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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH here:  IMO, zero chance it was accidental. If I accidentally touched a woman’s butt in that way, I’d be mortified and immediately apologize to defuse the situation. Most likely this was an “accidentally on purpose” kind of deal; but I’m not sure there is much more you can do than avoid him in the future.  People like this tend to be very well calibrated in terms of how far they can push the envelope without making it easy for people to call them out, he will no doubt respond with something like “OMG, i had no idea and totally didn’t mean to, just making my way through a crowded place, so sorry, etc. etc.”  [/quote]

What makes you so sure you would know if you touched a butt, back, side, or something else? Particularly if it was the side/outside of your hand.[/quote]

Not a man, are you?  You’re basically always aware/noticing when you’re in close proximity to a woman like that. And it if was enough for her to notice and react in this manner, he noticed as well. As Oliver Wendell Holmes once (supposedly) said, “Even a dog knows the difference between being tripped over and being kicked.”  My hypothesis is that if it were truly inadvertent/accidental, OP might not have even registered it at all or would promptly have dismissed it.  You can tell when someone innocently just brushes by you vs. when there is some intent.  [/quote]

Just like women have a way to "shut it all down?"

You can't tell other than going to: 1) brushing vs grabbing/cupping and 2) crowded vs uncrowded. Anything else is going to be guessing with your own biases at play.

And no, you can't tell what the back of your hand is feeling. Don't be ridiculous.[/quote]

I’m not sure I quite follow the “shut it down” thing, but if you are saying that the only sensory data you receive when someone touches you is whether you are being brushed vs. grabbing/cupping, in kind of a binary sense, I just think that’s entirely wrong. I also think people are in general pretty good at inferring the intentions of other people from a lot of nuances that don’t rise to the level of conscious articulation. Perhaps your experience of the world is different. [/quote]

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