ExDH marrying AP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re divorced. Stop letting him live rent free in your head.

Odds are this marriage won’t last.

+100
I hope so too, OP!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents divorced when I was 14. I have been married for 20 years. Honestly I don't care about the reasons that led to their divorce. They both took really good care of us, never spoke bad about each other, and at times it felt like my parents were still married because we never felt any tension between them while we were shutting back and forth. My dad had us Friday through Sunday, but during the week he would.take me and pick me up from swimming even though he lived 40 mins away from my mom. My dad made a lot of personal sacrifices. He only started dating when we went to college later telling us he waited because he didn't want anyone to ask him to split his time. My mom never dated and is still single and she is totally happy. We are just grateful we didn't have to go through any blending of families.

It certainly doesn’t sound like there was any infidelity here. People who cheat aren’t going to wait years and years to date.

My BIL was blindsided by a divorce from his ex. He's been single for 15 years. His youngest will go to college in a year. I hope he'll start dating then! But I know my nieces know how devoted he is to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents divorced when I was 14. I have been married for 20 years. Honestly I don't care about the reasons that led to their divorce. They both took really good care of us, never spoke bad about each other, and at times it felt like my parents were still married because we never felt any tension between them while we were shutting back and forth. My dad had us Friday through Sunday, but during the week he would.take me and pick me up from swimming even though he lived 40 mins away from my mom. My dad made a lot of personal sacrifices. He only started dating when we went to college later telling us he waited because he didn't want anyone to ask him to split his time. My mom never dated and is still single and she is totally happy. We are just grateful we didn't have to go through any blending of families.

It certainly doesn’t sound like there was any infidelity here. People who cheat aren’t going to wait years and years to date.

My BIL was blindsided by a divorce from his ex. He's been single for 15 years. His youngest will go to college in a year. I hope he'll start dating then! But I know my nieces know how devoted he is to them.

As someone who was blindsided, I get it. Ex was instantly planning remarriage and a do-over family, and my goal was to be the stable one for our kids. It’s not a sacrifice for me – I was married a long time and loved my ex, and dating still seems like too much work for likely disappointment. Also, getting spectacularly dumped doesn’t do much for the ego, but maybe I will reconsider when it’s just me at home. I hope your BIL finds happiness in what ever form works best for him.