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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Man, SOME women on here are so anti-DH that they cannot even think straight.  And I say this as a woman.  OP and her DH had an agreement - NO KIDS!  They also had an agreement as to the form of BC that OP unilaterally broke without informing the DH.  So many of you are saying that he is wrong because if he did not want kids, he should have taken steps.  In essence, you are saying that the DH should not have trusted that his wife would do what they agreed to do.  He should have realized that his wife is untrustworthy and deceitful?  So even if he did take steps like y'all suggest, how in the world could you even advocate that he should stay married to such an untrustworty and deceitful woman?  Yea, he needs to grow up and leave his lying ass wife!  Anyone with a brain can see that it is not about the son - who OP admits he clearly loves.  It is about being with a woman who deceived and duped him.  It is not about the kid, it is about the OP.  [/quote]

She did not purposely stop taking the pill to get pregnant she did not take them with the thought that there was no way she would get pregnant if she missed the pill 3 weeks out of 15 years.

I trust my H to pay the bills, I also know that when he is on travel, if I don't pay the credit card bill we will be charged a late fee, because he is not very diligent when he travels, I learned this after paying the late fee every time he travels.

The H expected his wife to be perfect and to never make an error in judgement, that is why he is the douche in this scenario.

After being on the pill a gazillion years I did not notify my H every time I missed one, or every time I was on antibiotics, or every time I threw up from the stomach flu after I took the pill, or every time I took it in the PM instead of the am, or when I change to a lower dose to try to help with bleeding issues. I never even thought about the pill when I took St. John's Wart. [/quote]

Sorry - we are not talking about paying a credit card bill.  We are talking about a life changer - becoming a parent.

I am not expecting the OP to be perfect at all.  I am expecting her to be open and honest with her DH.  If you and your DH agree about no kids, you and your DH agree on the BC, you miss taking the pill and you do not tell your DH OR insist on another form of BC during that time,  it is NOT "douchey" for him to be upset when you become pregnant. It is a natural consequence.  And that "error in judgment" can cause a reasonable person to lose trust in you.  [/quote]. +1. Op and her husband agreed on a form of birth control. She then chose not to take the pill for THREE weeks without telling him so he could make appropriate choices. He is not at fault here. This rests 100% on op and she needs to own it.[/quote]

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