So because *you* think it's normal that means it's normal??? |
Unless we’re talking about victims of abuse, of course it does. Btw, I will add that many kids who engage in early sex ARE victims of abuse. |
My experience was normal. Haven’t you read data on teen sex. It is highly uncommon for 14 year olds to have sex. They WILL be talked about at school. It WILL be humiliating. It is NOT something I would be “open” about as a parent. |
And when I say “open” I mean I wouldn’t be okay with it. My 15 year old and I are very open, lots of conversations, but we both think early sex is rather sad. |
+1 Plus birth control is both individuals' responsibility. If her bf is not wearing a condom, then he is trying to conceive. |
Is that true, or false? (or just your own personal opinion, PP). Let’s check. Luckily, the schools track this, and compile scientific statistical evidence: https://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/data/sites/data...fax_8_12th_final.pdf “ ranging from 2.4% of eighth‐grade students to 25.0% on of twelfth‐grade students. Male students were more likely to report having had sexual intercourse in their lifetime (12.3% compared to 11.4% of female students). ” So, PP, if you look at 10th graders (roughly age 14) , 33% had had sex nationally (ie - in America). Not exactly “highly uncommon.” You are wrong. But in local schools, it’s just 10%. A little closer to your “highly uncommon” opinion. Table 80. Percentage of Students Who Have Had Sexual Intercourse in Their Lifetime, by Grade, Fairfax County and U.S., 2013, 2015, 2017, 2019 and 2021 2013 FCPS USa 10th 16.1 41.4 2015 FCPS USa 13.9 35.7 2017 2019 2021 FCPS USa FCPS USa 14.1 36.2 14.3 33.6 (Values are percentages) FCPS USa Grade 12th 38.1 64.1 34.9 58.1 34.7 57.3 Note. All percentages were calculated from valid cases (missing responses were not included). aUS (national) data are from the Youth Risk Behavior Survey, which is conducted in odd‐numbered years only (CDC, n.d.; Kann et al., 2014, 2016, 2018). The national data are not available for 8th grade and are not comparable by gender or race/ethnicity. ‐‐ Youth Risk Behavior Survey data from the 2021 survey were not available at the time of this report.” By the way, PP : - in which country did you grow up? |
I grew up in America 🙄 what’s your point by asking? 14 year olds are 8th and 9th graders! Good lord. 10th graders are 15/16. |
Why would anyone think that it's normal or good for 14 year olds to have sex? |
Nobody thinks that. Rather, you need to acknowledge that they might have sex anyway, and if they do, you don’t want them to get pregnant or get an STD. |
I will repeat what PP said. Sex has nothing to do with morals. You make it that way in your head for various f-ed up reasons but it doesn't. |
Exactly! None of us are saying it's good for them to have sex at 14 FFS. We are just being realistic about the possibility that they might. They need to know about what happens when you have sex. |
What “anyone thinks is normal” is entirely irrelevant to what ACTUALLY occurring in our children’s schools. Go to Figure 80 at the link to the report on our schools, at the link above. BTW, the report also has info on local & national teens’ prevalence of oral sex, which some people believe *is* sex. It’s a government report. |
Sadly, the public lashing "fast" girls take is more immediate and devastating than sti or pregnancy, both of which can be dealt with easily. The social/emotional aftermath, not so much. |
and you are your daughter would be the first in line to do it. |
Nope. I was that 14yo who had sex with my "great" boyfriend, who then told everyone. He then started acting psycho and began abusing me. He later stalked me. This was in the late 80's before internet, cell phones and social media. Try to imagine how it would be in this day and age. |