Friends husband touched my butt

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Anonymous wrote:Look at all these people trying to gaslight OP. Would you be okay with a man doing the same thing to your daughters?

With what the OP described? It sounds pretty unavoidable in crowded environments.

No sexual satisfaction comes from brushing up against someone's butt in a crowded setting. Your mind is focused on just trying to get from one end of the room to the other.

Whatever, men try to cop a feel in crowds all the time. Happens everyday on the metro in every city around the world. They also try to hug you in the office and look down your shirt. Grabbing your hand and doing the hand tickle thing. wtf. Pervs are everywhere.

If you can't control your hands, I won't control my reflex to smack you upside your head.

What is the hand tickle thing?

PP's fantasy, apparently.

Honestly, I think people like this should make a stink. It would serve to warn others not to hang out with them.

Found the creep.

Cool. Just be sure to announce yourself so we can both avoid each other. Sorry if you stop getting invited to things.

You are welcome to party with your fellow perverts. Stay away from decent folks.

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Anonymous wrote:DH here: IMO, zero chance it was accidental. If I accidentally touched a woman’s butt in that way, I’d be mortified and immediately apologize to defuse the situation. Most likely this was an “accidentally on purpose” kind of deal; but I’m not sure there is much more you can do than avoid him in the future. People like this tend to be very well calibrated in terms of how far they can push the envelope without making it easy for people to call them out, he will no doubt respond with something like “OMG, i had no idea and totally didn’t mean to, just making my way through a crowded place, so sorry, etc. etc.”

What makes you so sure you would know if you touched a butt, back, side, or something else? Particularly if it was the side/outside of your hand.

Not a man, are you? You’re basically always aware/noticing when you’re in close proximity to a woman like that. And it if was enough for her to notice and react in this manner, he noticed as well. As Oliver Wendell Holmes once (supposedly) said, “Even a dog knows the difference between being tripped over and being kicked.” My hypothesis is that if it were truly inadvertent/accidental, OP might not have even registered it at all or would promptly have dismissed it. You can tell when someone innocently just brushes by you vs. when there is some intent.

Just like women have a way to "shut it all down?"

You can't tell other than going to: 1) brushing vs grabbing/cupping and 2) crowded vs uncrowded. Anything else is going to be guessing with your own biases at play.

And no, you can't tell what the back of your hand is feeling. Don't be ridiculous.

I’m not sure I quite follow the “shut it down” thing, but if you are saying that the only sensory data you receive when someone touches you is whether you are being brushed vs. grabbing/cupping, in kind of a binary sense, I just think that’s entirely wrong. I also think people are in general pretty good at inferring the intentions of other people from a lot of nuances that don’t rise to the level of conscious articulation. Perhaps your experience of the world is different.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you have a GREAT A$$!

Yes, a few photos from different angles might clear this up immediately.

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Anonymous wrote:DH here: IMO, zero chance it was accidental. If I accidentally touched a woman’s butt in that way, I’d be mortified and immediately apologize to defuse the situation. Most likely this was an “accidentally on purpose” kind of deal; but I’m not sure there is much more you can do than avoid him in the future. People like this tend to be very well calibrated in terms of how far they can push the envelope without making it easy for people to call them out, he will no doubt respond with something like “OMG, i had no idea and totally didn’t mean to, just making my way through a crowded place, so sorry, etc. etc.”

What makes you so sure you would know if you touched a butt, back, side, or something else? Particularly if it was the side/outside of your hand.

Not a man, are you? You’re basically always aware/noticing when you’re in close proximity to a woman like that. And it if was enough for her to notice and react in this manner, he noticed as well. As Oliver Wendell Holmes once (supposedly) said, “Even a dog knows the difference between being tripped over and being kicked.” My hypothesis is that if it were truly inadvertent/accidental, OP might not have even registered it at all or would promptly have dismissed it. You can tell when someone innocently just brushes by you vs. when there is some intent.

Man here and I agree with PP. There is absolutely no such thing as a man accidentally touching a woman's butt. Not with the palm of his hand, nt with the back of his hand. If I'm passing a woman in a crowded room where incidental body contact is necessary, my hands are not down at her butt level and I'm moving in a way that leaves no doubt we are only making contact so I can pass through the limited space. ALL MEN know this and know where their hands are at all times and it's not down by her butt. She should have quickly spun around and smacked him in the face. Not let him get away with it.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you have a GREAT A$$!

Yes, a few photos from different angles might clear this up immediately.

Agreed. Your hubby can chime in if he would like to let us know or submit pics.

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Anonymous wrote:DH here: IMO, zero chance it was accidental. If I accidentally touched a woman’s butt in that way, I’d be mortified and immediately apologize to defuse the situation. Most likely this was an “accidentally on purpose” kind of deal; but I’m not sure there is much more you can do than avoid him in the future. People like this tend to be very well calibrated in terms of how far they can push the envelope without making it easy for people to call them out, he will no doubt respond with something like “OMG, i had no idea and totally didn’t mean to, just making my way through a crowded place, so sorry, etc. etc.”

What makes you so sure you would know if you touched a butt, back, side, or something else? Particularly if it was the side/outside of your hand.

Not a man, are you? You’re basically always aware/noticing when you’re in close proximity to a woman like that. And it if was enough for her to notice and react in this manner, he noticed as well. As Oliver Wendell Holmes once (supposedly) said, “Even a dog knows the difference between being tripped over and being kicked.” My hypothesis is that if it were truly inadvertent/accidental, OP might not have even registered it at all or would promptly have dismissed it. You can tell when someone innocently just brushes by you vs. when there is some intent.

Man here and I agree with PP. There is absolutely no such thing as a man accidentally touching a woman's butt. Not with the palm of his hand, nt with the back of his hand. If I'm passing a woman in a crowded room where incidental body contact is necessary, my hands are not down at her butt level and I'm moving in a way that leaves no doubt we are only making contact so I can pass through the limited space. ALL MEN know this and know where their hands are at all times and it's not down by her butt. She should have quickly spun around and smacked him in the face. Not let him get away with it.

Thank you for this. Funny how men never accidentally graze a man’s a** or d*ck.

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Anonymous wrote:I would tell your husband and let DH confront him.

Men like this F around with women in ways they won’t with men.

Girlllll