He may have had some and he may have handled it if OP had actually told him she was off the pill. You guys want to hold him responsible for information that she intentionally kept from him. |
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A few points I think folks are missing:
Baby did not result due to an accident (which does happen). OP did not miss a single, or two pills, or get ill and have he pills not work. She missed an entire cycle and did not inform heR DH when they had intercourse. This is not an "oops", this is a deliberate action. Yes, sh*t happens, but it happens in a day and as an accident. All OP a needed to do is either pick up alternative contraception (condoms, etc) knowing full well she hadn't had her pills in weeks, tell her husband during sex that she was unprotected (and offer oral sex, etc if backup wasn't abailable OR let him I on the risk) OR get Plan b afterwards. I can't believe that not once in three weeks.. Before sex, during, or after, that OP did not inform her DH she was off the pill. That, to me as a woman, is deceit. DH does not want children. I do. se jointly take care of birth control. There is trust there. Without it, what do y have? |
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He may just need more time.
I got pregnant accidentally because the guy I was dating apparently didn't know how to use condoms properly. He was initially very angry with me when I decided to keep the baby anyway, but he worked through it and it passed. We didn't get back together after the breakup while I was pregnant, but he has been a great father anyway. I know he misses certain aspects of his life before baby - just like I do - but we've done whatever we can to try to keep certain things intact. (like his ability to take on interesting jobs that require deployments. Harder for me, but I put up with it because it's important to him.) Good luck. |
I can't imagine anyone not being able to figure that one out...lmao, pretty self explanatory |
. +1. Op and her husband agreed on a form of birth control. She then chose not to take the pill for THREE weeks without telling him so he could make appropriate choices. He is not at fault here. This rests 100% on op and she needs to own it. |
+1. Op lied by omission. |
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"Hey honey I haven't had a chance to pick up my BC would you mind popping by the pharmacy to pick it up? Thnx!"
That took about 20 seconds to type. You have to be honest with yourself and take responsibility before your DH can ever move past your terrible deceit. |
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OP, I am not surprised the sentiment you are receiving. In a marriage, when there are choices made about birth control that were jointly, unilaterally deciding to stop without telling your spouse is a horrible and would undermine any sense of trust for many people. You don't seem to see this, which is a huge problem.
You are lucky your DH is a good father. This could have ended in a horrific manner for you so just count your blessing and work your ass off to rebuild the trust you shattered. |
Not the same situation at all. He doesn't need more time to bond with his son or become a loving father. This is all about OP deceiving him; something that is missing from your example. |