostly language like MAY. Did you even read it?

And, you have not refuted what is obvious. You have zero experience with any of this. Can you even run a mile?

People talk so much out of their ass here it is hilarious.

I run 20 miles a week. You haven’t been right a single time.

Oh boy. 20 miles. You must have a lot of friction at home then. It must be unbearable.

Do you have a point to make here?

Yes. Multiple posters have pointed out this is projecting nonsense. And you have yet to defend it:

“Basically anyone who gets super into a new fitness regime like marathons, triathlons, cycling, cross fit, or whatever probably finds friction at home. Acting like this is unique to just bodybuilding is weird.“

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

Why would i think that based on what i said? If you have kids and a spouse time consuming hobbies can be a drag on the family. YMMV.

Because all those people with kids in the house who are running/training have friction? Isn’t that your belief? I’m sorry things are unpleasant in your house. Truly. But there is tons of projection here.

No, meat head. I never said all. Tons of projection indeed.

Well, you (or someone) posted this, which seems close to saying the issue is common or the majority of people face it:

Basically anyone who gets super into a new fitness regime like marathons, triathlons, cycling, cross fit, or whatever probably finds friction at home. Acting like this is unique to just bodybuilding is weird.

So defensive. Wonder why?

This is the best you have. You could respond with this any time somebody posts a disagreement. This is a discussion forum. You realize this?

So, you have no experience and are making this all up. Got it.

Really? This is surprising? Probe that is makes no difference now.

https://www.runnersworld.com/uk/training/beginners/a27330852/running-relationships/

The title of the article is CAN. It uses mostly language like MAY. Did you even read it?

And, you have not refuted what is obvious. You have zero experience with any of this. Can you even run a mile?

People talk so much out of their ass here it is hilarious.

I run 20 miles a week. You haven’t been right a single time.

Oh boy. 20 miles. You must have a lot of friction at home then. It must be unbearable.

Do you have a point to make here?

Yes. Multiple posters have pointed out this is projecting nonsense. And you have yet to defend it:

“Basically anyone who gets super into a new fitness regime like marathons, triathlons, cycling, cross fit, or whatever probably finds friction at home. Acting like this is unique to just bodybuilding is weird.“

Whatever. OP is having friction in his home. But according to you that's impossible. I wonder what OP is talking about then. Because it just can't be.

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

Why would i think that based on what i said? If you have kids and a spouse time consuming hobbies can be a drag on the family. YMMV.

Because all those people with kids in the house who are running/training have friction? Isn’t that your belief? I’m sorry things are unpleasant in your house. Truly. But there is tons of projection here.

No, meat head. I never said all. Tons of projection indeed.

Well, you (or someone) posted this, which seems close to saying the issue is common or the majority of people face it:

Basically anyone who gets super into a new fitness regime like marathons, triathlons, cycling, cross fit, or whatever probably finds friction at home. Acting like this is unique to just bodybuilding is weird.

So defensive. Wonder why?

Posting the PP’s own words back to them is defensive? Wow, so you have nothing. Got it.

You're an expert on what exactly? You've never heard about triathlon widows? The one who has nothing is you. A lot of hot air but you have offered nothing of substance.

https://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052748703439504576116083514534672
https://gothamist.com/news/new-trend-alert-exercise-is-destroying-marriages
https://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/relationships/a17358/crossfit-husband/
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/mar/27/my-husband-turned-into-fitness-fanatic-what-can-i-do-mariella-frostrup

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Anonymous wrote:So when does she get 1.5 hours a day to work out? You have conveniently avoided commenting on whether or not you have kids and are shirking your responsibilities to be with them. When she has 1.5 hours a day every day where you are 💯 doing stuff for the kids and she doesn't have to, I will be on your side.

I did not avoid it.

Can you read? We. Do.Not. Have. Kids. She could exercise whenever she wants. She’s just not motivated enough to do it on a regular basis.

how long is your workday? Do yo7 work from home or do you have a commute? How are the home chores divided?

Except the part on the chores, OP answered all of these already. No kids and he does his workouts while she sleeps or before she gets home from work.

then maybe she is frustrated that she has to work longer hours

Ok, and? That’s a good reason to tear down your partner for taking care of their health?

I think the point - for both of you - is that it’s not about taking care of your health. Being healthy doesn’t require 1.5 hours of daily exercise. So what is it really about?

Not defending OP just a general statement that 1.5 hours of daily exercise is not extreme, it's actually healthy. Those who think it's extreme are saying this because they can't seem to eek out 1 hour a week.

Eke.

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

Why would i think that based on what i said? If you have kids and a spouse time consuming hobbies can be a drag on the family. YMMV.

Because all those people with kids in the house who are running/training have friction? Isn’t that your belief? I’m sorry things are unpleasant in your house. Truly. But there is tons of projection here.

No, meat head. I never said all. Tons of projection indeed.

I read your post on friction, and I call projection. Lots of families talk to each other and make things like daily gym and even marathon training work. By the way, I am woman, far from a “meat head.”

Indeed. PP “friction poster” is an uninformed idiot. And likely has zero experience with any of this.

Meanwhile, we are taking like 1-2 hours during the week. Most people mindlessly watch that much TV a day.

Why do you keep repeating the same stupid, wrong line about “TV?” Are you writing from 1993?